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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby GaySpacePirateKing » 24 February 2019, 02:26

Asia and eastern Europe are more homophobic than America and the rest of Europe. Forums might be one of the few relatively safe places were people can be open about their sexuality.

If I lived in one of those countries I would probably be pretty explicit if I got access to a gay forum. I'd want to talk about dicks, sex, wanking, about how much I love cum on my face (I don't) and other dirty things I or other gay guys get up to, but even living in the UK I still want to, because really there is nothing wrong with it.

I get it can be immature or boring and probably forums aren't even ideal for talking about things like this, but if it bothers everyone so much why not create an 'explicit content' section of the forum and move all the weird, dirty threads there?
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Derek » 24 February 2019, 02:35

There is such a subforum. It doesn't change the essential fact that people who come here to ask questions like that simply aren't... of the caliber that makes for a decent community.

I'm not trying to make some statement about the inferiority of other cultures. They're just bad on the internet.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby GaySpacePirateKing » 24 February 2019, 02:43

Derek wrote:There is such a subforum. It doesn't change the essential fact that people who come here to ask questions like that simply aren't... of the caliber that makes for a decent community.

I'm not trying to make some statement about the inferiority of other cultures. They're just bad on the internet.


Fair enough, sorry that I reacted with anger. I don't think you were intending to be racist. It was still stereotyping though, and if its generally people from eastern europe or asia that you see making the weird threads then there must be more complex reasons behind it than simply thinking that asians can't behave online.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 24 February 2019, 04:01

Btw Sherri you reminded me of this other post of yours.

Derek wrote:I do. I'm hilarious. The rest of you are basically just props.

Being a top I’m accustomed to being treated as a mere prop.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby mxguy01 » 24 February 2019, 07:23

Sherri wrote:... I'd like you guys' thoughts/opinions on it, whether you think I'm just being a diva about it or you're also annoyed with it. Is it a problem? If it is, what are some possible solutions?


Yes they are annoying. Some days I find myself able to ignore them with issue and other days they really do get bothersome. I often think there should be a waiting period of X days until a new user can post. Perhaps that may cut down on them as you noted these folks generally make their crap post and then never return. Perhaps the waiting period and needing to return later would provide some deterrent.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 24 February 2019, 07:47

After Derek said he found Simon being an exhibitionist slut on some random site other than tumblr and after reading this thread it got me thinking about how he got tired of this forum more quickly than he did for taking naked, artsy photos of himself. I wonder at what age he’ll grow out of that.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby rxxli » 24 February 2019, 12:08

I definetly see what Sherri is saying here. Because I feel quite similar.

Back when I first joined I did so because I noticed the community. Everyone knew each other, and there was fun and banter and a buch of interesting people. Now we just have a few of those regulars (and these are usually people that I don’t have much in common with) and a bunch of newcomers with always the same creepy threads. And that just isn’t fun anymore.

I don’t think that the forums are really in decline. I think that this is more of a problem with this specific one. And I don’t know why. I definetly miss the good old times, but I am out of ideas on how to help.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 24 February 2019, 14:19

Sherri wrote:To Yeauxleaux in particular, I'd disagree heartily. You're the epitome of a quality regular user. You have a life outside of the internet and you don't always come here, but when you do, you show up with good advice and interesting contributions. You're well-regarded by the community. We may not know all about you but we know who you are because you consistently return. Ideally, I'd want more members like that, who come back over time and contribute to quality posting.
Thank you for saying this :)

On whether or not forums are in decline, I think it just depends on the forum. I've been on a few forums and I have to say pretty much all of the ones I've been on seem to have declined somewhat. One busier forum is dedicated to a particular video game franchise that I am still very much active on (under the same username), that one is busy, but it only gets truly non-stop when a new game is announced, upcoming and released.

However, I don't think it's so much that forums altogether are dying, I think it's that there's (if such a thing exists) "corporate" all-encompassing forums like Reddit, as was mentioned by Sherri earlier. While it might not be such a tight knit community, the benefit of it is that people can discuss literally anything on there with all the user-created sub-forums, with just one account, instead of having to hop from forum to forum to discuss different topics. I think that is kind of sucking all the other niche forums dry. While technically not a forum, I see YouTube also having the same effect. Certain sites end up getting a monopoly as you can go there and see/discuss literally any topic on one site. I can see that happening.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Stardust » 24 February 2019, 14:32

Can I just ask why we need 'quality regular users' over other types of users?

This reeks of snobbiness and internet elitism to me.

Not that that's a thing, but everyone going on about 'oh this used to be such a nice community!' bugs the hell out of me.

This forum is for everyone, not just the people you approve of.

