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Unread postby McTaggartfan » 24 July 2022, 03:17

Did anyone here learn in school about "New Netherland," because somehow I'm failing to recall learning about it during any of the many years I was torturously forced to learn about U.S. history?
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Also, why tf are people freaking out so much about monkeypox—by which, I really mean why are gay people freaking out so much? Is it really so terribly inconceivable that, for a little while, one simply cease having sex every other day with multiple people?

I've nothing against the practice, personally, but I don't see why it's so necessary and essential to one's life that it can't be suppressed for a while. I mean, honestly, is sex truly so very important to most gay people? I don't see most bi people running around, romping about in that manner—even if that is the stereotype. I guess I just don't much understand everyone's fascination with sex (or dating, for that matter), which might have to do with the fact that I only cared much about it in my life when I was hypomanic and hypersexual—which, in turn, led to my mother all but calling me a whore, among other things (she was an interesting woman, I suppose).
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby René » 24 July 2022, 06:38

McTaggartfan wrote:Did anyone here learn in school about "New Netherland," because somehow I'm failing to recall learning about it during any of the many years I was torturously forced to learn about U.S. history?

Probably. I have to assume so, but I don't remember much other than what happens in the epic video game Colonization. Definitely learned about some other Dutch colonies (the Dutch "East Indies" vs "West Indies" IIRC).

I do know old New York was once New Amsterdam. Why they changed it, I can't say.

McTaggartfan wrote:Also, why tf are people freaking out so much about monkeypox—by which, I really mean why are gay people freaking out so much? Is it really so terribly inconceivable that, for a little while, one simply cease having sex every other day with multiple people?

I've nothing against the practice, personally, but I don't see why it's so necessary and essential to one's life that it can't be suppressed for a while. I mean, honestly, is sex truly so very important to most gay people? I don't see most bi people running around, romping about in that manner—even if that is the stereotype. I guess I just don't much understand everyone's fascination with sex (or dating, for that matter), which might have to do with the fact that I only cared much about it in my life when I was hypomanic and hypersexual—which, in turn, led to my mother all but calling me a whore, among other things (she was an interesting woman, I suppose).

I know, like, this whole thing could be over in a couple of weeks if people could just contain their urges. But noooooo, we're not supposed to say that 'cuz it's homophoooobic. :rolleyes:

Instead, we have exponential growth.

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Apparently the facts are homophobic, given how some 97% of cases are in "MSM".

I have something against the practice, which is that it's asking for the spread of diseases like this, and it all but assures you'll have a multitude of long-term and often permanent viral infections (endless strains of HPV, HSV-1, HSV-2, CMV...) that are increasingly well-documented to increase the risk of cognitive decline, dementia and cancer. It's a public-health disaster.

As for bi people, I think they just blend in with gay or straight people as the situation demands, so they don't stand out as a group. :P

Also, what do you mean was? Is she no longer with us? (That seems like a big thing to forget. :runaway:)
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby McTaggartfan » 24 July 2022, 07:40

René wrote:I know, like, this whole thing could be over in a couple of weeks if people could just contain their urges. But noooooo, we're not supposed to say that 'cuz it's homophoooobic. :rolleyes:

Instead, we have exponential growth.

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Apparently the facts are homophobic, given how some 97% of cases are in "MSM".

I have something against the practice, which is that it's asking for the spread of diseases like this, and it all but assures you'll have a multitude of long-term and often permanent viral infections (endless strains of HPV, HSV-1, HSV-2, CMV...) that are increasingly well-documented to increase the risk of cognitive decline, dementia and cancer. It's a public-health disaster.

As for bi people, I think they just blend in with gay or straight people as the situation demands, so they don't stand out as a group. :P

Also, what do you mean was? Is she no longer with us? (That seems like a big thing to forget. :runaway:)


Who is saying the facts are homophobic? If they are saying that, then they are plainly mistaken.

