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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Capt._Trips » 8 August 2019, 02:40

.i guess my biggest hang up is idk what studies their even considering. I cant look up any trials on animals or anything.

So im just stuck worried or worried. Its a shitty place to be.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Iamjava » 8 August 2019, 03:45

Sometimes... It's just best they pass and end the suffering. I thank God my grandfather doesn't have to piss and shit his pants anymore, let alone deal with 7 cancers. :(

I hope he lives, but at the same time.. he's been dying 5 years, my grandfather 10 at the end and didn't even have his mind..

When he died after 10 years, we expected it. I still shut down for a week.. it's always hard, man. Either way. :(
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 8 August 2019, 04:07

So, not sure what to do. As I said in another thread, my best friend's dad passed away. I went right away to his parents' house and his father's body was still inside, with police. Tomorrow I'm visiting him again; I'm pretty sure he'll be at his mom's again. The thing is, I'm not sure when the service and whatnot will be. I had previously scheduled a rather pricey two-week international trip (into the thousands) and my departure is this Saturday afternoon. Something tells me it'll be a Sunday mass and burial but not sure. Is it insensitive if I don't show? I was thinking of sending him and his mom a wreath but I still feel this is inadequate. :\
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby erti » 8 August 2019, 04:50

poolerboy0077 wrote:So, not sure what to do. As I said in another thread, my best friend's dad passed away. I went right away to his parents' house and his father's body was still inside, with police. Tomorrow I'm visiting him again; I'm pretty sure he'll be at his mom's again. The thing is, I'm not sure when the service and whatnot will be. I had previously scheduled a rather pricey two-week international trip (into the thousands) and my departure is this Saturday afternoon. Something tells me it'll be a Sunday mass and burial but not sure. Is it insensitive if I don't show? I was thinking of sending him and his mom a wreath but I still feel this is inadequate. :\


I'm sure they would understand. Maybe some flowers and a thoughtful letter to the family. Not everyone who knew the guy is going to show up at the funeral. Hell at my uncles funeral barely many people shown up because most people have other obligations. Maybe when you get home from your vacation maybe you and your best friend should hang out together or do whatever you and your best friend do?
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Derek » 8 August 2019, 04:55

There sure is a lot of bereavement in this thread recently.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Iamjava » 8 August 2019, 15:07

Derek wrote:There sure is a lot of bereavement in this thread recently.


I cried for my ex last night. Just thought I'd add to it.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby erti » 9 August 2019, 13:17

My fucking lazy ass case "managers"... fucking twats.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Jzone » 9 August 2019, 14:23

poolerboy0077 wrote:So, not sure what to do. As I said in another thread, my best friend's dad passed away. I went right away to his parents' house and his father's body was still inside, with police. Tomorrow I'm visiting him again; I'm pretty sure he'll be at his mom's again. The thing is, I'm not sure when the service and whatnot will be. I had previously scheduled a rather pricey two-week international trip (into the thousands) and my departure is this Saturday afternoon. Something tells me it'll be a Sunday mass and burial but not sure. Is it insensitive if I don't show? I was thinking of sending him and his mom a wreath but I still feel this is inadequate. :\

Anything you might do is inadequate in this situation, but also immeasurably important. Send flowers. Bring food his mother can use when she doesn't feel like cooking. Send a card. Visit them and know that you don't have to know what to say: just being there says a lot. It is not insensitive to continue with your plans and your life — your friend, and his father, would most likely not expect or want you to cancel your trip. If your friend has a healthy social network, then your absence for a couple weeks won't be an impact. Visit again soon after your return. After a death, survivors often get care and attention for a few days, then it wanes while they still need it.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby rogonandi » 9 August 2019, 18:05

I slept terribly last night. :asleep:
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby rxxli » 9 August 2019, 20:54

How wrong is it that I am seriously considering getting a sex doll in the future?
And I mean a proper silicone one. The only thing stopping me for now is the price - I am not prepared to pay over 1k€ for it just yet.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 9 August 2019, 20:58

rxxli wrote:How wrong is it that I am seriously considering getting a sex doll in the future?
And I mean a proper silicone one. The only thing stopping me for now is the price - I am not prepared to pay over 1k€ for it just yet.

