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New Year's Resolutions 2020

Unread postby Brenden » 1 January 2020, 13:58

Do you have any this year? What do you think of the concept of resolutions?

Since it's the beginning of a new decade, would you consider making a New Decade Resolution?
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Re: New Year's Resolutions 2020

Unread postby Marmaduke » 1 January 2020, 14:03

I won’t be setting any resolutions this year. I have goals and things that I’m working towards, but I had those yesterday. I don’t see that arbitrarily adjusting time frames around them to fit with the new calendar is particularly helpful to achieving them. They’re all super general “be fitter” “be healthier” “be happier” that I think are broadly pretty good aims for everyone to hold pretty open-endedly.
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Re: New Year's Resolutions 2020

Unread postby Brenden » 1 January 2020, 15:10

I don't really make resolutions myself, but I don't think the date or concept is entirely arbitrary and think it's a good time of the year for reflection and thought about the future, goals, plans, etc. Years are cyclic and there needs to be a point in the circle with more meaning than the other infinite number of points.
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Re: New Year's Resolutions 2020

Unread postby Marmaduke » 1 January 2020, 15:41

Brenden wrote:Years are cyclic and there needs to be a point in the circle with more meaning than the other infinite number of points.

Does there? Why? If there does, why only one? Why isn’t reflection and evaluation equally meaningful on the 1st of any other month? Or any Monday?

I’m all for having goals and something to work towards, but I’m less and less convinced by the opinion that “I want this to be the case by this time” should be the default and I’m definitely not minded that it’s something you should be waiting for a meaningful point in the future to begin rather than beginning immediately on identification of the target.

The New Year staple of health and fitness, at least in my case, is a more positive influence when set as a simpler target of simply making measurable progress over time rather than trying to reach a specific milestone. I think specific goals, within this context, all too easily lead to disappointment that they aren’t being reached quickly enough, which either demotivates or motivates towards methods that aren’t maintainable over time. A broader acceptance that positive progress, measured at fixed intervals, no matter how small those increments are, strikes me as a much healthier mindset.

Wanting specific things for yourself is absolutely a positive and valid thing to work towards, but why can’t that target simply be to work as hard as you can towards it? Why does it need to be within 12 months? If it’s in 13 months, are you a failure for having tried your best? If it’s in 3, do you think you’ll find the achievement more fulfilling simply because you also beat your timeframe? And if you do beat it, do you then wait for 9 months before setting yourself another goal?
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Re: New Year's Resolutions 2020

Unread postby Brenden » 1 January 2020, 16:01

Marmaduke wrote:
Brenden wrote:Years are cyclic and there needs to be a point in the circle with more meaning than the other infinite number of points.

Does there? Why? If there does, why only one? Why isn’t reflection and evaluation equally meaningful on the 1st of any other month? Or any Monday?

I could then ask you what makes Monday more special than any of the other 6 days of the week, or the 1st more special than any of the other 27-30 days of any given month.

Of course self-improvement is a continuous process, but having special moments that are culturally shared and collective is important to human psychology.

Mark Griffiths, Director of the International Gaming Research Unit and Professor of Behavioural Addiction, Nottingham Trent University, wrote:Tell someone your resolution. Letting family and friends know that you have a New Year’s resolution that you really want to keep will act as both a safety barrier and a face-saver. If you really want to cut down smoking or drinking, real friends won’t put temptation in your way and can help monitor your behaviour. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and support from those around you.

Change your behaviour with others. Trying to change habits on your own can be difficult. For instance, if you and your partner both smoke, drink and eat unhealthily, it is really hard for one partner to change their behaviour if the other is still engaged in the same old bad habits. By having the same resolution, such as going on a diet, the chances of success will improve.


Marmaduke wrote:A broader acceptance that positive progress, measured at fixed intervals, no matter how small those increments are, strikes me as a much healthier mindset.

And what about life goals that are longer-term? What's wrong with the new calendar year being a fixed interval?
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Re: New Year's Resolutions 2020

Unread postby René » 1 January 2020, 16:20

I generally feel similarly to Marmaduke, but I sort of do have some this year: to get everything that's been disorganised in my life organised / get on top of everything, and be less stressed and a lot more physically active.

But it's not like the change of year is the big turning point; that was when I started taking some wonderful medication that's enabling me to think about all the things I have to do without feeling anxious and overwhelmed about them all the time, and to improve my sleeping pattern / daily rhythm in ways that are conducive to getting things done.
It happened to be around that same time that I took some time to explore the exercise-tracking features of the smartwatch I inherited from my dad, which somehow added a whole new dimension of fun to working out.
Coincidentally this was all in the last few months of 2019, so it's not really so much a resolution but more a hope and prediction that these patterns of improvement will continue to build up and be perpetuated in the new year, which should hopefully put me in a much better situation at the end of it than at the beginning.

