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Unread postby nick99 » 5 December 2018, 19:16

So for about 6 years or so I've been wondering if I was gay or not! I'm sexualy attracted to guys but love how girls look, it's like 1 day im gay the next im not.. idk if I can't accept it or not or I don't want to, I've been with 1 guy about 2 years ago I loved it but felt guilty afterwards, I love gay porn but after I cum it's like I'm straight! I feel like I'm going crazy lol any help would be great!!
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Re: Not sure if im gay

Unread postby studmuffin » 5 December 2018, 22:01

If you're sexually attracted to guys, and love gay porn, and loved your involvement with the guy you met, then yes, you are gay. You can still acknowledge a woman's beauty, but not in a romantic/sexual way. If you felt guilty for being with a guy, that's only because of society's hetero-normative standards that they've tried to force on everyone for years. You have to follow your heart and be who you are, as cheesy as it sounds.
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Re: Not sure if im gay

Unread postby nick99 » 5 December 2018, 22:05

studmuffin wrote:If you're sexually attracted to guys, and love gay porn, and loved your involvement with the guy you met, then yes, you are gay. You can still acknowledge a woman's beauty, but not in a romantic/sexual way. If you felt guilty for being with a guy, that's only because of society's hetero-normative standards that they've tried to force on everyone for years. You have to follow your heart and be who you are, as cheesy as it sounds.

Thank you that's what I thought I've just grown up around alot of anti gay people I guess why that's why I'm having a hard time like you said society!
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Re: Not sure if im gay

Unread postby studmuffin » 5 December 2018, 22:08

nick99 wrote:
studmuffin wrote:If you're sexually attracted to guys, and love gay porn, and loved your involvement with the guy you met, then yes, you are gay. You can still acknowledge a woman's beauty, but not in a romantic/sexual way. If you felt guilty for being with a guy, that's only because of society's hetero-normative standards that they've tried to force on everyone for years. You have to follow your heart and be who you are, as cheesy as it sounds.

Thank you that's what I thought I've just grown up around alot of anti gay people I guess why that's why I'm having a hard time like you said society!

Exactly. Don't listen to those homophobes, they speak out of ignorance and prejudice.
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Re: Not sure if im gay

Unread postby Tommiebee » 5 December 2018, 22:17

Nick, you have to listen to your own heart and follow that.
Sure you can squelch your desires and feelings to do what "others" demand of expect. But you'll only be miserable and end up hating yourself over it.
I am a work in progress. I am so thankful for the opportunity to live my live my own way.
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Re: Not sure if im gay

Unread postby Crisis_Jay » 6 December 2018, 00:11

I also felt extremely guilty the first time. Mainly because of being brought up in various churches and I believed it was a horrible sin that I would be punished for. Sex with a man and also fornication. Two no-nos at once. Isn't religion nice? That topped with a homophobic mother and step father, two homophobic grandmothers, kids I went to school with making fun of anyone suspected of being gay, society in general seeming to have a negative outlook on it.

If you're sexually attracted to guys and identify as a man, you're either gay or bisexual. It sounds like you know but are trying to accept it. Then after you accept it, you have to learn to believe there's nothing wrong with it. Unlearn what you've been taught. That's the hardest part in my opinion. Many of us have been brainwashed since birth to hate and fight against who we really are.

Best of luck with your journey.
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Re: Not sure if im gay

Unread postby BlackBoi666 » 6 December 2018, 15:37

I think you're bisexual. Well if you're attracted to those women, in a sexual way. Understandable that you feel guilty though, because I feel a bit guilty, mainly because I don't want to be associated with the exhibitionists of the LGBT community. although, I guess maybe I shouldn't though, IDK.
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Re: Not sure if im gay

Unread postby mxguy01 » 6 December 2018, 17:31

nick99 wrote:So for about 6 years or so I've been wondering if I was gay or not! I'm sexualy attracted to guys but love how girls look, it's like 1 day im gay the next im not.. idk if I can't accept it or not or I don't want to, I've been with 1 guy about 2 years ago I loved it but felt guilty afterwards, I love gay porn but after I cum it's like I'm straight! I feel like I'm going crazy lol any help would be great!!


We can't tell you if your gay, straight or bi as only you can decide that. But everyone here would also point out that it is or can be a spectrum.

Your comments certainly indicate that you are having difficulty accepting that you have an sexual attraction to guys. Until you resolve that your pretty much doomed to lead a life repressing those feelings. Accepting them does not mean acting on them. That comes later if you choose.
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