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School Bullying

Unread postby Scaffolder » 9 June 2020, 16:51

I was bullied at school. School bullying is vile. Bullying can cause mental health problems, like depression, PTSD, OCD, psychosis, and suicide.
Bullying needs to be stamped down on whether it is towards gay people or straight people.
What do you guys think about school bullying?
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby erti » 9 June 2020, 17:00

I was bullied in school.. I think most are no matter who you are. I was made fun of all the time. some thought I would shoot down the school, thought I was weird, been called dirty. I'm pretty sure most talked about me behind my back. Then there's my friends mother at the time said shit about me "talking to myself" while she saw me walking home.
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby Scaffolder » 9 June 2020, 17:05

Thanks for the reply. I hope you are doing well now.
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby René » 10 June 2020, 19:03

I would say I experienced some autism-related teasing rather than bullying. I don't think many kids at my school really meant any harm; they were just trying to be funny, and most kids were nice enough. But I went to a pretty nice Christian secondary school (and primary school before that) in Holland and almost no one knew I was gay. Those who did never brought it up or told others as far as I know.
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby Severelius » 10 June 2020, 19:12

When I was in school I had what could most accurately be described as 'anger issues' to a pretty significant degree. So I was liable to irrationally fly off the handle at pretty minor provocations a lot of the time.

So you can imagine how much fun the other kids got out of purposely winding me up just to see me go into meltdown mode. That apparently never got old for them, even after like 9 years of doing it.

I like to think that it wasn't that bad but I remember being pretty fucking miserable and hating everything about myself on a near-permanent basis between the ages of 7 and 16.
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby Eos » 10 June 2020, 20:44

I fucking hated school. Especially when I was younger than 16. I really hated that people could get away with it just because they were young. I learned to stay away from my schoolmates and being alone for most of my childhood. They never suffer consequences for behaving like assholes.
One time someone tried to rob me while I was eating. He quickly got away without anything. I was mad at him but I immediately gave up, what could I do ? He didn't steal anything in the end, it would have my word against his.

I didn't suffer from much physical violence though.

But I'm finally free and happy now ^^
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby Eryx » 11 June 2020, 14:23

I hated school with a passion because of bullying. I only learned how to deal with it and avoid being a main target when I was in my senior year. Everything got better after school, but my personality still has strong signs of the abuse I suffered in my formative years.

It's possible to move past them, but it definitely takes some work.

Interestingly enough, all the bullies I met after school were nice to me. Some apologized, some ignored the issue and some didn't realize that they were bullies back then. I'm a much stronger person now and I have some achievements to talk about, so they usually can't resort to the old moves without looking silly.
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby Frigid » 11 June 2020, 15:25

I was never bullied. Teased sometimes. We had a fairly good year group throughout schooling, where most of us got on as friends. There was one guy who got bullied a fair bit due to his behaviours and personal hygiene (which in hindsight were a result of his terrible home life).

Strangely, I’ve seen more instances of bullying in the working environment than I ever did while in education.
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 11 June 2020, 17:20

Me as a child: “You like acting a little girl, huh?” <taunts and chokes effeminate gay boys>

Me as an openly gay adult: [see above]
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
Ramzus: I can admit that I'm horny just about 24/7
homomorphism: I used to not think your name was deshay and that Erick was just being racist
Hunter: sometimes I think I was literally born to be a pornstar
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby Eryx » 11 June 2020, 18:47

Frigid wrote:Strangely, I’ve seen more instances of bullying in the working environment than I ever did while in education.
Yeah, I can see that. I feel more resourceful now and it has never gotten to that point with me (so far), but I've seen other people break because of it. I feel like it's all easier to navigate though, because adults aren't afraid to go to HR and talk about their issues at work. The only thing that matters is whether or not the HR department is one that acts on reports.

As for the hygiene comment, that's kind of funny, Brazilians are very into hygiene, so in the context of bullying, the worst I can imagine is someone making fun of someone else's cologne (some scents are usually considered low-class around here). Someone coming to school smelling or looking dirty just doesn't happen, even in weird households.
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby Eos » 11 June 2020, 20:42

Eryx wrote:Interestingly enough, all the bullies I met after school were nice to me. Some apologized, some ignored the issue and some didn't realize that they were bullies back then. I'm a much stronger person now and I have some achievements to talk about, so they usually can't resort to the old moves without looking silly.


