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How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby Gay-paul » 4 December 2018, 21:35

How is that some fit gay felt in fat one, even they could have any other boyfriend, the same goes for a heterosexual couple how is that some cute good looking girl want to have a relationship with a fat dude and vice versa :D
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Re: How is that some fit gay felt in fat one, even they could have any

Unread postby PopTart » 4 December 2018, 21:36

Because maybe appearance really isn't everything? Maybe for some people, it's as much about or more about, who that person is? Not how good they look standing next to you.
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Re: How is that some fit gay felt in fat one, even they could have any

Unread postby erti » 4 December 2018, 21:39

ain't there a community called bears where larger and hairier gay men?
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Re: How is that some fit gay felt in fat one, even they could have any

Unread postby Szymonnikt » 4 December 2018, 21:43

Really simple. An attraction is a base on more than just looks. It depends on someone energy he spreads, behavior, personal taste, intelligence and matching core values.
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Re: How is that some fit gay felt in fat one, even they could have any

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 4 December 2018, 22:25

I can buy that some people genuinely are attracted to larger bodies, even if they're not the majority. I'm not but some people are.

I've seen a couple of people who almost have this thing, it's not a "fetish" per se but it's something they like. I've seen muscular gym-fit dudes who will "take on" a less healthy partner as a sort of "project", and transform them into their counterpart by getting them into the gym. Some men do that, it's not common but I've seen it. (Damn I'd love to find one who would do that for me haha)

Also some people don't base attraction on looks alone, as the others said. Tbh most women don't, women pick partners based on the total package of looks, personality, money and lifestyle rather than just/mostly on looks alone like men generally tend to.

I do have standards when it comes to looks and I'm unapologetic about that. However that's not to say you have to look like a model. You could be reasonably attractive in an average kind of way and be more attractive to me than a model-looking dude, if the overall vibe that you exude is attractive to me. You could have abs and the most beautiful face, but if you're a psycho, possessive, no charisma-having or you're broke then I'm not really interested.
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Re: How is that some fit gay felt in fat one, even they could have any

Unread postby Szymonnikt » 4 December 2018, 22:41

Yeauxleaux wrote:I can buy that some people genuinely are attracted to larger bodies, even if they're not the majority. I'm not but some people are.

I've seen a couple of people who almost have this thing, it's not a "fetish" per se but it's something they like. I've seen muscular gym-fit dudes who will "take on" a less healthy partner as a "project", and transform them into their counterpart by getting them into the gym. Some men do that, it's not common but I've seen it. (Damn I'd love to find one who would do that for me haha)

Also some people don't base attraction on looks alone, as the others said. Tbh most women don't, women pick partners based on the total package of looks, personality, money and lifestyle rather than just/mostly on looks alone like men generally tend to.

I do have standards when it comes to looks and I'm unapologetic about that. However that's not to say you have to look like a model. You could be reasonably attractive in an average kind of way and be more attractive to me than a model-looking dude, if the overall vibe that you exude is attractive to me. You could have abs and the most beautiful face, but if you're a psycho, possessive, no charisma-having or you're broke then I'm not really interested.


What you mention its just having standards. It's normal and healthy things to have.
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Re: How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby lightnight » 9 December 2018, 13:45

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Re: How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby Felice » 9 December 2018, 14:08

You know there are people who are attracted to Overweight men ..right ?

I mean when i was my heaviest ..Few years ago After being depressed and resorted to "Food therpy" ..I gain ALOT ...maybe 2 stones I lost them Thank God, but Even then there are men who not only wanted me Fat ..But even begged to be with me ....And 2 even Looked Like this
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When i asked them why .. i don't really Feel good about how i look,they said "NO ..You are sexy this way" ...Then again they had some STRANGE Fat Fetish ...which is why i didn't really engage in it .I'm not gonna be overweight just to Fit their Feitsh Gross ..

So really don't let it fool you that fat people can't pull men like this cuz There are ALOT who like the way they look ..As long as you look Good and take care of your looks EVEN when you are overweight, people will notice you . :thumbsup:
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Re: How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby PopTart » 9 December 2018, 14:23

Felice wrote:You know there are people who are attracted to Overweight men ..right ?

I mean when i was my heaviest ..Few years ago After being depressed and resorted to "Food therpy" ..I gain ALOT ...maybe 2 stones I lost them Thank God, but Even then there are men who not only wanted me Fat ..But even begged to be with me ....And 2 even Looked Like this
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When i asked them why .. i don't really Feel good about how i look,they said "NO ..You are sexy this way" ...Then again they had some STRANGE Fat Fetish ...which is why i didn't really engage in it .I'm not gonna be overweight just to Fit their Feitsh Gross ..