And what would you have people do, Rene? Be celibate their entire lives sooner than hook up every now and then? If the only options are celibacy or a dating-relationship, I suspect I'd sooner engage the former alternative than have to date someone. But is that honestly a fair thing to expect of someone? I'm not saying I'm particularly interested in hooking up with people, since sex tends to be incredibly unimportant to me and remains a very low priority in my life; yet at the same time, I don't think it's quite fair to expect someone as (often) aromantic as me to remain celibate forever.

And yes, I've noticed personally how often bi people get lumped into one group or another. I can't tell you how many people find it somehow unfathomable that I should ever be attracted, sexually or otherwise, to a woman. It pisses me off sometimes.

Lastly, my mother is alive so far as I know, I just haven't done more than exchange a text or two with her in around 4 years.

And of course you had to go and use a graph, despite my telling you how bad I am with them :facepalm2:
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

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McTaggartfan wrote:Who is saying the facts are homophobic? If they are saying that, then they are plainly mistaken.

Many public-health authorities seem intent on not mentioning that almost all cases are in gay/bi men having anonymous sex, instead insisting the virus spreads through any close contact. But then how can we focus our response to this virus where we need to? They're making a lot of straight people paranoid and putting a lot of gay/bi people at ease even though they're at high risk. I don't think it's doing us any favours. I think we can handle the truth.

McTaggartfan wrote:And what would you have people do, Rene? Be celibate their entire lives sooner than hook up every now and then? If the only options are celibacy or a dating-relationship, I suspect I'd sooner engage the former alternative than have to date someone. But is that honestly a fair thing to expect of someone? I'm not saying I'm particularly interested in hooking up with people, since sex tends to be incredibly unimportant to me and remains a very low priority in my life; yet at the same time, I don't think it's quite fair to expect someone as (often) aromantic as me to remain celibate forever.

You don't have to be celibate to avoid STIs! I just recommend sticking to committed relationships, rather than joining this massive, limitless sexual network spanning the globe in which monkeypox and many other diseases spread like wildfire.

McTaggartfan wrote:Lastly, my mother is alive so far as I know, I just haven't done more than exchange a text or two with her in around 4 years.

Ah, it's just funny you talk about her in the past tense. :P

McTaggartfan wrote:And of course you had to go and use a graph, despite my telling you how bad I am with them :facepalm2:

When it comes to disease cases, steep rise bad. Does that help? :D
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

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McTaggartfan wrote:Who is saying the facts are homophobic? If they are saying that, then they are plainly mistaken.

Here's an example:

LGBTQ center says dept. of health's monkeypox findings are 'unfair' and 'creating more stigmatizing language'

The monkeypox virus is not the only disease spreading in Florida, but there is also an outbreak of meningococcal disease as well.
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The Florida Department of Health reports that the majority of monkeypox and meningococcal disease cases in the state are among gay and bisexual men.

"If you look at the data for monkeypox and meningococcal disease, as well as the demographics, it is affecting predominantly the MSM community,” Dr. Ulyee Choe, director of the Florida Department of Health in Pinellas County said during a virtual conference this week. "The vast majority, almost all of the cases, have been from the MSM community.

However, Choe also said everyone is at risk of contracting these illnesses.
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The Compass Community Center, an LGBTQ center in Lake Worth, says the Florida Department of Health's statistics is causing harm to already marginalized communities.

"I think that that is an unfair statement placed on the LGBTQ community and gay and bisexual men, only because both meningitis and monkeypox are not a sexually transmitted disease," said Julie Seaver, executive director of the Compass Center. "They’re transmitted through respiratory tracts, skin to skin contact, and it’s just unfair and it’s just creating more stigmatizing language around the gay and bisexual male community.

"(These illnesses are) a cause for concern, not just for the gay community but all communities."

Florida Department of Health responds

"We are going to tell the truth and we can’t have the fear of stigma get in the way of making sure that this community is safe.”

The Florida Department of Health also points to this study by the New England Journal of Medicine, which finds that 98% of people infected with monkeypox were gay and bisexual men.

