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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby GaySpacePirateKing » 28 February 2019, 11:55

Derek wrote:Right. Because she's talking about the forum, not gay men as a group. Despite your weird aversion to the notion, a community is defined by the people who actually make it up, and Sherri has every right to suggest that we could stand fewer threads about sex dreams where you're fucking your brother. That's not persecution or elitism; it's an opinion fit for anyone who isn't inured to the excesses of a prurient online culture where no one can be bothered to express a thought that doesn't center squarely around their own asshole.


I've obviously read into things way too much which I guess I've sometimes got a tendency to do especially on forums. I thought I was seeing a clash between older members and newer members over what's ok to post, and people being puritanical towards sexual content.

Your obviously right though that we could do without lots of pointless trivial threads and that people can still be respectful whilst talking about sex.

In my stubbornness though I still think I've got a point that there is ultimately nothing wrong with people talking about things like guzzling cum or anal dilation. The thread asking about 'breeding' and whether you prefer to cum in a guy or not is potentially one of those trivial pointless threads that some might want to discourage, but the way i see it I think its just a bit of fun really and there is nothing wrong with talking about it.

In any case sorry earlier Derek and Sherri for reading into things too much.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby mxguy01 » 28 February 2019, 14:56

Brenden wrote:We’ve now put up the disclaimer before registration, and I will be hiding Relationships, Sex and Sexuality from guests so that potential new members don’t get the impression of this place that that section gives.



Maybe hide wasteland too? I'm thinking such threads get dumped into there so that should likewise be hidden.

Sweeping out trash under the carpet so to speak. XD
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Brenden » 28 February 2019, 16:59

mxguy01 wrote:
Brenden wrote:We’ve now put up the disclaimer before registration, and I will be hiding Relationships, Sex and Sexuality from guests so that potential new members don’t get the impression of this place that that section gives.

Maybe hide wasteland too? I'm thinking such threads get dumped into there so that should likewise be hidden.

Sweeping out trash under the carpet so to speak. XD

Way ahead of you — the Wasteland has always been hidden from guests and bots!
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 28 February 2019, 18:33

But that’s bigoted against shitposters!

I have a dream. That one day community-building members and shitposting anal dilaters will join hands (or genitals; we don’t judge here) and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual, “Thank U, Next.”
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
Ramzus: I can admit that I'm horny just about 24/7
homomorphism: I used to not think your name was deshay and that Erick was just being racist
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby GaySpacePirateKing » 28 February 2019, 20:30

poolerboy0077 wrote:But that’s bigoted against shitposters!

I have a dream. That one day community-building members and shitposting anal dilaters will join hands (or genitals; we don’t judge here) and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual, “Thank U, Next.”


Your mean pooler :lol: but ok I get it.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby GaySpacePirateKing » 28 February 2019, 23:38

Brenden wrote:Way ahead of you — the Wasteland has always been hidden from guests and bots!


What about making some new forum sections for more serious discussions like a news/current events section and a debate section?

I thought that a gay rights or gay issues type of section might be a good idea as well.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Brenden » 28 February 2019, 23:43

Having such sections could help shape the perception of the forum away from what it seems to be now and more towards a general discussion/socialisation website.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby GaySpacePirateKing » 28 February 2019, 23:51

Brenden wrote:Having such sections could help shape the perception of the forum away from what it seems to be now and more towards a general discussion/socialisation website.


But your all complaining that there are too many trivial topics. I can't think of a better way to attract more serious members than creating sections for more intelligent discussion. I find that most forums have those kind of sections and they can still be friendly. It doesn't need to be serious sections anyway it could be like hobbies and interests sections like a video games section or a films/tv section. I think it would just give people more things to bond over.

Had another idea also that a creative section might be a good idea for posting things like drawings, poems and short stories if people are into that sort of thing.

A mental health support section would also be really worth it I think!
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Brenden » 28 February 2019, 23:53

You mistook what I said as criticism. I was agreeing.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 1 March 2019, 00:21

I would caution in making too many sections for fear that it’ll make the forum look barren.
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Brenden » 1 March 2019, 08:55

poolerboy0077 wrote:I would caution in making too many sections for fear that it’ll make the forum look barren.

Yes, which is why we've kept it to three discussion ones until now. But the problem now is that the only non-general and non-introduction section being RSS gives the impression that the main purpose of this forum is RSS questions.

So I'm open to suggestions for a few new sections, and we'll probably be splitting RSS into "Relationships" and "Sex and Sexuality" as someone else suggested.

News and Politics?
…?

Perhaps I'll go through general discussions topics and see what sections would make sense to sort them into.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby rxxli » 1 March 2019, 22:51

GaySpacePirateKing wrote:The threads about guzzling cum don't bother me. I mean I find them just as trival and childish as you, but they do not bother me to the point where I think eww gross must ban now. If people want to post threads like that so what. It would obviously be inapropriate to talk about those things with random strangers on the street, but in on an anonymous online forum filled with gay men I wouldn't have thought people would mind so much.

