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Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby jv00558900 » 1 December 2018, 06:45

Why is it that I see more and more open and polyamorous relationships? Does monogamy not exist in the gay community anymore?
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Re: Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby Brenden » 1 December 2018, 07:05

My husband and I have been married and monogamous for 8 years.
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Re: Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby Satsuma » 1 December 2018, 07:15

Yes of course it does :P
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Re: Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby BlackBoi666 » 1 December 2018, 07:19

rarely, in my experience. I gave up on monogamy ages ago. Although, I do wish you luck in monogamy though.
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Re: Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby PopTart » 1 December 2018, 16:01

At the place I work there is a gay couple, they've been together for since the mid 90's and while they flirt outrageously with alot of the guys, they have never been unfaithful to eachother from what they tell me and I'm inclined to believe them.

I've never cheated on a partner, nor sought a poly dynamic, not sure i could do it.

So yeah, I think monogamy is more than a type of wood :D

In alot of gay peoples minds. I think alot of gay guys actually want or prefer monogamy. The perception just happens to be, that we don't.
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Re: Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby bubbling_over » 1 December 2018, 16:30

It definitely exists!
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Re: Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby rogonandi » 2 December 2018, 01:23

Yes of course it exists, but open relationships and poly relationships are fine as well.
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Re: Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby Eryx » 2 December 2018, 14:11

I'm kind of giving up on the idea of a monogamous relationship that lasts until death does them part, but I am only monogamous and don't feel comfortable with open relationships or poly. Threesomes are a nice way to spice things up, but that has to be something both people want and everything should be shared. Well, at least that's the way I do things. I agree people are becoming more and more into the less "strict" way to do it.
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Re: Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 3 December 2018, 05:02

Definitely does exist, yet it seems rather a rare thing, at least among what I have encountered in couples so far, and what they told. Some seem to get along better, if they live open relationship. I think both to be kewl as long as people do it by consensus and in harmony.

I think there would be more monogamy to be chosen, if people wouldn't be single for life, among those that are looking out, but don't find a willing partner, or are not found by their one.
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Re: Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby Crisis_Jay » 3 December 2018, 13:57

I was in a monogamous relationship for a long time. There was a point early on when we'd both get jealous if we saw one or the other talking to a good looking guy, so the idea of seeing other people wasn't something we considered.

I also live in an area where you don't run into openly gay people hardly ever and we basically settled for each other, so maybe it's a bad example. I probably would have found someone else if there were since we weren't very compatible to begin with, but I'd never cheat on anyone and the idea of an open relationship doesn't do much for me. I'd rather not have to wrap myself in cellophane worrying if I'm going to catch something because he's been bed hopping.
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Re: Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 3 December 2018, 19:03

I mean, it exists, sure. Blue lobsters technically exist.
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Re: Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby Szymonnikt » 3 December 2018, 19:27

I hope it exists because I cannot imagine myself in an open relationship. :cry:

:heart: Love for someone special is a cool concept. :heart:
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Re: Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby Satsuma » 4 December 2018, 10:13

Szymonnikt wrote:I hope it exists because I cannot imagine myself in an open relationship. :cry:

:heart: Love for someone special is a cool concept. :heart:


I don't think I could be in an open relationship either. I certainly wouldn't want to be.

Some people like it or are okay with it but it's not for me.
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Re: Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby erti » 4 December 2018, 10:17

as much as i am open to an open relationship... i think i'd rather be in a monogamous relationship.
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Re: Does monogamy exist in the gay community?

Unread postby Felice » 4 December 2018, 10:27

Zoop wrote:
Szymonnikt wrote:I hope it exists because I cannot imagine myself in an open relationship. :cry:

:heart: Love for someone special is a cool concept. :heart:


I don't think I could be in an open relationship either. I certainly wouldn't want to be.

Some people like it or are okay with it but it's not for me.

Same here :)

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