How to feel safe as a gay person? I need advices

Talk about anything and everything.

Re: How to feel safe as a gay person? I need advices

Unread postby Iamjava » 7 August 2019, 11:03

You're right. The real story was that the CIA recruited me at an early age to plow symbols into corn fields.
Iamjava
 
Posts: 789
+1s received: 129
Joined: 27 May 2019, 21:42

Re: How to feel safe as a gay person? I need advices

Unread postby erti » 7 August 2019, 15:56

I'd imagine since he's been in prison most of his adult life he's going to bring it up every once in a while.
User avatar
erti
 
Posts: 552
+1s received: 423
Joined: 30 November 2018, 09:58
Location: Columbus, Ohio
Country: United States (us)

Re: How to feel safe as a gay person? I need advices

Unread postby mxguy01 » 7 August 2019, 17:13

I tend to be curious about such circumstances. One of my brothers served some time. Actually I believe multiple periods of time. I broke off all communication with him some time back and dealt with it purely from the aspect that he was someone I had to protect my aging mother from. The one time I know for sure, he committed armed robbery with a knife. My mother one time expressed the idea that she thought it unfair for him to serve time for armed robbery because he used a knife instead of a gun. By that point I had pretty much given up all hope that my mother had any semblance of reality left wrt him. His life is/was a pretty sad story of what can happen from addictions. At some point I realized my parents were keeping some of the details away from me. When my Dad passed that got worse. At one point she became the owner of an Mazda RX-8 in her late 70's. Scary enough she was still driving. Could you see an 78 yo woman driving around in an RX-8 at about 10 mph would be my guess. LoL. She had co-signed the loan, He defaulted shortly after getting the car. She then ended up giving it back to him. Rinse and repeat with other issues. That lasted up to when my 2nd oldest brother finally took over her finances. Well, at least the sums got smaller. My last experience with him was that he stole medication from that brother as he was fighting his battle with cancer. Because of my personal experience I tend to think along the lines of "tigers tend not to change their stripes". That being said I also like the idea of reform and getting people out of prisons who really don't belong there. Statistics don't exactly show a great success rate on reform in the US.

Reference https://www.bjs.gov/index.cfm?ty=pbdetail&iid=6266
---
I love to travel but hate to arrive -- Albert Einstein
---
The only thing worse than an Did Not Finish (DNF) is an Did Not Start (DNS). ~~ Me
---
It is better to light one small candle than to curse the darkness. ~~ Chinese fortune cookie
User avatar
mxguy01
 
Posts: 4067
+1s received: 1974
Joined: 23 October 2017, 23:12
Location: NorCal
Country: United States (us)

Re: How to feel safe as a gay person? I need advices

Unread postby erti » 7 August 2019, 17:46

Yeah. My uncle Tim although I love the man he did some horrible things. He ran away at 13 and became a child male prostitute for money to live on the streets. He then got real bad into drugs, stolen cars, robbed people (not sure if he used a gun or anything). He even pimped out his girlfriends/wives and beat on them. I remember him doing drugs when he watched me as a kid as my mom worked. He'd threaten me with a knife said he would cut my head off if I miss behaved while stabbing the wooden coffee table with the knife. Being a kid I didn't know if he was using crack or weed out of a bowl. Everything I know about drugs was from him and his wife at the time. Then after robbing a drug store in West Virginia he spent 10 years in prison. When he got out he seemed to have changed for the better. He stopped doing hard drugs. The only thing he did illegally is sell pot while helping my mom sell saboxone and methadone and probably did the same thing for other people. He was hesitant on taking pain pills he was prescribed. I took care of him until he passed away last year. He calmed down a lot but I wouldn't say it was all because of prison. Personally I believe that we should focus more on rehabilitation with most criminals than to punish those with stuffing them with other criminals who teach them how to become even worse criminals.
User avatar
erti
 
Posts: 552
+1s received: 423
Joined: 30 November 2018, 09:58
Location: Columbus, Ohio
Country: United States (us)

Re: How to feel safe as a gay person? I need advices

Unread postby mxguy01 » 7 August 2019, 18:02

To add to that, somehow get ahead of the game and get intervention to them before they reach the criminal state. Specifically targeting groups that are at most risk at earlier ages. Specifically look at your uncle's age and situation at the start. Even at that though everyone is responsible for their actions and words no matter the circumstances.
---
I love to travel but hate to arrive -- Albert Einstein
---
The only thing worse than an Did Not Finish (DNF) is an Did Not Start (DNS). ~~ Me
---
It is better to light one small candle than to curse the darkness. ~~ Chinese fortune cookie
User avatar
mxguy01
 
Posts: 4067
+1s received: 1974
Joined: 23 October 2017, 23:12
Location: NorCal
Country: United States (us)

Re: How to feel safe as a gay person? I need advices

Unread postby erti » 7 August 2019, 18:19

mxguy01 wrote:To add to that, somehow get ahead of the game and get intervention to them before they reach the criminal state. Specifically targeting groups that are at most risk at earlier ages. Specifically look at your uncle's age and situation at the start. Even at that though everyone is responsible for their actions and words no matter the circumstances.


Yeah I agree. They should be held accountable. Sadly prisons are overcrowded and they're people who are there for victimless crimes.
User avatar
erti
 
Posts: 552
+1s received: 423
Joined: 30 November 2018, 09:58
Location: Columbus, Ohio
Country: United States (us)

Previous

Recently active
Users browsing this forum: CommonCrawl [Bot], Google [Bot], Iamjava, jimbo_xix, Nice guy Mark, NvM, rogonandi, Severelius and 75 guests