The reason that things like Fleshjacks don’t really appeal to me is that I know I’d only really use it on a short-term, novelty basis. Long-term, I’d stick with the quicker, more convenient, easier and easier to clean up after jerk off. Eventually, it’d just be a thing that stayed in a drawer and never got used and that eventually would probably come sooner than I was expecting.

€1000 seems a lot to pay for a doll that will take up an inordinate amount of wardrobe space and get fucked less and less over time.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Jzone » 9 August 2019, 21:18

rxxli wrote:How wrong is it that I am seriously considering getting a sex doll in the future?
And I mean a proper silicone one. The only thing stopping me for now is the price - I am not prepared to pay over 1k€ for it just yet.

They are bound to show up at a big-box discount store before long, so wait it out. Maybe IKEA will have some you can assemble yourself — just be sure to remove the hex wrench before you go sticking anything inside...
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby rxxli » 9 August 2019, 21:29

Marmaduke wrote:The reason that things like Fleshjacks don’t really appeal to me is that I know I’d only really use it on a short-term, novelty basis. Long-term, I’d stick with the quicker, more convenient, easier and easier to clean up after jerk off. Eventually, it’d just be a thing that stayed in a drawer and never got used and that eventually would probably come sooner than I was expecting.

€1000 seems a lot to pay for a doll that will take up an inordinate amount of wardrobe space and get fucked less and less over time.

I am very familiar with the issue of toy cleanup. And I definitely see that I more often use toys that can be cleaned up very quickly. It's not like I regularly use toys anyways - usually only during the weekends when I actually have some more time.

Space is not so much an issue for me personally. Although I guess that it could be a problem seeing how these things usually weight about 40kg. But a proper sex doll is really as close as you can get to the real human being - and that is it's main appeal. And when you are not fucking it, you can also use it for cuddling in bed.

Jzone wrote:They are bound to show up at a big-box discount store before long, so wait it out. Maybe IKEA will have some you can assemble yourself — just be sure to remove the hex wrench before you go sticking anything inside...

:lol:
I don't think Ikea will start selling sex toys anytime soon. But the prices for these things did come down significantly in the past few years. Although males are still more expensive and you really have a very limited selection from what I've seen.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby LostGuy94 » 10 August 2019, 07:56

Yesterday I had a desperately lonely wheelchair bound guy message me on Grindr and was practically begging me to come round his but I didn't really want to but I really felt for him as I too have suffered from loneliness but it made me really uncomfortable.

Should I feel bad for turning down any form of meet with him?
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby rogonandi » 10 August 2019, 08:08

LostGuy94 wrote:Yesterday I had a desperately lonely wheelchair bound guy message me on Grindr and was practically begging me to come round his but I didn't really want to but I really felt for him as I too have suffered from loneliness but it made me really uncomfortable.

Should I feel bad for turning down any form of meet with him?

No, I don’t think so. If you don’t want to see him you don’t want to see him.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 10 August 2019, 10:44

LostGuy94 wrote:Yesterday I had a desperately lonely wheelchair bound guy message me on Grindr and was practically begging me to come round his but I didn't really want to but I really felt for him as I too have suffered from loneliness but it made me really uncomfortable.

Should I feel bad for turning down any form of meet with him?

You know what? I had a similar moment to this a few weeks ago, a disabled guy messaged me on Grindr. I’m always happy to talk to people, but I do usually block people that are just super sexually forward with no conversational ability. And this guy was SUPER forward and normally I’d have blocked him, but because he was disabled I think I have him a bit more rope than he deserved.

