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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 2 August 2019, 15:10

Jzone wrote:Kids these days just can't keep up. I organized the party, cooked the food, supplied the booze, told most of the stories around the fire, tidied up, and practically tucked all the twenty-somethings (who I employ) into bed before I called it a night at 1:00am. If this generation doesn't have more to offer, we may be doomed.

It's up to us to show them how it's done right! The again my insomnia make me someone you don't want to compete with staying out late with. As long as I catch about 30 mins sleep around 4-5am I'm good to go again the next day.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Shaved-Nudist » 2 August 2019, 22:41

It's going to be great weather this weekend and looking forward to spending time at the nudist resort. They are having a Jamaica party on Saturday!
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Capt._Trips » 3 August 2019, 12:47

My dad seen his cancer doctor yesterday. And he told him to get his affairs in order and there is nothing more he can do.

According to my mom. He told him to contact hospice and gave him 6 months life expectancy.

Not really sure how o feel atm.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby René » 3 August 2019, 12:49

Victor_Laszlo wrote:My dad seen his cancer doctor yesterday. And he told him to get his affairs in order and there is nothing more he can do.

According to my mom. He told him to contact hospice and gave him 6 months life expectancy.

Not really sure how o feel atm.

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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 3 August 2019, 15:38

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Victor_Laszlo wrote:My dad seen his cancer doctor yesterday. And he told him to get his affairs in order and there is nothing more he can do.

According to my mom. He told him to contact hospice and gave him 6 months life expectancy.

Not really sure how o feel atm.

:hug:

:hug: as well.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby NvM » 3 August 2019, 18:00

every person, if lucky, will live to see their parent(s) pass.
its sorta a sacrament.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby lightnight » 3 August 2019, 21:15

Victor_Laszlo wrote:My dad seen his cancer doctor yesterday. And he told him to get his affairs in order and there is nothing more he can do.

According to my mom. He told him to contact hospice and gave him 6 months life expectancy.

Not really sure how o feel atm.


I don't really know what to say but I hope you and your family stay strong. I hope he knows that he's well loved.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 3 August 2019, 22:00

Victor_Laszlo wrote:My dad seen his cancer doctor yesterday. And he told him to get his affairs in order and there is nothing more he can do.

According to my mom. He told him to contact hospice and gave him 6 months life expectancy.

Not really sure how o feel atm.


Now have time for a proper response.

He's going to have plenty of people willing to blow smoke up his ass - "you'll beat this", etc.

Want to be there for him? Be the person who truly listens to what he is saying and how he is feeling. You don't need responses, you just need to be there and listen to/for him. It will fell like shit at the time but when you look back you'll realize it was the right thing to do. I'd take him out for that coffee if he still wanted it. But that's me. In that there is no right or wrong just make the best decisions as you can.

It's all I got for you. :hug:
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Capt._Trips » 4 August 2019, 00:58

Thanks guy's.

Im actually doing okay. Ive seen this coming and from what he said so did he. He's been battling cancer for a few years now. Beat it plenty to. Unfortunately taking him out for coffee or something to eat isnt an option. He cant swallow so everything goes through a feeding tube in his stomach.

My parent's celebrate their anniversary the 15th of this month and i hope they can take a day or weekend to get some peaceful time alone with just each other. They've been together 50+ years.

He's not the type to talk feelings or how he's feeling. I just dont want him to be in pain or anything like that. But for right now he seems fine.

Before i bought my own place my brother and i had a place with an older guy that had liver cancer and it moved to colon cancer. He was fine until one day he got very sick and died the next morning. I dont want that either. Id like to know ahead. But i guess that's selfish to think that way.

All i can say is i spent the day at my parent's and for the most part everything seemed okay. Gonna watch some disney thing with my niece now. I dont think they told her.

I know hes started smoking again. And i dont blame him for that.

Thanks again guys. This has been coming for awhile. But it means alot from you guys.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Jzone » 4 August 2019, 13:42

Aw, Chris. It's never easy losing a parent if you've been close. I'm glad you are able to spend time now with your dad. Hang in there.

My father literally dropped dead from an unexpected heart attack many years ago. Now my mother is slowly fading as her body and mind are just worn out from a good, long life. It was hard to lose my dad so suddenly, without getting to say goodbye. It's hard to watch my mom slowly forget who she is.