So really don't let it fool you that fat people can't pull men like this cuz There are ALOT who like the way they look ..As long as you look Good and take care of your looks EVEN when you are overweight, people will notice you . :thumbsup:

See, that guy, he doesn't appeal to me, like at all! :blargh:

Too much :shrug:
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Re: How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby Felice » 9 December 2018, 14:30

PopTart wrote:
Felice wrote:You know there are people who are attracted to Overweight men ..right ?

I mean when i was my heaviest ..Few years ago After being depressed and resorted to "Food therpy" ..I gain ALOT ...maybe 2 stones I lost them Thank God, but Even then there are men who not only wanted me Fat ..But even begged to be with me ....And 2 even Looked Like this
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When i asked them why .. i don't really Feel good about how i look,they said "NO ..You are sexy this way" ...Then again they had some STRANGE Fat Fetish ...which is why i didn't really engage in it .I'm not gonna be overweight just to Fit their Feitsh Gross ..

So really don't let it fool you that fat people can't pull men like this cuz There are ALOT who like the way they look ..As long as you look Good and take care of your looks EVEN when you are overweight, people will notice you . :thumbsup:

See, that guy, he doesn't appeal to me, like at all! :blargh:

Too much :shrug:

he is not my type either ..I'm just saying that ..THE stereotype that fat men can't have men like him ..is really outdated ..
tho some of my friends online where like NOOOO he is HOT. I mean i really have no problem in dating men like him .. or even slightly chubby .. Depends on the person in the End .
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Re: How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby azgayguy » 9 December 2018, 18:11

I am fat and I get plenty of sex. Even guys like him who wont give me the time of day outside a bath house will pound me in one when the other hotties are being prissy little bitches. I don't care what you look like, I will put my legs in the air for you. I would let Quasimodo do me if he has a nice cock, can get it hard and will wear a condom.
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Re: How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby Gay-paul » 9 December 2018, 18:19

azgayguy wrote:I am fat and I get plenty of sex. Even guys like him who wont give me the time of day outside a bath house will pound me in one when the other hotties are being prissy little bitches. I don't care what you look like, I will put my legs in the air for you. I would let Quasimodo do me if he has a nice cock, can get it hard and will wear a condom.


LOL :D
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Re: How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby BlackBoi666 » 9 December 2018, 18:30

Gay-paul wrote:How is that some fit gay felt in fat one, even they could have any other boyfriend, the same goes for a heterosexual couple how is that some cute good looking girl want to have a relationship with a fat dude and vice versa :D

because they're so cuddly, and soft. perfect pillow material.
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Re: How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 10 December 2018, 00:15

Felice wrote:You know there are people who are attracted to Overweight men ..right ?

I mean when i was my heaviest ..Few years ago After being depressed and resorted to "Food therpy" ..I gain ALOT ...maybe 2 stones I lost them Thank God, but Even then there are men who not only wanted me Fat ..But even begged to be with me ....And 2 even Looked Like this
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When i asked them why .. i don't really Feel good about how i look,they said "NO ..You are sexy this way" ...Then again they had some STRANGE Fat Fetish ...which is why i didn't really engage in it .I'm not gonna be overweight just to Fit their Feitsh Gross ..
I think all of that was a great post, but this part of it I think is important. There's some people in the "body positivity!" camp who make arguments like "we shouldn't lose weight to attract people!" and how "attractiveness shouldn't be tied to body type". Sometimes it is THESE people who are the ones who reduce the entire obesity discussion down to "looks", when in reality you should first and foremost want to lose weight for yourself, if you genuinely don't want to be fat anyway.

I'm not going to say it's every fat person, some really are confident and that's great, but I think with some people this "confident big girl" or "big guy" persona is display a false confidence. We know it is, it's transparent as hell. If it wasn't these people wouldn't be bitching all the time. There's a difference between someone like Dexter Mayfield, who pretends he is confident and thinks "fat is beautiful" in one breath but then exalts typical model-looking dudes as "eye candy" on his Instagram page, as opposed to the gay "bear" community who really do celebrate being larger gruff gay men and they usually date other men who look like that. Even if it's not my thing, I actually respect the latter.

Also I agree the muscular guy in that photo... he's pushing a bit too muscular. I will say I'm still attracted to him but there is definitely such thing as "too muscular". I'm not into the steroid-y look, or when a guy is so ripped he has veins popping out everywhere.
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Re: How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby rogonandi » 10 December 2018, 06:16

Yeauxleaux wrote:I'm not going to say it's every fat person, some really are confident and that's great, but I think with some people this "confident big girl" or "big guy" persona is display a false confidence. We know it is, it's transparent as hell. If it wasn't these people wouldn't be bitching all the time. There's a difference between someone like Dexter Mayfield, who pretends he is confident and thinks "fat is beautiful" in one breath but then exalts typical model-looking dudes as "eye candy" on his Instagram page, as opposed to the gay "bear" community who really do celebrate being larger gruff gay men and they usually date other men who look like that. Even if it's not my thing, I actually respect the latter.


