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Really like my best friend now

Unread postby dynamicdoggo » 9 September 2019, 13:18

Not sure how to go about this but I like my best friend now... a lot. He knows I'm gay and he's supposedly straight. There's a few things he has said which I've brushed off but when I think about it now, I feel like he was trying to tell me something but I disregarded it as jokes.

Thing is... I'm moving out to a different city and I won't be able to come back for 3 months or so. We will still talk but it won't be the same seeing each other. I don't know whether to tell him? I don't want to ruin a friendship but I kinda wanna try things out tbh. As I said, he has said some things which have made me question it now, but I was highly insecure a while back so didn't think much of it.
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Re: Really like my best friend now

Unread postby Eryx » 9 September 2019, 13:47

I told my best friend that I liked him when we were kids and it was fine, but you won't really know unless you do it...
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Re: Really like my best friend now

Unread postby NvM » 9 September 2019, 14:52

You are in the driver's seat on this one.

You should definitely tell him your going out of town for 3mo.
If he sounds interested in your travels you 2 can still remain in contact. Take it gradual but put him in the loop on the decisions you have to make while traveling. If things go well you can plan a temporary return weekend to hang out.

Almost everyone has had a very best friend and i can say with mine, our lives to date would have been much more successful together if we put a ring on it back than. Same sex relationships are no big thing today. No real consequences in developed countries. Even with this friend we have grown apart a lot so nothing is 4ever. Lost opportunity, maybe not for me given the social gay environment "back than".


The gay dating pool is limited and frankly it sux so buy a dog and be happy? Marriage (who you file taxes jointly with) is a POWERFUL decision in both your lives.
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Re: Really like my best friend now

Unread postby dynamicdoggo » 9 September 2019, 19:07

Eryx wrote:I told my best friend that I liked him when we were kids and it was fine, but you won't really know unless you do it...


I know, I still feel like he could be insecure about it still and I know how it feels so I don't want to make it any worse for him. :/
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Re: Really like my best friend now

Unread postby Eryx » 9 September 2019, 22:12

Just be very clear about things.

"Hey, man, I have to confess that I have feelings for you, deeper than just friendship. I have to say this to you because I'm leaving for a while, I'm going to miss you, and I wanted to clear things out before I left. If you don't feel the same way, don't worry, I'll never force myself onto you and I won't make things awkward, I'll just deal with my feelings and meet someone else. I can differentiate our friendship from these feelings that could go away. I just wanted to let you know, so that if there's the slightest chance we could try something, I don't let it go to waste. I hope you don't mind, and I hope that it doesn't make it awkward between us!"
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Re: Really like my best friend now

Unread postby Jryski » 10 September 2019, 20:50

Eryx wrote:"Hey, man, I have to confess that I have feelings for you, deeper than just friendship. I have to say this to you because I'm leaving for a while, I'm going to miss you, and I wanted to clear things out before I left. If you don't feel the same way, don't worry, I'll never force myself onto you and I won't make things awkward, I'll just deal with my feelings and meet someone else. I can differentiate our friendship from these feelings that could go away. I just wanted to let you know, so that if there's the slightest chance we could try something, I don't let it go to waste. I hope you don't mind, and I hope that it doesn't make it awkward between us!"


yeah, Just copy and paste this and slide it over into his DM's! :P Eryx did all the work fer ya. What a trooper! :3
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Re: Really like my best friend now

Unread postby Eryx » Today, 11:20

I wish people would follow through and update us with the details! What happened here? Did he respond? Did he just say "ok" and went? I love the fiction!
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