Had he just wanted to meet, play some video games maybe, or just have a coffee or something to eat and a chat, I’d have probably obliged. But I did eventually block him because he just kept looping back to sex, and I took a little guilt away from that afterwards that I wouldn’t have usually felt, but I kinda quickly realised that - at least to my mind - the only thing I did wrong was giving him more time than I otherwise would have just because he was disabled. I drew him into a thing further than I should have despite knowing it was going nowhere. I should’ve approached him exactly as I would have with anyone else, but didn’t because of misplaced guilt, and that only caused more misplaced guilt.

You don’t owe anyone your time if you don’t want to give it. Ok, sure, he’s lonely. But there’s a reason here that you don’t want to meet and that’s probably a valid reason to not do it.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby LostGuy94 » 10 August 2019, 11:46

Marmaduke wrote:You know what? I had a similar moment to this a few weeks ago, a disabled guy messaged me on Grindr. I’m always happy to talk to people, but I do usually block people that are just super sexually forward with no conversational ability. And this guy was SUPER forward and normally I’d have blocked him, but because he was disabled I think I have him a bit more rope than he deserved.

Had he just wanted to meet, play some video games maybe, or just have a coffee or something to eat and a chat, I’d have probably obliged. But I did eventually block him because he just kept looping back to sex, and I took a little guilt away from that afterwards that I wouldn’t have usually felt, but I kinda quickly realised that - at least to my mind - the only thing I did wrong was giving him more time than I otherwise would have just because he was disabled. I drew him into a thing further than I should have despite knowing it was going nowhere. I should’ve approached him exactly as I would have with anyone else, but didn’t because of misplaced guilt, and that only caused more misplaced guilt.

You don’t owe anyone your time if you don’t want to give it. Ok, sure, he’s lonely. But there’s a reason here that you don’t want to meet and that’s probably a valid reason to not do it.


Was pretty much the same with me although it was a bit less sexual.

I normally have all the time in the world for most people which sometimes doesn't always go down well on Grindr but it was a case yesterday where I felt pity for him and had this had just been anyone else they would have been told no or blocked sooner but instead because of the circumstances it ended up being a 45 minute guilt trip. I'm not the best at coping around people who are upset or anything as I feel I have to help in some way even though I often don't know how.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby Derek » 11 August 2019, 20:14

Reddit is still so pissed that pundits and politicians blamed video games for the latest shootings. Gaming is so trivial and the community is so dumb, but it still moves people through all the motions of identity politics. You can always tell when a straight person has never felt personally attacked before.

It makes me wish we could acknowledge something about this. Obviously blaming video games is a stupid and self-aggrandizing tack taken by old people desperate to scapegoat something other than the depravity of their own politics, but it's not like there's no correlation between video games and racist incel murderers.
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 12 August 2019, 00:00

Derek wrote:Reddit is still so pissed that pundits and politicians blamed video games for the latest shootings. Gaming is so trivial and the community is so dumb, but it still moves people through all the motions of identity politics. You can always tell when a straight person has never felt personally attacked before.

It makes me wish we could acknowledge something about this. Obviously blaming video games is a stupid and self-aggrandizing tack taken by old people desperate to scapegoat something other than the depravity of their own politics, but it's not like there's no correlation between video games and racist incel murderers.

According to them, the only reason they’re desperate virgins pushed to the brink is feminism. Maybe the Dayton shooter was motivated by Anita Sarkeesian’s latest YouTube review. :oface:
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Re: What are you thinking at the moment?

Unread postby erti » 12 August 2019, 10:17

can't see what to think about this. My friend that I was dating and having sex with at one point made fun of my mental health issues behind my back along side of my best friends aunt and uncle who just carried on with the conversation. thing is he doesn't talk shit to my face... he talks shit to other people about me. I mean I don't take it much personally but for someone that I looked highly of is making nasty comments about me it hurts because I thought he was a friend. The hypocritical thing about it all is that he suffers from depression and alcoholism. He has no fucking room to talk. You just can't trust anyone.
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