Apparently the statistics are unfair. :shrug:

(Never mind the fact that 95%+ of MPX cases are thought to have been transmitted by gay/bi people having sex, that the virus is found in semen, and that HPV and HSV are considered STIs while also being spread through skin-to-skin contact during sex.)
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby McTaggartfan » 31 July 2022, 01:27

It's spelled 'favorite,' not 'favourite.' Ye Brits spell things incorrectly, and it bothers me to no end! The only thing you get correct is 'enquire.' I'll accept 'gray,' but still have a few mixed feelings about that spelling.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby PopTart » 31 July 2022, 07:28

René wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:Who is saying the facts are homophobic? If they are saying that, then they are plainly mistaken.

Here's an example:

LGBTQ center says dept. of health's monkeypox findings are 'unfair' and 'creating more stigmatizing language'

The monkeypox virus is not the only disease spreading in Florida, but there is also an outbreak of meningococcal disease as well.
...
The Florida Department of Health reports that the majority of monkeypox and meningococcal disease cases in the state are among gay and bisexual men.

"If you look at the data for monkeypox and meningococcal disease, as well as the demographics, it is affecting predominantly the MSM community,” Dr. Ulyee Choe, director of the Florida Department of Health in Pinellas County said during a virtual conference this week. "The vast majority, almost all of the cases, have been from the MSM community.

However, Choe also said everyone is at risk of contracting these illnesses.
...
The Compass Community Center, an LGBTQ center in Lake Worth, says the Florida Department of Health's statistics is causing harm to already marginalized communities.

"I think that that is an unfair statement placed on the LGBTQ community and gay and bisexual men, only because both meningitis and monkeypox are not a sexually transmitted disease," said Julie Seaver, executive director of the Compass Center. "They’re transmitted through respiratory tracts, skin to skin contact, and it’s just unfair and it’s just creating more stigmatizing language around the gay and bisexual male community.

"(These illnesses are) a cause for concern, not just for the gay community but all communities."

Florida Department of Health responds

"We are going to tell the truth and we can’t have the fear of stigma get in the way of making sure that this community is safe.”

The Florida Department of Health also points to this study by the New England Journal of Medicine, which finds that 98% of people infected with monkeypox were gay and bisexual men.

Apparently the statistics are unfair. :shrug:

(Never mind the fact that 95%+ of MPX cases are thought to have been transmitted by gay/bi people having sex, that the virus is found in semen, and that HPV and HSV are considered STIs while also being spread through skin-to-skin contact during sex.)

Yeah, this is an awkward one right? Because on one hand, I do get where critiques of the Health departments advice are coming from, why must they target gay men specifically? Could they not issue a broad statement to ALL people to practice less casual sex in the short term to manage the spread of monkey pox? Is it really necessary to single out gay men?

On the other hand, there is no denying the statistics that it seems to be spreading more rapidly amongst gay men, where casual sex and hook up culture, promote the transmission of the disease.

I kinda stand with the Health Department here. It might upsets peoples sensibilities and cause some hurt feelings, it might even promote further stigma, but people's physical health and that of wider society must take precendent when it comes to this kind of situation right?

In an ideal world where everyone was sensible... :lol: ahem, where everyone was sensible, everyone would just scale back a little on fucking randoms for a few months and the problem would pass fairly quickly. Ofcourse the pandemic revealed that precious few people, even the really intelligent ones, are all that sensible. :shrug:

McTaggartfan wrote:It's spelled 'favorite,' not 'favourite.' Ye Brits spell things incorrectly, and it bothers me to no end! The only thing you get correct is 'enquire.' I'll accept 'gray,' but still have a few mixed feelings about that spelling.
:rofl: You Americans. Removing substance and distilling everything down to it's most basic and primitive form since you copied our society, culture and language 243 years ago. Maybe you guys should try having an original thought rather than recycling and regurgitating the ones other peoples had before you :naughty: :monocle: :rofl:
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I'll actually admit that up until the late 19th century and 20th century, there wasn't much in the way of true American high culture.