I think this is one of the problems here. Why is everyone treating forums like some wasteland where you can anonymously talk about shit that you would never say out loud to a stranger or a friend? I find a group of strangers and a forum to be pretty similar. People should at least try to act like a semi normal human being for fucks sake. Is that too much to ask?
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 1 March 2019, 23:23

Hey guys, you want to see me fart the alphabet? Someone hand me a lighter.
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
Ramzus: I can admit that I'm horny just about 24/7
homomorphism: I used to not think your name was deshay and that Erick was just being racist
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby acpro » 4 March 2019, 02:13

Brenden wrote:
poolerboy0077 wrote:I would caution in making too many sections for fear that it’ll make the forum look barren.

Yes, which is why we've kept it to three discussion ones until now. But the problem now is that the only non-general and non-introduction section being RSS gives the impression that the main purpose of this forum is RSS questions.

So I'm open to suggestions for a few new sections, and we'll probably be splitting RSS into "Relationships" and "Sex and Sexuality" as someone else suggested.

News and Politics?
…?

Perhaps I'll go through general discussions topics and see what sections would make sense to sort them into.



News, Politics, and Gossip

Gossip brings people and it's also fun and relevant to our community. So many LGBT people are into pop culture and celebrity. I, personally, am as well. Who doesn't like reading TMZ, YouTube drama channels, and other trash publications? It's fun! Let's embrace it. There are multiple other forums in phpBB style or similar that are flourishing based on just gossip. I'm not going to name them because I think we should be getting that traffic.

EDIT: I was going to edit this to say maybe "Pop Culture" too but I really think the "Gossip" is important. But I don't know anymore.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Brasileiro » 4 March 2019, 10:14

In that direction you could have a "Hot (item) now" .
Like now you have the Jussie Smollett case in the USA and "Leaving Neverland" but it could also be twitterwars between celebs you have noticed and have an opinion on or even just celebs and royals that make the news for other reasons.
If you get people who automatically split into accusers and defenders (agreeing and not agreeing) you get lively discussions. It can be either LGBT related or not. But at least current. Facebook (and other online) pages of (online)magazines thrive on that.
It combines "news" and "gossip".

Politics could be seperate and stay more serious.

rxxli wrote:I think this is one of the problems here. Why is everyone treating forums like some wasteland where you can anonymously talk about shit that you would never say out loud to a stranger or a friend? I find a group of strangers and a forum to be pretty similar. People should at least try to act like a semi normal human being for fucks sake. Is that too much to ask?

I agree. I think one should be able to be explicit, there is no need to hide that we do have sex, and can have problems with it or questions about it, but you could formulate things like how you would ask/tell a gay friend, a bartender or, if you really want to leave out gross stuff, a parent. I always feel a forum is like a party where you only know a few people or nobody. You need to have certain attitude that is acceptable.

A rude manner of formulating things, utter porn talk, is uncalled for. It is also, I feel, put in those wordings to turn the poster on. Or he was already.
That is what is so bothering. It would feel as harrassment or assult if they would say such things in real life.
But I feel moderating can do a lot. Such posters should get a warning and the thread (often no more than the OP) removed. I know it feels ridiculous that one has to police a bunch of adults, but when it comes to sex, there are always perverts and they need to be corrected or weeded out.
It is why there are bouncers. They try to stop the wrong people at the door and kick people who misbehave out. Admins and moderaters should do the same.

I wonder if we could get a thumbs down button? People who get many dislikes should get the message? Or even after a certain amount dislikes for the same post, they are asked to leave? Other than when one is reporting a post, everybody can actually see it is not widely accepted and we all feel more responsible too.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Eryx » 7 March 2019, 16:26

I agree about Gossip and I agree with most of what Brasileiro said, except I'm completely against a Dislike button.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby DeclanMA » 11 March 2019, 22:00

Make this a porn and queer lifestyle destination. Become the new tumblr.

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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Mod » 14 March 2019, 06:57

Interesting time to randomly check in here.

I'm pretty tired so rather than just repeat myself as much as I usually do when I see you around I'll just go with I :heart: you Sherri.

I'll skip over specific reasons why I left and rarely come back but in a general sense it's very much in line with you + getting really sick of alt right people JAQing off and baiting people for years with their bullshit (I guess the teen forum moreso back when I still felt fine going there).

These days I like chatrooms so much more because it feels like I get to have a nice conversation or the quick hit of a dumb joke and an immediate response.

Mostly active in discord rooms and a slack that outgrew the podcast it was started for.

Anyway the actual reason I came here was to say I've started a job working as an admin at a medical school and it's pretty much the best job I've had benefits, mutual respect, and work wise and it's nice to be around a very specific blend of people who make me want to grow for the better because they all seem friendly, highly intelligent, and interesting to talk to. Also the last half hour of friday seems to be sit down with wine time. I would post this in a more relevant thread but it's likely to be lost in a sea of peeps who don't recognise me. Sometimes it seems like ya'll are getting crushed by life so I hope that whatever happens things look up and y'don't get boiled under strain.

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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby DeclanMA » 14 March 2019, 10:10

And it's four months since no new introductions on GTF.

Grats Brenda, you broke it just like you always wanted :thumbsup:
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Brenden » 14 March 2019, 10:21

DeclanMA wrote:And it's four months since no new introductions on GTF.

GTF was closed and archived.
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