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I really need help and/or a friend

Unread postby Baconator916 » 30 October 2021, 16:58

Not sure if I’m in the right place or not. I’m 33 years old and newly gay. I’m a top. Ive always considered myself to be straight. Then about a year ago I realized I’m just not happy. I’m not having the easiest time with this whole process. I’ve been confused :) and lost. I thought I had found someone decent who would help me get through this. I really opened up to him and liked him and he left me hangin. So ya. I really could use a friend. Of course there will be benefits. But I really need a friend first. Again I’m not sure if this is the right place to look for this or not.
Oh ya. I live in Sacramento, California
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Re: I really need help and/or a friend

Unread postby Lillyflo3 » 30 October 2021, 17:32

seems confusing want to be friends?
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Re: I really need help and/or a friend

Unread postby pozzie » 31 October 2021, 19:56

I'm sure there's a joke in there about bacon and vegan gays, but I can't find it. BTW, there are some proudly carnivorous gays on this forum as well.

Can you tell us a bit more about how you are struggling. I get that you met someone, were hoping for something more, and were disappointed. That's called life, so don't let that get you down. You can make new friends: you just have to decide that's what you want to do.

I know it's harder to make friends now, or at least that's how many of us feel, thanks to the pandemic and the closure of so many gay bars and such. Honestly though, bar friends weren't always the same as "real friends", so don't feel too disappointed there. Still, returning smiles after not having seen each other for a while was always fun.

What are you doing to get out and meet people? Sacramento has it's drawbacks, but it's a big enough town that stuff has to be going on - though things might have quieted down a lot thanks to covid. You do know about Bay Area Reporter, right? (ebar.com) - haven't seen a print version in a very long time, but I'd certainly start there and try to find a social activity or twelve that interested me.

Good luck!
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Re: I really need help and/or a friend

Unread postby Peter123777 » 1 November 2021, 20:25

Baconator916 wrote:Not sure if I’m in the right place or not. I’m 33 years old and newly gay. I’m a top. Ive always considered myself to be straight. Then about a year ago I realized I’m just not happy. I’m not having the easiest time with this whole process. I’ve been confused :) and lost. I thought I had found someone decent who would help me get through this. I really opened up to him and liked him and he left me hangin. So ya. I really could use a friend. Of course there will be benefits. But I really need a friend first. Again I’m not sure if this is the right place to look for this or not.
Oh ya. I live in Sacramento, California


I'm not from the US... That's kinda unusual what you're telling - that you thought you were straight all your life and then realized you're not happy and came to a realization that you're gay or bisexual. Do you consider yourself now bisexual or gay?
Have you tried a gay relationship/sex? did you find it more satisfying than heterosexual relationship/sex?

How come it took you so many years to figure out your sexual orientation? Most people find out they're gay pretty early in adolescence and even childhood and just "stay in the closet" because of social matters...
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Re: I really need help and/or a friend

Unread postby colby100 » 20 March 2022, 02:29

Hey. I'd be happy to talk if you want.
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Re: I really need help and/or a friend

Unread postby RGHRGH » 25 March 2022, 21:00

@Baconator916, how is exploration of your newfound sexuality?
I'm willing to support and talk about it with you, if you still feel you're having some struggles and/or confusion with it.
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Re: I really need help and/or a friend

Unread postby McTaggartfan » 31 March 2022, 03:27

From my own experience, finding a friend can be as easy as becoming an independent scholar of literature or philosophy. Then it'll seem to you sometimes as though you're friends with those whom you read, given how much time and energy you'll spend with the writings (including personal letters, journals, etc.) of those long dead—not to mention how much time you'll spend thinking about them. You can talk to them, if you like, but I'd advise you not forget they won't talk back. (If you do forget, usually that means it's time for break and you should emerge from your seclusion for a few hours.)

Hope it goes well! :D
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