Bi/Pan Thread

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What ARE you?!

I'm gay
12
52%
I'm gay, but have some attraction towards the opposite sex ("homoflexible")
3
13%
I'm bisexual
6
26%
I'm not bisexual/gay, but have some attraction towards the same sex ("heteroflexible")
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9%
I'm straight
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby GaySpacePirateKing » 3 February 2020, 01:09

Magic J wrote:If that got out of control, you'd create a never ending chain of boning! Nightmare.

I have an acquaintance who is poly, and she has a boyfriend and a girlfriend. Seems to work for her. Personally, I'm pretty inclined towards monogamy, since I'm a clingy bitch with attachment issues.


Its just a dream for me, I agree it would be difficult to make work and I am inclined towards monogamy too despite what I said earlier just because polygamy is bizarre in todays society. I wouldn't want it to be an excuse to be a fuckboy and I wouldn't want to feel used like that too.

I think if we could somehow overcome that though, respect each other, respect individual choice, stop wanting to own other people for ourselves and recognise that there are a lot of relationship arrangements people could come to and agree upon, then we would probably be living in a more free society.
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby Magic J » 3 February 2020, 01:15

Capt._Trips wrote:Now a question. As a gay guy ( directed at anybody) do you believe in bisexuality? I've always found bisexual people are just more open in general but ALWAYS prefer one sex. At least thats my experience.

Why sir, it fluctuates!

I haven't been keeping a diary, though, so I won't be able to run the numbers to find out which one comes out on top. :P

But yeah, it really depends on what sort of definition of "bisexual" you're using, I suppose. If you mean "one who is equally attracted to both men and women", then I contend that the definition quickly descends into absurdity once tested. However, to say that anybody who has ANY attraction, no matter how small, towards the sex they aren't typically attracted to is bisexual, also seems weird to me. I'd say that bisexuality is significant attraction towards both sexes, which naturally allows one to have a preference.

"Significant" is a fuzzy term, but we're dealing with people here, so it's as concrete as it's going to get. :lol:
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby GaySpacePirateKing » 3 February 2020, 01:29

Magic J wrote:If that got out of control, you'd create a never ending chain of boning! Nightmare.


Wonder what a MMFFF bisexual fivesome would be like! :lol:
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby Magic J » 3 February 2020, 01:35

GaySpacePirateKing wrote:
Magic J wrote:If that got out of control, you'd create a never ending chain of boning! Nightmare.


Wonder what a MMFFF bisexual fivesome would be like! :lol:

Good, clean fun, and a bloody good time.

I jest. I'd be unimaginably awkward.

Never even had a threesome. #notallbis
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby Derek » 3 February 2020, 01:43

I wonder if, when bi people say they prefer once sex, they mean they have a circumstantial preference based on their how their personality suits same-sex or opposite-sex relationships, or if they mean they have an innate, biological preference, such that their dick simply gets harder for one or the other. Like, maybe a bi guy likes hooking up with guys because it's easier and we give better head, but that's not exactly the same as preferring men, is it?
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby Eryx » 3 February 2020, 02:18

Yeah, I think it's really finicky and spectral. I feel as though there are people who, during a normal day, will find 7 guys and 3 women attractive on average, and that constitutes a preference. But then there's all kinds of questions -- what kind of men and women are they? How far are they willing to go, if the other person reciprocates? How do they feel about an actual relationship? It goes on and on.

Being bisexual must be quite the headache at first.
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby Magic J » 3 February 2020, 02:59

Derek wrote:Like, maybe a bi guy likes hooking up with guys because it's easier and we give better head, but that's not exactly the same as preferring men, is it?

Can confirm, men are a lot easier. Women tend to have higher standards.

For instance, I, a man of sorts, recently got with a guy who had a mullet.

Let that sink in.
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby rogonandi » 3 February 2020, 05:14

What’s the value of dating a woman if you’re also attracted to men? Is it to avoid loneliness? Is it to seem more normal to other people in society? Is it to get an ornament to stroke the ego?
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby Eryx » 3 February 2020, 05:54

I'm pretty sure it has something to do with liking the girl and just enjoying being with her? I might be wrong though :shrug:
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby Magic J » 3 February 2020, 05:57

rogonandi wrote:What’s the value of dating a woman if you’re also attracted to men? Is it to avoid loneliness? Is it to seem more normal to other people in society? Is it to get an ornament to stroke the ego?

I'm... not entirely sure I understand your first question. I'll try to answer to the best of my abilities.

Dating anybody, regardless of sex, is in part an attempt to curb loneliness. This is a universal surely?