I just came across this fine article by chance. It's a great reminder. :hug:

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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Capt._Trips » 4 August 2019, 14:07

Thanks for that jzone and all you guy's. :hug:
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 4 August 2019, 19:25

I must find a place that makes this. O_O




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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Capt._Trips » 6 August 2019, 02:01

My mom wants my dad to do some clinical trials for cancer treatment. While i get she wants him to live as long as he can ( they've been together for 50+years) i don't agree with it. There's no way of knowing what side effects there could be.

Idk. This is very hard on my. Mom and dad. And i think i should stay out of it. But like really, a guinea pig for cancer meds? I dont want that. But my mom is very religious and was an assistant pastor. She has faith in everything. There's no talking her out of it.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby erti » 6 August 2019, 02:06

Victor_Laszlo wrote:My mom wants my dad to do some clinical trials for cancer treatment. While i get she wants him to live as long as he can ( they've been together for 50+years) i don't agree with it. There's no way of knowing what side effects there could be.

Idk. This is very hard on my. Mom and dad. And i think i should stay out of it. But like really, a guinea pig for cancer meds? I dont want that. But my mom is very religious and was an assistant pastor. She has faith in everything. There's no talking her out of it.


Well at least she believes in medicine and not that god will cure him without treatment.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Capt._Trips » 6 August 2019, 02:16

Oh no her thoughts are god will help whatever treatment he gets. She has no faith in medicine. Just faith that god will help in whatever medicine he gets.

My dad isnt very strong compared to a few years ago. But i agree no where near hospice care. He is a strong guy and has been fighting his hardest for a few years now. Maybe her prayers have done some to help. But i just know my dad and he has no interest in dying.

My faith is in him and no god or medicine.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby erti » 6 August 2019, 02:32

Yeah. It's true in many ways. I think it's a bit in his strength of wanting to live and modern medicine. Otherwise without medicine he'd be dead a long time ago even with strength and faith in god. Not trying to debate though. Just a random thought that popped up in my head.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby René » 6 August 2019, 14:30

Victor_Laszlo wrote:My mom wants my dad to do some clinical trials for cancer treatment. While i get she wants him to live as long as he can ( they've been together for 50+years) i don't agree with it. There's no way of knowing what side effects there could be.

Idk. This is very hard on my. Mom and dad. And i think i should stay out of it. But like really, a guinea pig for cancer meds? I dont want that. But my mom is very religious and was an assistant pastor. She has faith in everything. There's no talking her out of it.

Please note that if everyone had this attitude, your dad likely wouldn't have lasted as long as he has... because there would be no proven effective treatments at all.

Taking part in a clinical trial isn't just something you do for yourself.

Anyway, the side-effects point seems kind of moot when it comes to cancer drugs, because most of the proven drugs used in clinical practice are known to be riddled with potentially fatal side effects. They're basically deadly poisons used selectively when there is some hope that they will kill the cancer a little more quickly than they kill the patient. When you're taking a new compound, it doesn't get much worse than that. You can expect it to be either similar or less bad. (Also, the mandatory animal studies do provide a lot of advance information about what to expect.)
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby rxxli » 6 August 2019, 20:48

How is it that everyone seems to hate 13 Reasons Why so much and yet the show still gets so many views?
Also... apparently saying that I like the show is like declaring myself a nazi. I was just in some discord and immediately the discussion that started got stopped by a mod because it's uncomfortable... yeah it is, but I don't see why one would have to shut up about it because of that.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 7 August 2019, 00:56

Another motorcycle vacation. But this time trailering the bike through the part that is not that interesting. Want to ride through the Black Hills but crossing Nevada can in and of itself be hell.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Capt._Trips » 8 August 2019, 02:26

Well the first trial denied him because they said since he has 8 tumors in his lungs that it would basically leave him with half a lung.

@Rene, i totally agree but it's not easy when youve already watched a guy decline like I've seen. I totally get the hope of everything. But hope and religion only go so far. If it were me id totally be down for that. He's not at all healthy enough to be a guinea pig. He's been fighting cancer for 5+years now. And the last 2 very aggressively. And has beat it 3 times. Of coarse i dont want my dad to die. But i dont want him to have any unneeded pain or suffering either.

They have another appointment with the Penn U next friday so i guess ill see what happens then.

Just want him to not be sick. I hate seeing how much weight he's lost and how sick he looks. I want the best but idk what that is.
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