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Re: How do I come out to my family?

Unread postby PopTart » 15 March 2020, 21:34

Chances are, they have picked up on your not so subtle hints :P and are just giving you space and time, to tell them when your ready.

Which could mean they wont be so in your face about it, when you do tell them.

What is it exactly your afraid of, may I ask? It seems they have been letting you know they wouldnt have a problem with your sexuality so I doubt it's that.

Is it that they might ask alot of questions and you feel that things might get awkward?

If it's that, you could always explain that you will need time to answer all of their questions and ask them to be patient, your still figuring things out yourself. If they are good parents they will understand and continue to give you space to figure things out.

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Re: How do I come out to my family?

Unread postby Halt Arrtay » 15 March 2020, 22:28

thank you for your support but I know them they are too supportive. if they know they will make the first move, not me. I'm afraid that they will post it to the entire family, grams, granddad, sister, brother, everyone and i'm not ready for that.

I'm a night bird, last night I was shaving and dropped my razor on my foot; I cut my toe. No big deal right; No. my parents keep the band aids in their room (which is funny because we have all of the medical treatment stuff in the storage room which is open to me :lol: ) and they have already gone to sleep. I text my mother about it and she comes out and she was taking care of it like i was 10 year old kid. I just needed a band aid and some electrical tape to use the elasticity to put pressure on it.

In the end they are too supportive. they are not even super protective. :runaway:

P.S. Sorry for the long story.
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Re: How do I come out to my family?

Unread postby PopTart » 15 March 2020, 22:48

I get that must be a tad stifling, definately and I dont want to detract from what must at times, be a challenge to deal with, but things could be a whole lot worse, they could be homophobic.

I think the reality here, is that maybe your not quite there yet, in terms of being ready, for being fully out to everyone and because you know your parents are proud of you and have a tendency to overshare, your apprehension is that, they might not just pull you put of the closet, but proceed to dismantle that fucker and drop you on a stage with a sign about your neck.

Whether or not they are likely to do that, I would give some thought to how you really feel about being out to the whole world just yet.

You don't have to rush, you can do so when your ready.

It could be useful and a good exercise in self awareness, to try to understand what's holding you back, so you have better understanding, of when you are going to be ready.
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Re: How do I come out to my family?

Unread postby Halt Arrtay » 15 March 2020, 22:54

Thank you.
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Re: How do I come out to my family?

Unread postby Canela » 30 March 2020, 14:02

Hey, I don’t know if you still need advice, but if you are worried they’ll spread it to the rest of the family you could just ask them not to and tell them that you wanna be the one who says it, that will at least stop them for a while
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Re: How do I come out to my family?

Unread postby Halt Arrtay » 31 March 2020, 00:08

I was going to say that but i'm conformable enough about being gay to not care. I have been going on 2 years about me knowing i'm gay now. :D
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Re: How do I come out to my family?

Unread postby Halt Arrtay » 10 April 2020, 13:11

I did it!! I finally came out to my family!
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Re: How do I come out to my family?

Unread postby rogonandi » 10 April 2020, 13:22

Halt Arrtay wrote:I did it!! I finally came out to my family!

How did it go?
Why are you?

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Re: How do I come out to my family?

Unread postby Halt Arrtay » 10 April 2020, 13:58

:D Good, very good.
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Re: How do I come out to my family?

Unread postby Eos » 10 April 2020, 16:13

I am so happy for you ! Enjoy your freedom !
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Re: How do I come out to my family?

Unread postby InternetShrink » 10 April 2020, 16:55

Halt Arrtay wrote::3 I think I should put it on a clay tablet.

Carve it on the wall of a cave "I like dick."
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Re: How do I come out to my family?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 10 April 2020, 17:00

InternetShrink wrote:
Halt Arrtay wrote::3 I think I should put it on a clay tablet.

Carve it on the wall of a cave "I like dick."

You know what? I'm normally one to recommend against writing a coming out letter, but I think I'm willing to universally exempt the practice of carving that letter into a clay tablet.
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Re: How do I come out to my family?

Unread postby Ander1969 » 23 May 2020, 03:18

Halt Arrtay wrote:Well I have dropped hints, like leaving gay romantic books around or stuff like that but they never said anything and are as clueless as ever.

I have a scoop for you. They likely already know (parents usually do) and are just waiting for YOU to build up the courage to tell them. Take your time and come out when you're ready, they'll wait.
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Re: How do I come out to my family?

Unread postby Halt Arrtay » 24 May 2020, 05:06

Ander1969 wrote:
Halt Arrtay wrote:Well I have dropped hints, like leaving gay romantic books around or stuff like that but they never said anything and are as clueless as ever.

I have a scoop for you. They likely already know (parents usually do) and are just waiting for YOU to build up the courage to tell them. Take your time and come out when you're ready, they'll wait.

I appreciate the advice but I came out to them already. But thank you though. :thumbsupwink: :heart:
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