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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby DeclanMA » 14 March 2019, 10:25

Doesn't matter, you've wanted that ever since no one would accept you taking over and no one's called you out over it.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Brenden » 14 March 2019, 11:21

I never "took over", lol, and I'm personally pissed that the shitty Discord server sucked the forum dry.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Eryx » 14 March 2019, 12:34

Mod wrote:These days I like chatrooms so much more because it feels like I get to have a nice conversation or the quick hit of a dumb joke and an immediate response.
Great to see you around, man! On the off-chance you're coming back to check for replies, what kinds of chatrooms are you active in? I've been looking for new people to make friends with online, it's been a while and I miss that. But I never really got around to using Discord that much.

Good on you for landing a good job where you feel great! I hope more opportunities come from here on out.

DeclanMA wrote:Doesn't matter, you've wanted that ever since no one would accept you taking over and no one's called you out over it.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Mr. Fox » 20 March 2019, 20:03

Do what you think is best for you, Sherri. Also wanted to say that you've given us a lot of great advice over the years. Thanks for that.

I tend to read more than I post, that's how I am in every community I'm in. I'm also pretty terrible at socializing. I still like this place, but I also have other things going on in my life so I don't visit as often as I used to.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Jacketh » 22 March 2019, 05:51

I'd like to thank you for your part on GTF too Sherri. I wasn't around that much when you were but I did find myself agreeing with you a lot when I read through all the staff threads. You were a bit help with the House Cup I hosted a few years back too.

In regards to this thread, I just think it comes down to a lot of people not searching for forums anymore. A lot of people forums would attract in the 00s are sat on Reddit right now, like /r/gaybros. I've always argued forums are better because of the community aspect, but clearly that isn't the trend and is why GTF is closed now, where young people are on Discord gay servers too. Or Twitter.

Brenden wrote:I'm personally pissed that the shitty Discord server sucked the forum dry.


It certainly did not help but the forum activity was clearly heading in one direction for quite a well. And the newer users and small little community that signed up and despised me were too interested in creating their own little discord servers sharing nudes rather than posting on the forum at all. The fact every new user in the last year of GTF would FREAK if someone called another user a bad word, or god forbid, an argument take place, just made it no longer feel like GTF to me. The problem with the Discord was in the end it became Discord exclusive users who didn't even go on GTF. It would have been interesting to see what would have happened if it was intergrated differently (a post or activity requirement - which I did advocate for but wasn't popular.)

I still feel very sad about the way it all ended.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Jacketh » 22 March 2019, 08:26

In fact, might it be possible to put a notice on GTF or a thanks? I've noticed that a lot of people just think it's a wasteland of activity and has been neglected and hasn't been purposefully shut. A few prominent users have asked me WTF happened to it.

Unless you want it that way, I dunno :P
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Justin » 27 March 2019, 19:08

Brenden wrote:
DeclanMA wrote:And it's four months since no new introductions on GTF.

GTF was closed and archived.

Whoa. :cry:

Sherri, I haven't had many opportunities to interact with you, but I'm glad you're here. <3. I hope that even if you do decide to move on that you'll check back in once in a while.

I can also appreciate the sentiment of outgrowing the forums.

I first rolled up to GTFN in 2004 (BACK IN MY DAY THERE WAS ONLY GTF AND WE WALKED UPHILL TO SCHOOL BOTH WAYS IN THE SNOW) and it was pretty instrumental in me figuring out I was gay. I pretty distinctly remember that I was poking around the internet for porn and somehow stumbled across the site. Growing up in bumblefuck, I only ever knew one person, a guy named Jay that my parents called "Jay the gay" and he was rather stereotypical. I always had figured being gay meant I had to be like him and have the lisp, etc. I remember the night I found GTF I realized that there were people just like me and that being gay wasn't a choice or a behavior.

For a while when I was a n00b I was rather quiet and not very popular, and I don't think Insey (original admin of GTF, wayy before the split) ever particularly cared for me. After I perceived I had a small amount of social clout on GTF I began acting like a vicous psychopath, largely because I had been bullied quite a bit and it was just learned behavior to be an asshole to those I perceived to have less social clout. I still regret that. I probably scared off a lot of people.

Anyway, after attempting to run GTFN for a while and getting burned by Kevin, in a not so dissimilar vein as what led to the founding of GTFO, I briefly joined GTFO, but I had grown up a lot. I was 15 when I joined GTF and by the time all the drama was done I was 19 and in college and I'd discovered a huge part of my identity with the help of GTF(N). I had a good network of friends that I could see in person. For a good part of my teenage years some of my best friends were on the other side of that screen, but many of them had moved on as had I. Technology had also changed. Facebook had centralized a lot of internet socialization and you didn't have to sit in front of a computer to use the internet anymore and forums started drying up.

Then a few years ago I stumbled my way back through here and I still stop by once in a while, but mostly I lurk. I like catching up with many of you, but a lot of times it seems like the only activity is the "What are you doing right now", "Song of the moment", etc. threads. The quality of the interactions in those threads is pretty limited imo. I think something like a "music recommendations" thread that encouraged people to post a song and some details about what they like about it, or "oh yeah, I love that band, have you checked out $(band)?" might be more suitable for encouraging discussion instead of just a hundreds/thousands of pages of shitposting.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 1 April 2019, 14:18

Jacketh wrote:In fact, might it be possible to put a notice on GTF or a thanks? I've noticed that a lot of people just think it's a wasteland of activity and has been neglected and hasn't been purposefully shut. A few prominent users have asked me WTF happened to it.

