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Friends with same intrest, why is this so hard???

Unread postby Comfortablydiscreet » 3 October 2019, 18:53

It's amazing to me how hard it's been to find other like minded men to hang out with to simply have a beer and watch a football game or whatever. The only places I ever meet men of similar interest is on a dating or hookup site and that's all they want is the one time.
I'm discreet and havent come out but to a few close people. I'd love to hang out casually with a few guys and play cards have a few beers being myself. I'm not wanting to go to a gay bar to find people. Any everyday life suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read my thoughts.
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Re: Friends with same intrest, why is this so hard???

Unread postby Eryx » 3 October 2019, 20:23

No easy solution, I guess finding gay groups in your area? Most guys are going to only want to hook-up and disappear, that's what we have to deal with to eventually meet an actual match. If you're not willing to go to gay bars or clubs to meet guys, then it makes things harder. But not impossible! Good luck.
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Unread postby Bookmark » 3 October 2019, 21:40

I've used the Meet Ups site in the past to look for groups based around activities I enjoy. You could check that out and see if there are any groups in your area that catch your eye. There are all sorts of social groups on there covering a huge range of activities and hobbies. There are many specifically tailored for gay men.
I've been to several hill-walking and meditation meet ups. It's a great way to meet new people and socialise, whilst doing something you enjoy.
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Unread postby Comfortablydiscreet » 3 October 2019, 21:46

Thank you ,thats great advice. Really appreciated
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Unread postby Jryski » 4 October 2019, 00:22

I honestly don't think it's that hard to find guys that enjoy beer and football. Just download grindr or something and write down exactly what youre looking for. If people message you other stuff block em. Make sure they know what it is you're looking for before you agree to meet.
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Re: Friends with same intrest, why is this so hard???

Unread postby Jryski » 4 October 2019, 19:06

^bish wut?
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 4 October 2019, 20:15

Jryski wrote:I honestly don't think it's that hard to find guys that enjoy beer and football. Just download grindr or something and write down exactly what youre looking for. If people message you other stuff block em. Make sure they know what it is you're looking for before you agree to meet.


I find it much more convenient to go to Hi Tops, a gay sports bar. It has 24 screens of which they use 4x4 for special sports events. On a busy night even if you strike out you at least bumped into a bunch of other gay guys. Can't get that on Grindr LoL.
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Unread postby Eryx » 4 October 2019, 22:14

Lol the name of that bar is so hilarious
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 4 October 2019, 23:04

One of their slogans is "cold pitchers and hot catchers". Well the beer is cold and the staff is pretty hot for the most part. Not so much the announcer on Trivia Night. I guess they have to have their token meh kind of guy. One of the bar tenders got married a week ago so cool for him.

On Sunday I got a guy's number there. Turns out he lives in one of the adjacent towns by me in the suburbs. My RBI in bars is improving.
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Unread postby Eryx » 5 October 2019, 10:15

I'm glad & jealous. We lack blondes.
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