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Do you think that I am physically vulnerable around this man?

Unread postby Jim00 » 30 April 2021, 18:24

I have been flirting with a man who I am a little bit familiar with for a while now, and one thing that I have always been conscious about is our size difference.
I am 6'0 and quite slender without any particularly noticeable muscle build, whereas he is about 6'10 and has been working out for several years, and he is almost 100 lbs heavier than me.

I was just wondering, how much of a difference do you think that this makes in terms of having the physical "upper hand"?
I am wondering partly because I would like to know how careful I should be of being alone with him.
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Re: Do you think that I am physically vulnerable around this man?

Unread postby betonhaus » 1 May 2021, 03:06

Does he seem like an aggressive overconfident man?
I get the feeling that the taller someone is the more calm they are and the more cautious they get about trying to avoid hurting people around them, but I don't see that as an absolute rule for all guys. It's possible that he is naturally confident with charisma that wold make anyone putty in his hands, but based on the description I have no guess if he would be malicious or sensitive.
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Re: Do you think that I am physically vulnerable around this man?

Unread postby Jim00 » 1 May 2021, 04:28

He doesn't seem aggressive to me;
however, I am mostly wondering how much of a strength difference that there would probably be between us.

Apart from the fact that he is about 10 inches taller than me, he also has shoulders that are maybe about 5 inches wider than mine, as well as upper arms that are maybe about twice as thick as my upper arms.
All of these things make me feel constantly aware of our size difference.
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Re: Do you think that I am physically vulnerable around this man?

Unread postby betonhaus » 1 May 2021, 05:03

Hmm, if you're not his first rodeo he probably knows how to be careful. I can't imagine him getting that big and strong without learning how to control it so he doesn't hurt others. You probably couldn't push him off if he lies on top of you but you aren't made of eggshells.
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Re: Do you think that I am physically vulnerable around this man?

Unread postby Eryx » 2 May 2021, 13:16

That's a silly concern, unless he's shown signs that he's overbearing. If people really had to get concerned about that every time they got into a relationship, women would be really out of luck.

Pay attention to behavior and actions, not the guy's size, for fuck's sake.
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