Indeed, that reminded of my actual best friend (that I kinda mention often around here ^^)

We talked about our pasts, including how was school for us. He told me he was the kind of people to bully for fun, the kind that I really hated at the time. I couldn't possibly see him that way. I guess we all change, and that school doesn't really define us. We think it does but I guess school only shows who you really are. Be it bad or good. And like most places in the world, you will not find help very often.

For the future I have absolutely no worries. Once I'm done with my studies, I know I will be able to work in a lot of places, there is always jobs for us, so even if can't fight where I work, I know I will be able to just go away.
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby Magic J » 2 September 2020, 21:00

I was actually pretty fine at school. Bit weird, since I was a scrawny short-arse with specs and a liking for reading fantasy novels. Only thing that's changed is that I'm more into sci-fi now. Honestly... I'd probably have bullied me. :P

But yeah, not so much of a problem at my school, seemingly. Wasn't even a fancy school or anything. We had some legitimately terrifying senior teachers who'd put the fear of God in you if you were causing problems, though, so maybe that helped keep us rabble in place.

Frigid wrote:Strangely, I’ve seen more instances of bullying in the working environment than I ever did while in education.

Yeah actually, that's probably true for me, too. Unfortunately, dickheads in school tended to remain there, spreading their dickery around and just generally shitting up the place. I imagine they're all in some form of managerial position, now. Likely in finance or recruiting. :P

Dickheads at my work, however, rarely seem to last very long. No HR or anything, management's rarely involved. They just don't last long. Strange that... :shifty:
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby Jasper1 » 2 September 2020, 21:20

I went to a standard state school in a poor area but fortunately didn’t directly experience bullying, although I witnessed it a lot with others.

I probably avoided it mainly because I’m the youngest of 9 children so learnt at home how to protect my space and because I was not someone who would back down from an argument. I still hated school though!

The bullies at school were boys who had difficult lives at home, and or had parents who physically abused them so they were angry and hitting out at others to make themselves feel better. Ultimately they back off if you don’t back down. That’s my experience anyway.

I would agree that bullying does happen in the workplace also but hopefully because we are now adults we are in a better position to handle it.
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby Jzone » 2 September 2020, 23:12

Bullying is terrible whether at school, work, in public or in the family. I was bullied briefly in public elementary and middle school in the 1970's, probably because I was fairly quiet and tended to make friends with the shunned kids. The bullies lost interest in me when I didn't back down or just plain ignored them. I was challenged to an after school fight once at the "fighting corner" — a wide sidewalk a couple blocks from school where someone had spilled red paint. (We all imagined it was blood.) I walked a different route home that day and never heard a word about it.
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby GaySpacePirateKing » 3 September 2020, 23:13

I had one class in high school that was particularly bad. There were a group of boys that sat together a desk behind me and they would do things like kick the back of my chair, ping bits of paper at me and make fun of me. I just put up with it for the most part, wish I had stood up and punched one of them.

The stupid teacher did absolutely nothing to stop them, in fact half the time she would either leave the classroom completely unsupervised or get some hopeless substitute to watch over us whilst she was probably away in the teachers cupboard downing a bottle. She didn't have a clue.
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby Stephen68 » 4 September 2020, 00:58

Yes I was bullied at school for years until I got my own back during physical ed we were playing rugby and tackled my bully hard i was never bothered after that
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby acpro » 4 September 2020, 02:25

I was pretty much bullied for 2 years of my life in 6-7 grade. Then I met one of my best girlfriend's to this day. She probably helped saved my life. I wasn't necessarily suicidal but I had suicidal thoughts. To this day, at 34, she's still one of my best friends. It's funny, because if I see those bullies out now, they mostly act like nothing happened, and we should be cool.
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby Jryski » 8 September 2020, 23:49

I was bullied really bad in middle school but after I moved to highschool, I changed the way I dress and look and people mostly left me alone. Didn’t really have friends till the end of sophmore year of highschool. Kids my age just don’t really enjoy being around me all that much. I eventually got more confident and my personality really started to show. Now, people generally like me :P
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Re: School Bullying

Unread postby dragonfire » 8 September 2020, 23:54

I wasn’t really bullied. People bothered me but it wasn’t really in an organised or especially targeted way. I was just the weird kid. I guess I slipped under most people’s radars for the most part, which wasn’t a bad thing.
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