That's why there was a great deal of effort put into trying to make an American canon of literature, which I'd say began with the great William Cullen Bryant and his most famous poem, "Thanatopsis." Admittedly one critic claimed Bryant learned all he did from the British and greater European writers/poets. To an extent, I'd argue that's actually true; but everyone has to learn from someone before crafting something original, and I'd not go so far as to say that Bryant copied everything he came up with from the Brits.

And to be fair, America does have William James and John Dewey, two of the founders of Pragmatism in philosophy. That's a pretty big deal! Ohhhh, and one mustn't forget the Boston Personalists or, more recently, Nicholas Rescher! And what about Gertrude Stein or Edna St. Vincent Millay?

You can have Ayn Rand, if you'll even take her. We—by which I mean any right-minded and upright, sane and sensible American—don't want her. :lol:

[P.S.] Also, in all fairness, I'm an equal opportunity, linguistic prescriptivist. I lob as much of my ire and distaste at Americans' saying certain uncouth words, like y'all, as I do the Brits when they say "crisps" instead of "chips" (though that's less of a big deal to me than is spelling 'favorite,' 'favourite.'). Until the day of my death, I will loudly and proudly proclaim that "y'all" is not an acceptable word to use. I fully admit that it is a word, since that's undeniable; but what I won't admit is that it's an acceptable one.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby René » 2 August 2022, 11:53

McTaggartfan wrote:It's spelled 'favorite,' not 'favourite.' Ye Brits spell things incorrectly, and it bothers me to no end! The only thing you get correct is 'enquire.' I'll accept 'gray,' but still have a few mixed feelings about that spelling.

But Brits say 'grey'. :english:

What bothers me about you (particularly) Americans is this apparent implication that the comma and period here are part of the words as delineated by the quotation marks. The programmer in me does not like that at all. If the word is 'favorite' then it's not 'favorite,' or 'favorite.'.

McTaggartfan wrote:I'm an equal opportunity, linguistic prescriptivist.

You mean 'equal-opportunity', surely. Attributive compound adjectives require hyphenation.

PopTart wrote:In an ideal world where everyone was sensible... :lol: ahem, where everyone was sensible, everyone would just scale back a little on fucking randoms for a few months and the problem would pass fairly quickly. Ofcourse the pandemic revealed that precious few people, even the really intelligent ones, are all that sensible. :shrug:

Quite right! And get this, for the longest time they weren't even telling gay people to cut back on fucking randoms, as you put it. Not until a few days ago, fully 2 months into the outbreak, did the WHO finally have the guts to urge men who have sex with men to limit their numbers of sexual partners. :runaway:
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Tea needs to have more caffeine in it!! Can we genetically modify it please?

I've had two cups of Twinings oolong and I still don't feel as awake as I normally would on a single cup of coffee. Maybe it's because it's not black tea. I should start reserving the oolong for the afternoon, I think.
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René wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:And what would you have people do, Rene? Be celibate their entire lives sooner than hook up every now and then? If the only options are celibacy or a dating-relationship, I suspect I'd sooner engage the former alternative than have to date someone. But is that honestly a fair thing to expect of someone? I'm not saying I'm particularly interested in hooking up with people, since sex tends to be incredibly unimportant to me and remains a very low priority in my life; yet at the same time, I don't think it's quite fair to expect someone as (often) aromantic as me to remain celibate forever.

You don't have to be celibate to avoid STIs! I just recommend sticking to committed relationships, rather than joining this massive, limitless sexual network spanning the globe in which monkeypox and many other diseases spread like wildfire.


Okay, but what exactly is a "committed relationship," if not one involving romance and some degree of intimacy? I'd rather not have to deal with either of those when it comes to someone with whom I'd have sex. It's extremely rare for me to so much as want to date or commit to a long-term relationship with someone, which person would be one with whom I'd be both intimate and have sex. All of that is just a bit too much for me, and I've little interest. So I guess I just don't get what you would expect me to do on the rare occasions I decide I want to have sex. I mean, how am I supposed to have a "committed relationship" with someone when I'd neither want to see them, nor have sex with them, except perhaps once a year, if that? I'm not into commitment outside of friendship; it genuinely holds almost no interest for me.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

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McTaggartfan wrote:And what would you have people do, Rene? Be celibate their entire lives sooner than hook up every now and then? If the only options are celibacy or a dating-relationship, I suspect I'd sooner engage the former alternative than have to date someone. But is that honestly a fair thing to expect of someone? I'm not saying I'm particularly interested in hooking up with people, since sex tends to be incredibly unimportant to me and remains a very low priority in my life; yet at the same time, I don't think it's quite fair to expect someone as (often) aromantic as me to remain celibate forever.

