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Am I weird?

Unread postby UndercoverLover » 4 February 2020, 03:08

So I have learned from experience that mostly everyone I've encountered here are very understanding and friendly, so I figured this forum would be the place to ask this. I kind of feel like an outcast to some.. Maybe because I don't know if there is a word to describe how I am, and sometimes when I try to describe it, some guys find it to be a turn off I guess:

Anyways, I'm masculine looking, sounding, etc. I like a lot of masculine hobbies. I'm mostly a bottom...not that it's necessarily a deal breaker because lots of guys like masculine bottoms. But I'm also submissive in a relationship. I prefer a more dominant man. I actually prefer when my man treats me the same way a heterosexual man is with a woman. Some guys have seemed to be turned off by this or not understand what I mean. I suppose it could be odd...being a big muscle guy who likes to be the little spoon in bed. I feel like a woman or emotionally as most women are made out to be by society. (sorry I'm having an EXTREMELY hard time explaining this) Sometimes I feel like I was born in the wrong body.. As I would be much better as a woman with masculine hobbies. Just having those type of mannerisms as a masculine guy is often seen as weird in my experiences. Unfortunately, I feel like I'd make a terrible looking woman as I feel like my voice is too deep, I feel like I'm too tall, and my body structure just doesn't have anything feminine about it. If I could, I'd be absolutely happy being a woman. (I'd still want my penis of course! Lol)

Sorry if anything came off as generalizing any group of people. I promise that's not what I meant at all. Just trying to give an idea of what I'm trying to explain although I feel like I totally failed at it lol. Is there a term for someone like me? Does this make me weird? Sorry for the long post.

Any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance! <3
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Re: Am I weird?

Unread postby rogonandi » 4 February 2020, 03:18

You aren’t weird. Everyone has their preferences. I don’t know what the ‘gay term’ for someone like you though. :)
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Re: Am I weird?

Unread postby Derek » 4 February 2020, 03:21

UndercoverLover wrote:So I have learned from experience that mostly everyone I've encountered here are very understanding and friendly

Yes, that is the feedback I usually get.

Is there a term for someone like me?

Non-binary, maybe? I mean, you like working out and being big and muscly, right? But you don't feel comfortable with how your gender affects how you're perceived sexually and emotionally.

I don't think being unusual is the same as being weird. I can't relate to the feeling of wishing I was a woman, or even thinking I could be happy as woman, but it doesn't sound like something weird or unreasonable.
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Re: Am I weird?

Unread postby Eryx » 4 February 2020, 05:58

That's the basic definition of a transvestite here in Brazil, something everyone separates from being simply trans. I don't think you need to change anything, just be open about it with people you meet and eventually someone will be into that same vibe and understand and take care of you. Relationships are hard in general, it's really rare to meet someone who checks all the boxes, but you'll find a top that sees you for what you're craving and who will treat you appropriately with how you identify yourself. If you feel like being more feminine in clothes and demeanor, just give it a try. It won't hurt anyone, as long as you're in an accepting enough place.
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Re: Am I weird?

Unread postby René » 4 February 2020, 10:40

I wouldn't jump on any "feeling like you should be a woman / were born in the wrong body / non-binary / transvestite" stuff from what you've described. If I was a top, I would honestly be all over you as a gay, male bottom. And when I watch porn, based on the photo you posted a while ago, you're basically the prime example of what I want the bottom to look like :awesome:

You're not weird at all!!!

I stand by what I've told you before: I think you're going to make someone really happy... being just the way you are. :3

If you want a term, how about "super-hot masculine bottom"? :P

I also wouldn't say the way you describe your demeanour is feminine... just submissive. I think this is an important distinction as, being a gay guy who's into guys who look like guys (e.g. you), actual feminine stuff (like wearing women's clothes and jewellery and using makeup) is a big turn-off, whereas someone like you being a sub / the "little spoon" etc. is fantastic. :keke:
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Re: Am I weird?

Unread postby Eryx » 4 February 2020, 15:23

Daaaaaaaaaaaaamn. I didn't remember that picture!
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Re: Am I weird?

Unread postby Revontulet » 4 February 2020, 23:41

This does not make you weird.

Sometimes creating a pattern or using a specific term may not be helpful: it could be logical to say you're maybe non-binary or gender non-conforming, but what if that doesn't define the way you actually feel?

You are who you are. Embrace, respect and appreciate yourself. Somebody to lean will eventually appear. Somebody who will fully accept the way you are.
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