People here need to get over themselves.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby mxguy01 » 24 February 2019, 16:14

If you stepped back a bit and took a look at this forum would you consider it welcoming?
What (really who) makes this forum what it is?
Won't deny I've had my part in that at times.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 24 February 2019, 17:32

Stardust wrote:People here need to get over themselves.

I couldn’t agree more. It’s the height of hubris to think that members who come in only to ask about anal dilation have any lesser claim to this forum’s community than someone like Sherri. The real culprit to this forum’s decline is entertaining the notion of standards!
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Derek » 24 February 2019, 21:32

It's cultural imperialism, plain and simple. We sit in our bubble of privilege and look down on all the kind-hearted, honest men who only want to know the simplest and most effective way to dilate their anuses. Each person on this earth contains a world of beauty and it's up to us to be open-minded enough to simply look into their anuses and see it for ourselves.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Brasileiro » 25 February 2019, 09:14

I am going to try to find a forum where there are no bullies.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Brenden » 25 February 2019, 11:08

We have been considering putting up a message during registration clarifying something along the lines of “this is a social forum, not a hookup site or a …”.

If anyone would like to help with the phrasing, please send me your suggestions! (Should I make a thread for crowdsourcing it?)
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby PopTart » 25 February 2019, 11:56

There certainly seems to be a lot of underlying hostility on the forum lately, I think some of that is misunderstanding and miscommunication, but there are a few instances of people losing patience with one another and that's a real shame and will destroy any sense of community this place has.

Cant we all just try to get along?
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby erti » 25 February 2019, 12:00

i'm pretty new to this forum. i'm too a girl. so far people have been pretty welcoming.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Eryx » 25 February 2019, 20:21

mxguy01 wrote:Yes they are annoying. Some days I find myself able to ignore them with issue and other days they really do get bothersome. I often think there should be a waiting period of X days until a new user can post. Perhaps that may cut down on them as you noted these folks generally make their crap post and then never return. Perhaps the waiting period and needing to return later would provide some deterrent.
This only works with considerable traffic. We're already at a point where there are few regulars, keeping people from posting would make the forum be even slower, which would snowball into people not coming back to check if there's new stuff and the newcomers not bothering to come back after registering. It would effectively kill GFO.

I'm probably one of the few that don't really care about the "weird" threads. I try to reply and help, regardless of the content. I use the forum by clicking on "New posts" at the top and I don't really follow the daily threads because I get bored trying to look for where I stopped and following conversations that spam multiple pages.

What bothers me more is bad English, people who don't come back (dude, I'm spending time writing three paragraphs to help you out, at least read it), that sort of thing. Sometimes I can be a little rude or lack patience, but mostly I try to be helpful and the content isn't really bothering me.

People are of different ages and, as Derek said, people from other countries are finding their way here more often. That cultural clash can be bothersome on occasion, but it's not that hard to deal with.

I've left GTF, I think, a couple times and after a few months I came back with a different mindset and recharged to be an active participant. The content has always been changing and it's something I've grown accustomed to. I do miss the times when there were many regulars, back then you could always have your clique of like-minded people while still being somewhat close to people who were different, so things were way more interesting. Forums are giving room to "universal" places where everything can be shared and discussed. I don't like it, but there's no going against it. So I'm going to stick around for as long as possible, while there are still people here that I love and grew up with.

Maybe we could play around with the sub-sections and suggestions for engagement. A shake-up is always welcome.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Brasileiro » 25 February 2019, 20:46

Do not forget that one of the reasons why some people do not come back is that their parents/spouse/partner whoever, finds out and forbids them to come back. Not everybody is in a position to access gay fora without punishment....
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby RJD » 26 February 2019, 07:07

I’d be sad to see you go Sherri, I’ve only been around here for a few months but in that time I think I’ve smiled at your offered advice the most. I do think that there is a mix of misunderstanding of the purpose of the forums, and perhaps a disclaimer will help with that. As for the “weird” posts, I’ll admit to having used the “Mark all topics read” button with more frequency lately. I suppose I should be thankful that so many are aptly titled and I don’t even bother with them. I rarely need to remind myself that I’m older than a big chunk and am a bit prudish to boot.

Not that I know you well enough to offer a valid assumption, but it does seem like certain members have carried the burden of replying to others beyond what is fair to expect; you come to mind when I think of that group. Perhaps it’s simply burn out and unfair expectations on yourself when you do return? I can share that I found this forum by utter accident, and I joined out of nostalgia from my AOL, Yahoo, and Alta Vista groups. I’ve found a few times when I thought I was able to give some form of feedback or advice to others and that was nice, and I’ve received tons of great advice (thank you PopTart); I couldn’t imagine the stress of feeling as if that was an obligation.

I do hope you find an answer that is actually helpful!
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Subra » 26 February 2019, 14:31

You often have valuable and interesting things to say Sherri, I'm sorry that creepy strangers are pushing you away from a community that very much loves you.
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