You don't have to be celibate to avoid STIs! I just recommend sticking to committed relationships, rather than joining this massive, limitless sexual network spanning the globe in which monkeypox and many other diseases spread like wildfire.

Okay, but what exactly is a "committed relationship," if not one involving romance and some degree of intimacy? I'd rather not have to deal with either of those when it comes to someone with whom I'd have sex. It's extremely rare for me to so much as want to date or commit to a long-term relationship with someone, which person would be one with whom I'd be both intimate and have sex. All of that is just a bit too much for me, and I've little interest. So I guess I just don't get what you would expect me to do on the rare occasions I decide I want to have sex. I mean, how am I supposed to have a "committed relationship" with someone when I'd neither want to see them, nor have sex with them, except perhaps once a year, if that? I'm not into commitment outside of friendship; it genuinely holds almost no interest for me.

There's not really a safe way to do that. Apart from the serious risks of already endemic diseases, you never know if you're at the start of a new outbreak such as this monkeypox one or the very deadly outbreak of meningococcal disease that struck Florida's gay population a few months ago.
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René wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:
René wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:And what would you have people do, Rene? Be celibate their entire lives sooner than hook up every now and then? If the only options are celibacy or a dating-relationship, I suspect I'd sooner engage the former alternative than have to date someone. But is that honestly a fair thing to expect of someone? I'm not saying I'm particularly interested in hooking up with people, since sex tends to be incredibly unimportant to me and remains a very low priority in my life; yet at the same time, I don't think it's quite fair to expect someone as (often) aromantic as me to remain celibate forever.

You don't have to be celibate to avoid STIs! I just recommend sticking to committed relationships, rather than joining this massive, limitless sexual network spanning the globe in which monkeypox and many other diseases spread like wildfire.

Okay, but what exactly is a "committed relationship," if not one involving romance and some degree of intimacy? I'd rather not have to deal with either of those when it comes to someone with whom I'd have sex. It's extremely rare for me to so much as want to date or commit to a long-term relationship with someone, which person would be one with whom I'd be both intimate and have sex. All of that is just a bit too much for me, and I've little interest. So I guess I just don't get what you would expect me to do on the rare occasions I decide I want to have sex. I mean, how am I supposed to have a "committed relationship" with someone when I'd neither want to see them, nor have sex with them, except perhaps once a year, if that? I'm not into commitment outside of friendship; it genuinely holds almost no interest for me.

There's not really a safe way to do that. Apart from the serious risks of already endemic diseases, you never know if you're at the start of a new outbreak such as this monkeypox one or the very deadly outbreak of meningococcal disease that struck Florida's gay population a few months ago.


Exactly, so you ultimately fall back to recommending celibacy!!!!
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McTaggartfan wrote:
René wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:
René wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:And what would you have people do, Rene? Be celibate their entire lives sooner than hook up every now and then? If the only options are celibacy or a dating-relationship, I suspect I'd sooner engage the former alternative than have to date someone. But is that honestly a fair thing to expect of someone? I'm not saying I'm particularly interested in hooking up with people, since sex tends to be incredibly unimportant to me and remains a very low priority in my life; yet at the same time, I don't think it's quite fair to expect someone as (often) aromantic as me to remain celibate forever.

You don't have to be celibate to avoid STIs! I just recommend sticking to committed relationships, rather than joining this massive, limitless sexual network spanning the globe in which monkeypox and many other diseases spread like wildfire.

