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Into older guys?

Unread postby Ander1969 » 6 September 2020, 16:57

Why are some younger guys attracted to older guys? For years now I've had many younger guys come on to me, but I've never done anything with any of them. I'm 51 and these guys are in their late teens and 20's.

Why? Why are you attracted to older men?

Most recently was just a few days ago I got hit up by a young guy close by. He's 25. We chatted a bit before he started getting very forward so, me being lonely, played along, and we exchanged pictures. The next day our conversation continued and before I knew it we were camming. Oh man, what a trip. But he had to postpone our meeting but still wants to hook up in person. Regular FWB kind of thing. I think I'm gonna pass but man was it fun.
So again, why are some younger guys attracted to older guys? Please educate me.
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby weedan » 6 September 2020, 22:37

For me older guys are not so much in a rush, they know what they like. Oh and it might have something to do with my first guy being a good bit older than me
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby René » 7 September 2020, 17:27

I don't get it either. Obviously there are older guys who are in great shape and look as good as any younger guy, and I could be attracted to one, but it'd be in spite of his age, not because of it. I would also be concerned about the relative unlikelihood of spending our last few decades together, and I would want to grow old together, not join someone who's already done growing old (or much further along). :P
(I don't do casual sex, so that's neither here nor there.)
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby Severelius » 7 September 2020, 19:23

I never used to be attracted to older men. Then I started having casual hookups on Grindr and the whole 'liking older men' thing seems to have just become a thing. Not to the exclusion of other age ranges and sometimes the fact that nobody but older men ever seem interested in me can be quite grating.

But I've always put it down mostly to the fact that despite what outward appearance I might put on when it comes to the casual sex thing I'm always a frayed bundle of nerves barely holding myself together most of the time and every older guy I've met for this purpose has a sense of confidence in exactly what they're about and what they're after that just being around them makes me feel more.... settled, I guess. Encouraged? I dunno, it's hard to put into words.

Though yeah in terms of proper romantic engagement I'm not that into older men because I think on a personal level me and them would have almost nothing in common.
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby Ander1969 » 7 September 2020, 21:21

It's so funny in that the younger guys I've met are all into the 80's and 70's style of music and movies. Even my kids, 22 & 18, and their friends like it too. And that is my youth, so I find we have lots of similar likes.
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby nate6996 » 7 September 2020, 23:38

daddy culture Is huge in our world. was never a thing for me, but even Joe rogan talked about dating a hot chick with a lazy eye and then had a thing for chicks with lazy eyes. SO. yeah. anything can be fetishized
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby languageoflove » 7 October 2020, 13:15

for me love is a global language and some numbers like age height weight and many other things are just meaningless :D
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 7 October 2020, 17:41

languageoflove wrote:for me love is a global language and some numbers like age height weight and many other things are just meaningless :D

What absolute nonsense.
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby Eryx » 7 October 2020, 22:49

Yeah, nope.
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby StevenCarolina » 8 October 2020, 14:21

Interesting topic.... especially as one of those older guys that do not identify as such. The younger guys that are attracted to older guys seem to be looking for more stability in a relationship than they can find with most guys their age. The opposite seems to be true, too.... we know that a lot of older guys are attracted to younger guys for usually obvious reasons - I've fallen victim of that myself - What is more shallow? A young guy looking for stability or an older guy going after a younger body?
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby randy1234 » 11 October 2020, 03:39

I'm an older man 63 but I look at least 10 years younger.I'm a nice looking older man but for some strange reason I feel that much younger guys might not be attracted to me. Sometimes I feel over the hill but maybe that's just me. I've been friendly with younger guys and sometimes it seems they give me mixed messages but it's hard to tell. I'm talking about guys in their late 30s early 40s. They're very handsome but I feel why wouldn't they want a cute guy their own age. I just fear getting hurt. One guy is into older men but he broke up with his partner but he hasn't shown any interest in me. I thought he did at one time but it's hard to tell. Could it be i'm not the older man he likes. Any thoughts?
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby Gingershyandhard » 13 October 2020, 16:09

I think it’s the experience the older guys have, not just in the bedroom but life in general. Also I think I’d feel safer and more looked after with an older guy. As someone who wants to be a bottom I look to be dominated and therefore an older guy who can be assertive is very attractive. I just love the look of an older, bigger guy with a beard. Makes my balls tingle
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby randy1234 » 18 October 2020, 04:02

Maybe more like a father image and more secure. Maybe they feel an older guy won't leave them.
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby sunriseisfine » 19 October 2020, 15:49

Only once was I flirted with by a much younger guy (college freshman) and it really surprised me. I'm sorry I let the situation pass me by. Life goes on....
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 19 October 2020, 21:59

I am on the other side of the fence in this, going down the older lane and am always looking up to young guys.
I never could imagine to act like a "dad" or even an uncle type of role, and I can't share that certain experience some people seek.

People keep talking to me about tons of twink guys, or in their twen years, that look for an older guy.
I have not ever met one so far, so often I think this is a story made up, or a rather very rare probability.
Maybe happens to older guys who can show off in looks or have the funds or something.
There are a lot of guys of various ages who will do stuff for getting paid.
Not into this, anyway.

I would even be concerned about the young man's future and well being, mental issues, if he really fell in love to me and one unknown day I suffered a stroke or whatever. Then it is better to ignore even the faintest signal of his love and give him the chance to meet a proper, aged alike his own ages-man.
I would see him like in equal standing or even him being the more experienced person, as the young ones can grow up feeling free about their orientation and things. In my youth that was not posible, even forbidden and prosecuted by law. What should be there to give to him, that any younger man could not give? I would wonder.
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby Jryski » Yesterday, 18:30

I’ll pass
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Re: Into older guys?

Unread postby edj » Yesterday, 22:15

My husband and I met when I was 24 and he was 42. I've always been attracted to the 40s to 50s age range. I dunno why. My first sexual experience was with man in his 40s, but it wasn't a particularly rewarding one. It may have to do with an arbitrary and probably unfounded association of age with maturity.
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