Unless you want it that way, I dunno :P

:hug:

The end on an era. :cry: So many great conversations and beautiful people throughout my time there.
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
Ramzus: I can admit that I'm horny just about 24/7
homomorphism: I used to not think your name was deshay and that Erick was just being racist
Hunter: sometimes I think I was literally born to be a pornstar
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Jacketh » 3 April 2019, 14:40

poolerboy0077 wrote:
Jacketh wrote:In fact, might it be possible to put a notice on GTF or a thanks? I've noticed that a lot of people just think it's a wasteland of activity and has been neglected and hasn't been purposefully shut. A few prominent users have asked me WTF happened to it.

Unless you want it that way, I dunno :P

:hug:

The end on an era. :cry: So many great conversations and beautiful people throughout my time there.


It's sad. There are people I feel like I've literally grown up with on there and I'll keep in touch with for.. well, as long as I possibly hope!

I'm meeting a GTFer in London in the next week who's here from Australia, then I'm going to Lisbon at the end of the month and another GTFer told me to say hi, so certainly still having an impact :D
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 3 April 2019, 17:30

Meanwhile, to echo the president, little ol’ me is all alone here (poor me) in LA without anyone visiting me. Just because I’m an illegal Mexican doesn’t mean I’m not human! :cry:
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
Ramzus: I can admit that I'm horny just about 24/7
homomorphism: I used to not think your name was deshay and that Erick was just being racist
Hunter: sometimes I think I was literally born to be a pornstar
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby Angel » 4 April 2019, 21:32

Mod wrote:Interesting time to randomly check in here.


Definitely laughed when I read that.
I think this thread's just collecting people who've stopped back out of curiosity.

Brenden wrote:GTF was closed and archived.


That explains the dearth of posts.

I kinda fit into that awkward middle bracket of "people who were on GTF for a long time" and "people who never really got into GFO".
I was on GTF from mid-2010, only really started connecting with the community in 2011, and was basically sat on chat all the way through until I left for uni in 2014. Did the House Cup in 2016, loved it, did the cup in 2017, hated it.
I think it was that point that I realised how disconnected from the community I was, so in a way I think it was more your first point Sherri than your second. When I left GTF there was still some community, people were still talking about how the forum itself was "dying" but there were still a core of 40 or so active members, I just didn't feel like I fitted in to that community in the same way as I had done.
Part of that was I think the membership, but a lot of it just felt like I'd moved on from a teen support group.
In a similar vein, GFO had/has a similarly sized community, which obviously has been going for a long time now. At the time I turned 18 and joined here there weren't really that many members with whom I'd had regular interaction before, so I stayed mainly active on GTF, and by the time I left GTF I definitely didn't feel like I was a part of this community either. I didn't really pursue it more because I didn't (and, to an extent, still don't) feel I needed it, and also because the community is/was made up of a lot of people who'd been on GTF since before/contempraneous with me, grown out of it, moved here, and sustained their community - I didn't really feel like I wanted to put the time in to break into that community when I didn't feel like I needed to, if that makes sense.

Don't really know what I'm still rambling for, but I guess I just wanted to offer a viewpoint. It's nice to see everyone's keeping well, at least. If I ever finish uni I might pop back sometimes, who knows.
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby cyncist » 14 April 2019, 23:57

When I first joined GTFN in 2006 and then GTF in 2007, it was at a time when we didn't have much social media around except Myspace, so finding a forum made sense. What lured me to our earlier forum, besides the obvious yearning for a gay community around my age group, was that it had funny and interesting people. You had Huevos Grande who was our resident troll creep. You had Ichol who was like Derek but 100 times more condescending and vicious. You had witty posters like Cali_Editor (Colin) to provide comedic relief. You had a handful of really smart people who would say insightful things. And you had people who were just your typical teen/20-something who you could just shoot the shit with. It was laid back, though sometimes chaotic and dramatic at times because mixing homosexuality and youth creates this sort of climate, but it was really enjoyable for sure.


Are any of those guys still around?
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 15 April 2019, 01:20

Colin dropped by not too long ago. Oh and René I think has LP as a friend on Facebook. That guy has had an interesting evolution.
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
Ramzus: I can admit that I'm horny just about 24/7
homomorphism: I used to not think your name was deshay and that Erick was just being racist
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Re: Outgrowing the forums

Unread postby René » 15 April 2019, 07:57

cyncist wrote:
When I first joined GTFN in 2006 and then GTF in 2007, it was at a time when we didn't have much social media around except Myspace, so finding a forum made sense. What lured me to our earlier forum, besides the obvious yearning for a gay community around my age group, was that it had funny and interesting people. You had Huevos Grande who was our resident troll creep. You had Ichol who was like Derek but 100 times more condescending and vicious. You had witty posters like Cali_Editor (Colin) to provide comedic relief. You had a handful of really smart people who would say insightful things. And you had people who were just your typical teen/20-something who you could just shoot the shit with. It was laid back, though sometimes chaotic and dramatic at times because mixing homosexuality and youth creates this sort of climate, but it was really enjoyable for sure.

Are any of those guys still around?

Answered in your thread :)

(Will get to the other things mentioned in this thread in due course.)
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