Brenden wrote:I could then ask you what makes Monday more special than any of the other 6 days of the week, or the 1st more special than any of the other 27-30 days of any given month.

Note that in some cultures, such as the one I grew up in, Sunday is actually considered the first day of the week.
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Re: New Year's Resolutions 2020

Unread postby Severelius » 1 January 2020, 18:39

I don't typically tie myself down to specific resolutions as like things I have to get done. But I have things I'd like to achieve, most of which are the same as the ones I thought of last year and the year before and the year before ad infinitum and that I know I have no hope in hell of actually achieving.

Namely getting in shape or getting a boyfriend. Zero chance of those happening. Actually finish writing a novel is also on the same list.

If I can learn to drive at some point in 2020 I'll consider the year worth it, to be honest. That's my most generally achievable goal for the year.
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Re: New Year's Resolutions 2020

Unread postby Brenden » 1 January 2020, 22:35

My main "resolutions" or goals this year are:

  • learn to drive manual and get a driver's licence again;
  • start studying for my degree in earnest again, and restart the degree officially in the autumn;
  • get back into learning Dutch using apps like Duolingo and Memrise;
  • get my weight back down to where I was happy with it and work on building muscle; and
  • generally do more productive things with my spare time.
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Re: New Year's Resolutions 2020

Unread postby rxxli » 2 January 2020, 13:12

The concept of new years resolutions is pretty foreign to me. I think this only became a thing in the past years with the “americanization of the world”. So no, I don’t have any, but if I did they would look something like this:

Severelius wrote:I don't typically tie myself down to specific resolutions as like things I have to get done. But I have things I'd like to achieve, most of which are the same as the ones I thought of last year and the year before and the year before ad infinitum and that I know I have no hope in hell of actually achieving.

Namely getting in shape or getting a boyfriend. Zero chance of those happening.
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Re: New Year's Resolutions 2020

Unread postby Eryx » 2 January 2020, 17:23

I've dropped beer for good and will drink other stuff in smaller amounts, possibly stop definitively for most activities aside from special occasions. It's been good for me so far.
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Re: New Year's Resolutions 2020

Unread postby mxguy01 » 2 January 2020, 18:16

Three: Faster, Further, Higher. Keep'n it simple.
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Re: New Year's Resolutions 2020

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 3 January 2020, 19:11

To Brenden : Something I picked up from a windsurfer dude long time back, I think he said it to his girl:
"Jij bent de golf waar ik voor altijd op wil surfen." - For yer mate :) It's kind of romantic, too.

As for me, I don't follow that concept, just because it's seen as regional customs in that time of the year. I'm not particularly into all them date-of-year do or don't beliefs, so I don't participate.
Nothing wrong with people that do connect certain plans to a certain time of the year.
I grew up with folks that did make such resolutions and I would try that back then. As usual, it would be done over again, after never really working out for anyone, be it to eat different in order to lose more weight and people that wanted to spend more time with their old folks and that like, have less stress at the job, enjoy their days in more conscious an experience, do more outdoors time, less smoking, all such ideas to be put into this.

Works fine with just any time of the year. Maybe I'm not sensitive to time differences or something, just was wondering once again, why people make such a fuzz about that wee amount of time that separates the one year from the other, as if that had some special meaning of some cosmic order of magnitude. I did already wonder, when 1999 went into 2000, sitting at home alone and writing at some short story at my desk, while all around hell of Silvester broke loose and Ma's dogs would want to hide underneath the couch. I wondered what made the difference. It's another nanosecond or minute or whatever time measure one likes to use. It's not different than last Tuesday taking leave from Monday or when Brachiosaurus would not have known the idea if Tuesday.

I don't tie my resolutions or work on self aspirations to certain times or dates. Just during summer time it's a bit easier to do more sports, or such, since the water isn't that fricking cold. :D
Such and the like, trying to not bother the Christians around winter solstice and leave them alone with my Grinch mindset, as that time of the year has a certain sadness compilation to me in lost friends and people, and the memories and dreams are heightened around them days.

All I could say is trying to get in better health again, recover that stupid foot so I can hit the waves again. Maybe trying to live better with the probability of never having a boyfriend in life, nor anything inclusive, and grow a state of contenance so people don't notice, or me not mentioning hints on this so often. Well, that's something I'm trying all the time and sometimes it seems to work on, and at other times I feel like i lose track of it. There's no pattern to it.

A good one would maybe be to make more people get a laugh once in a while. I like the happy people, I like to see people have a good laugh. I can go and vamp, siphon a bit of their happiness.
If ya want to hang with me, let's go windsurfing!

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Re: New Year's Resolutions 2020

Unread postby lightnight » 5 January 2020, 17:13

Depending on the situation, confront myself or comfort myself with conviction and fairness.
That's all I can think of.
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