I'm not particularly bothered about being seen as normal. I work with a bunch of total weirdos, and everyone seems to get on fine.

No, I don't value women as "an ornament to stroke my ego", since I like to think of women as people.
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby Magic J » 3 February 2020, 05:58

Eryx wrote:I'm pretty sure it has something to do with liking the girl and just enjoying being with her? I might be wrong though :shrug:

This is indeed the rudimentals. :P
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby rogonandi » 3 February 2020, 06:06

Eryx wrote:I'm pretty sure it has something to do with liking the girl and just enjoying being with her? I might be wrong though :shrug:

Thinking about that, maybe that guy should just stick to women if he can have that with her. He can have the ‘correct’ kind of life. :usa: ;)
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby Magic J » 3 February 2020, 06:32

But I just started hitting it off with a guy I met last weekend. He will be DEVISTATED. :(

I must say, you are OLD SCHOOL in your bi slagging. I admire that.
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby rogonandi » 3 February 2020, 07:22

Magic J wrote:But I just started hitting it off with a guy I met last weekend. He will be DEVISTATED. :(

I must say, you are OLD SCHOOL in your bi slagging. I admire that.

Oh don’t worry. I’m just needling for fun. :lol:
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby Magic J » 3 February 2020, 07:47

Goddammit, you got me. :lol:
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby René » 3 February 2020, 13:46

Magic J wrote:

Aww :heart:

Great, now I can't get this song out of my head :runaway:
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby René » 3 February 2020, 18:27

I hope you bis are being careful not to get cooties!!!
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby GaySpacePirateKing » 3 February 2020, 19:15

Magic J wrote:#notallbis


Yeah I get that. I seem to turn a lot of discussions about bisexuality on here into discussions about non-monogamy. Guess I should answer your questions then.

I don't think I am bi as I am predominantly sexually attracted to guys, not really to women. I've never had sex with women before though and well I'd like to just to know how it feels. I can sometimes be sexually attracted to women but I often need to make some conscious effort to recognise what is sexually appealing about them. I've considered that I may have more of a sexual attraction towards sex with women and towards guys having sex with women than towards women themselves - which if so then I dont think I am comfortable with as its sort of viewing women as objects of mens lust and desire.

Romantically I think I can be attracted to women and if I was fond of a girl who also liked me a lot then it would be a shame to turn her down because I am more sexually attracted to men, maybe sexual feelings towards her might develop.

Then at other times I find it difficult to see myself in a relationship with either a guy or a girl as if either would feel odd to me.
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby Jzone » 4 February 2020, 00:30

Judging by these posts and similar ones from the past, I must be a rarity. I am about as 50/50 bi as you can imagine.

When I was a teen I spent more time fantasizing about guys, but I think that had more to do with it being forbidden fruit, if you know what I mean, and that straight porn was more easily available. These were the dark, pre-internet days when I had to hope to discover a porn magazine misplaced by an older friend or relative. Those were gold.

I am equally attracted to men and women, and for different reasons — beyond just a cock or cunt. It's more energetic, or a matter of personality traits that tend to go with the sexes. Going by the numbers can be confusing. If you count sexual partners, I have had more men than women. If you count sexual encounters, I have had more with women than men. I don't try to interpret a preference from that.

Even more complicated is when you live in a small town, break up with a guy, go out with a woman, then all end up at the same bar or party at the same time. I think a wiser man once said — keep your girlfriends close, and your ex-boyfriends closer. Then there is the famous bi toast — to our wives and boyfriends, may they never meet. I still prefer to share my bed with one complication at a time.
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Re: Bi/Pan Thread

Unread postby Revontulet » 4 February 2020, 02:26

Some of you guys are bisexual, so why not having a legit topic like this.

Now, long story short: I was a teen into guys and girls. She was a teen into guys and girls. We were a couple for a while. The end. We are still good friends after all these years. I still think women are beautiful and sexy, but that's not how the things work for me anymore.

Are most bi guys only sexually attracted to other guys is a good question. I know some bisexual guys who are married (M+F), but they have this need to cheat their spouses by seeking other guys just for sex. Some others told me, however, that they can be involved with others both emotionally and sexually.

GaySpacePirateKing wrote:MMFFF bisexual fivesome

... and if we talk about "being in the middle of things", that sounds like a real challenge... if you know what I mean. :lol:

Also, my one of my favorite singers is bisexual, but I believe her point of view in terms of monogamy and relationships is a bit different, considering this statement: "I like women, I like men, I like combinations", or like she described in this song:


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