Okay, but what exactly is a "committed relationship," if not one involving romance and some degree of intimacy? I'd rather not have to deal with either of those when it comes to someone with whom I'd have sex. It's extremely rare for me to so much as want to date or commit to a long-term relationship with someone, which person would be one with whom I'd be both intimate and have sex. All of that is just a bit too much for me, and I've little interest. So I guess I just don't get what you would expect me to do on the rare occasions I decide I want to have sex. I mean, how am I supposed to have a "committed relationship" with someone when I'd neither want to see them, nor have sex with them, except perhaps once a year, if that? I'm not into commitment outside of friendship; it genuinely holds almost no interest for me.

There's not really a safe way to do that. Apart from the serious risks of already endemic diseases, you never know if you're at the start of a new outbreak such as this monkeypox one or the very deadly outbreak of meningococcal disease that struck Florida's gay population a few months ago.


Exactly, so you ultimately fall back to recommending celibacy!!!!

In your very unusual case, I suppose so!
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René wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:
René wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:
René wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:And what would you have people do, Rene? Be celibate their entire lives sooner than hook up every now and then? If the only options are celibacy or a dating-relationship, I suspect I'd sooner engage the former alternative than have to date someone. But is that honestly a fair thing to expect of someone? I'm not saying I'm particularly interested in hooking up with people, since sex tends to be incredibly unimportant to me and remains a very low priority in my life; yet at the same time, I don't think it's quite fair to expect someone as (often) aromantic as me to remain celibate forever.

You don't have to be celibate to avoid STIs! I just recommend sticking to committed relationships, rather than joining this massive, limitless sexual network spanning the globe in which monkeypox and many other diseases spread like wildfire.

Okay, but what exactly is a "committed relationship," if not one involving romance and some degree of intimacy? I'd rather not have to deal with either of those when it comes to someone with whom I'd have sex. It's extremely rare for me to so much as want to date or commit to a long-term relationship with someone, which person would be one with whom I'd be both intimate and have sex. All of that is just a bit too much for me, and I've little interest. So I guess I just don't get what you would expect me to do on the rare occasions I decide I want to have sex. I mean, how am I supposed to have a "committed relationship" with someone when I'd neither want to see them, nor have sex with them, except perhaps once a year, if that? I'm not into commitment outside of friendship; it genuinely holds almost no interest for me.

There's not really a safe way to do that. Apart from the serious risks of already endemic diseases, you never know if you're at the start of a new outbreak such as this monkeypox one or the very deadly outbreak of meningococcal disease that struck Florida's gay population a few months ago.


Exactly, so you ultimately fall back to recommending celibacy!!!!

In your very unusual case, I suppose so!


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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby LokiLover87 » 7 August 2022, 12:26

Fascinating discussion! I can see both sides here but I tend to fall with cautioning against tying monkey pox specifically to gay men in public messaging. It's a fine balance of highlighting where the greatest risk currently is and the impact messaging can have. Yes, statistically, the greatest risk currently is among men having sex with other men. However, public health policy needs to go beyond the statistics and also consider the impact of the way we disseminate those statistics. The concern over emphasizing the risk among gay men is the fact that we are already seeing it be politicized as a "gay disease" and trying to justify claims of debauchery and sinfulness and the dangers of being gay, among conservative and hate group messaging. We should be able to talk about risk in such a way that highlights populations of concern but that also protects those populations from this type of misleading use of statistics.

Sorry if this repeated anyone else's thoughts, I tried to read through everything but may have missed a piece or two!!

Edit: there was actually a great NPR piece on this two days ago!
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby McTaggartfan » 11 August 2022, 10:05

Oh, my poor poor advisor. He's not going to be particularly pleased with me, since I'm probably going to cancel my meeting with him today, for the 2nd or perhaps 3rd time. But I'm just so tired all the time, that I can't so much as make myself look presentable for a meeting, which usually takes me like 2 hours. All I can do is sleep, which unfortunately neither counts toward your degree nor pays.

Also, I'm growing too old. I feel like it was just yesterday that I turned 20, and yet now I'm 23. I'm ancient!
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