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Unread postby dicksonllee » 2 January 2019, 06:17

Seems like bully is a common theme associated with coming out stories. I'm sorry you all have to go through all that. :hug:
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Re: How did you know that you're gay? And how well did you accept that

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 2 January 2019, 11:49

Crisis_Jay wrote:Mine are also prejudice against blacks, but only show it in private of course. They're the typical type of what I imagine when I think of Trump supporters (they fucking love him and get angry as hell if you talk trash about him). They put on a public facade of being ok with everyone, but on the inside they're bigoted and intolerant and I really don't think that will ever change no matter how many black acquaintances they have.

(...) When that sort of thing is ingrained in you from birth I imagine it stays with you forever. I don't believe some people have the mental capacity nor are willing to analyze their thoughts and try to understand the world around them and change their views.


Take that and write "fags" instead of "blacks" or PoC and you would have how my old folks are. Were, since Mum died last summer.
I think it would depend on age and personality, but true on the ingrained part. They'd never question their prime directive, their religious script, so to say. Mum, too, would quit watching her beloved TV-Shows if there was someone coming out as a lesbian or gay. There was one show she would watch every time, some young fellow inviting old ladies to have coffee and chitchat. She thought that's such a sweet man. And after he had come out, she ignored the show. She was angry even. How could they not speak up on having that pervert in the show, she would say.
It's a village-disease, too. People live far inland, in the early times they never got out to see the world. It's like being bushed-in for too long a time.
And in some, the remnants of a Nazi spawned thinking remained, mixed with dark age religious spirits.
One has to lock oneself away to survive that. I think that's why so many gays and lesbians just run away from home if they turn teen ages. Those, that don't commit suicide.
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Re: How did you know that you're gay? And how well did you accept that

Unread postby mastmck » 2 January 2019, 23:24

When I was in middle school I was attracted to girls but when I started high school I noticed that I was looking at more boys than I was girls, so I suspected I might be gay but didn't want to accept it so I tried to hide it and half way through the first year of high school I started to have a crush on a boy in my class who I was also staying in the sleeping blocks with so I repressed them.
After that year in high school I changed schools to pursue a specific course but I still kept looking at boys more than girls and still felt the same feelings for my friend so I kept repressing my feelings still not having accepted that I was gay. At the end of high school I got a girlfriend, she liked me but the feeling was platonic as I was hoping that I would feel something for her but the only thing that changed for me was that she sent from being a friend to me feeling more like she was a sister, so after high school I started to accept that I was gay, I explained my situation to her and we agreed to split up but we now have a brother / sister relationship.
It's now been 4 years since me and my friend from high school haven't seen each other and I still feel the same way about him and on the 30th of December he posted some rainbow flags on his Facebook page so I thought that he was coming out as being gay, so I asked him about it on messenger and he told me that he wasn't gay, it was just a joke.
All I could think to say was "shame I was so hopeful" to which he answered "sorry. I didn't even realise you are gay", I answered "that's because you're the first person I've come out to".
So I have come out to 1 friend and that is all so far as I have no idea how to come out to my family not knowing how they'll react.
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Re: How did you know that you're gay? And how well did you accept that

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 6 January 2019, 08:44

SuckmeChris1 wrote:I just found out I was gay. Please come over any time, day or night or graveyard. XXXX Xxxxxxxxx Road, Unit X, XXXXX. I’m ready for you ANYTIME. Love, Chris


Another one who can't await his flat getting robbed. What is wrong with you people?
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Re: How did you know that you're gay? And how well did you accept that

Unread postby Brenden » 6 January 2019, 08:46

GearFetTwinkRomance wrote:
SuckmeChris1 wrote:I just found out I was gay. Please come over any time, day or night or graveyard. XXXX Xxxxxxxxx Road, Unit X, XXXXX. I’m ready for you ANYTIME. Love, Chris


Another one who can't await his flat getting robbed. What is wrong with you people?

It’s the same one. :crazy: Used a proxy to get past a ban just to post his address again.
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Re: How did you know that you're gay? And how well did you accept that

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 6 January 2019, 09:10

Brenden wrote:
GearFetTwinkRomance wrote:
SuckmeChris1 wrote:I just found out I was gay. Please come over any time, day or night or graveyard. XXXX Xxxxxxxxx Road, Unit X, XXXXX. I’m ready for you ANYTIME. Love, Chris


Another one who can't await his flat getting robbed. What is wrong with you people?

It’s the same one. :crazy: Used a proxy to get past a ban just to post his address again.


I see. So they're probably just random bots like those that show up in any forum or guestbook they can find on the web.
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Re: How did you know that you're gay? And how well did you accept that

Unread postby mxguy01 » 7 January 2019, 19:46

It would also be kind of silly to assume it is actually his address...

People can't be that dumb. Well I guess they can but I don't normally just assume that.
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Re: How did you know that you're gay? And how well did you accept that

Unread postby Toddo » 7 January 2019, 23:43

I've always kind of known... In middle school I gave head for the first time and thats really where I thought to myself I might be gay cuz I liked it...

When I got to high school I denied it like crazy because I was one of the more popular kids and I hung around people who would bully gay kids, just to get the group to laugh... I laughed but I never really wanted to... I laughed cuz I was hiding my true self... There was one situation where I wasn't laughing and my friends we're asking why, and kept telling me he must be gay cuz he's not laughing.... So i went up to a gay kid took his hat and threw it up on the roof of the school building... My friends start laughing at him...The kid literally walked away rubbing his eyes...I felt like shit, but it was me just trying to hide who I was...(but my last year of high school I did make it up to him ;) ) I'd go home almost every night look at gay porn and after I was done I would feel so guilty and shameful... I would tell myself I'm not gay I'll grow out of this everytime...

I eventually didn't start accepting who I was until I was out of high school... About 20ish I started to feel okay about loving another guy... I dunno exactly how I flipped the switched to finally start accepting it but I did, maybe it was because I saw more people be accepting of gay people in general on TV and on social media...

4 years later May 6th, 2018 I came out to my best friend... Three days later joined GFO, and encouraged me even further to come out to everyone I know... Couldn't be more proud and happy that I had the courage to finally accept who I am!
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Re: How did you know that you're gay? And how well did you accept that

Unread postby mxguy01 » 7 January 2019, 23:54

^ Always cool to hear the story...
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Re: How did you know that you're gay? And how well did you accept that

Unread postby style » 10 January 2019, 21:53

I did not know I was for a long time till high school, I just assumed all my peers had feelings for their same sex teachers, no idea it was a taboo, nor there was a name for it. I know it sounds like I'd been living under a rock when, in reality, I was just a bit more introverted so I preserved my unusual thoughts to myself.

But I'm still surprised how it never came to be noticed by my parents or teachers till that point. You could say I was pretty darn lucky for that! :lol:

Speaking of bully, I've been picked up on as I've always been more feminine, not like 90 degree angle wrist or swing of hips, but more along the lines of caring, nurturing and always gentle as a breeze, avoiding fist fights which were the definition of boyhood where I grew up.
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