Yes, broadcasting your confidence is usually a sign that you're not confident. Actions speak louder than words anyway, like wearing a speedo at the swimming pool. :D
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Re: How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 10 December 2018, 17:55

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Yeauxleaux wrote:I'm not going to say it's every fat person, some really are confident and that's great, but I think with some people this "confident big girl" or "big guy" persona is display a false confidence. We know it is, it's transparent as hell. If it wasn't these people wouldn't be bitching all the time. There's a difference between someone like Dexter Mayfield, who pretends he is confident and thinks "fat is beautiful" in one breath but then exalts typical model-looking dudes as "eye candy" on his Instagram page, as opposed to the gay "bear" community who really do celebrate being larger gruff gay men and they usually date other men who look like that. Even if it's not my thing, I actually respect the latter.


Yes, broadcasting your confidence is usually a sign that you're not confident. Actions speak louder than words anyway, like wearing a speedo at the swimming pool. :D


The only problem that I have with guys wearing speedos is that the ones wearing them are generally don't have the body type you want to see in one.
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Re: How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby Felice » 10 December 2018, 19:14

Yeauxleaux wrote:Also I agree the muscular guy in that photo... he's pushing a bit too muscular. I will say I'm still attracted to him but there is definitely such thing as "too muscular". I'm not into the steroid-y look, or when a guy is so ripped he has veins popping out everywhere.
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The thing is i'm not saying he is Not good looking ,at least the one i talked to was Really handsome, This one too.
But I don't care Much about body as much as i care about the face and mannerism . And i don't care if he was muscular ,Bodybuilder , Overweight ..Just be healthy and take care of your looks that's it ..
I care more about face then body .. But then again i have a type that always win so :P
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Re: How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby rogonandi » 10 December 2018, 19:17

mxguy01 wrote:
rogonandi wrote:
Yeauxleaux wrote:I'm not going to say it's every fat person, some really are confident and that's great, but I think with some people this "confident big girl" or "big guy" persona is display a false confidence. We know it is, it's transparent as hell. If it wasn't these people wouldn't be bitching all the time. There's a difference between someone like Dexter Mayfield, who pretends he is confident and thinks "fat is beautiful" in one breath but then exalts typical model-looking dudes as "eye candy" on his Instagram page, as opposed to the gay "bear" community who really do celebrate being larger gruff gay men and they usually date other men who look like that. Even if it's not my thing, I actually respect the latter.


Yes, broadcasting your confidence is usually a sign that you're not confident. Actions speak louder than words anyway, like wearing a speedo at the swimming pool. :D


The only problem that I have with guys wearing speedos is that the ones wearing them are generally don't have the body type you want to see in one.


That’s just your own preference though. I love seeing them on any body. :thumbsupwink:
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Re: How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 10 December 2018, 19:40

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rogonandi wrote:
Yeauxleaux wrote:I'm not going to say it's every fat person, some really are confident and that's great, but I think with some people this "confident big girl" or "big guy" persona is display a false confidence. We know it is, it's transparent as hell. If it wasn't these people wouldn't be bitching all the time. There's a difference between someone like Dexter Mayfield, who pretends he is confident and thinks "fat is beautiful" in one breath but then exalts typical model-looking dudes as "eye candy" on his Instagram page, as opposed to the gay "bear" community who really do celebrate being larger gruff gay men and they usually date other men who look like that. Even if it's not my thing, I actually respect the latter.


Yes, broadcasting your confidence is usually a sign that you're not confident. Actions speak louder than words anyway, like wearing a speedo at the swimming pool. :D


The only problem that I have with guys wearing speedos is that the ones wearing them are generally don't have the body type you want to see in one.


That’s just your own preference though. I love seeing them on any body. :thumbsupwink:

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Re: How do fit guys go for fat ones, even though they could have any?

Unread postby rogonandi » 10 December 2018, 19:55

poolerboy0077 wrote:
rogonandi wrote:
mxguy01 wrote:
rogonandi wrote:
Yeauxleaux wrote:I'm not going to say it's every fat person, some really are confident and that's great, but I think with some people this "confident big girl" or "big guy" persona is display a false confidence. We know it is, it's transparent as hell. If it wasn't these people wouldn't be bitching all the time. There's a difference between someone like Dexter Mayfield, who pretends he is confident and thinks "fat is beautiful" in one breath but then exalts typical model-looking dudes as "eye candy" on his Instagram page, as opposed to the gay "bear" community who really do celebrate being larger gruff gay men and they usually date other men who look like that. Even if it's not my thing, I actually respect the latter.


Yes, broadcasting your confidence is usually a sign that you're not confident. Actions speak louder than words anyway, like wearing a speedo at the swimming pool. :D


The only problem that I have with guys wearing speedos is that the ones wearing them are generally don't have the body type you want to see in one.


That’s just your own preference though. I love seeing them on any body. :thumbsupwink:

Would you prefer to see Donald Trump in a speedo or banana hammock?

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