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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby Brenden » 21 May 2022, 14:38

McTaggartfan wrote:Dr. Thomas bought the lie Mary came up with for me, which was that my internet connection went bad. So everything is alright now, it would seem. I didn't like lying to Dr. Thomas, of course; but I suppose it couldn't have been helped, seeing as it would've been a bit inappropriate to share with her all about my anxiety disorder.

I don't think you'd have needed to share "all about" your anxiety disorder. It is very normal for people even without anxiety disorders to panic when suddenly dropped into such a situation they're unprepared for (and this particular cams-on video conference scenario is quite common these days), and I think it's a shame that this person will never know that they are partially at fault for either not enforcing the pre-stated policy of no cameras or for misinforming you and others of that being the case.
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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby McTaggartfan » 22 May 2022, 08:54

Brenden wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:Dr. Thomas bought the lie Mary came up with for me, which was that my internet connection went bad. So everything is alright now, it would seem. I didn't like lying to Dr. Thomas, of course; but I suppose it couldn't have been helped, seeing as it would've been a bit inappropriate to share with her all about my anxiety disorder.

I don't think you'd have needed to share "all about" your anxiety disorder. It is very normal for people even without anxiety disorders to panic when suddenly dropped into such a situation they're unprepared for (and this particular cams-on video conference scenario is quite common these days), and I think it's a shame that this person will never know that they are partially at fault for either not enforcing the pre-stated policy of no cameras or for misinforming you and others of that being the case.


I don't really feel comfortable doing that, seeing as the only reason I was allowed to attend in the first place was on the invitation of the professor. It seems to me it would be a bit inconsiderate and disrespectful to her were I to go and complain to the people at the center who not only acceded to my attending, but also welcomed her to present her paper. They all did me a great favor, so I guess I just don't feel I'm in any position to be lodging complaints. It is I who am indebted, and thus I should simply be grateful to have been given the opportunity at all.
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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby Brenden » 22 May 2022, 15:38

McTaggartfan wrote:
Brenden wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:Dr. Thomas bought the lie Mary came up with for me, which was that my internet connection went bad. So everything is alright now, it would seem. I didn't like lying to Dr. Thomas, of course; but I suppose it couldn't have been helped, seeing as it would've been a bit inappropriate to share with her all about my anxiety disorder.

I don't think you'd have needed to share "all about" your anxiety disorder. It is very normal for people even without anxiety disorders to panic when suddenly dropped into such a situation they're unprepared for (and this particular cams-on video conference scenario is quite common these days), and I think it's a shame that this person will never know that they are partially at fault for either not enforcing the pre-stated policy of no cameras or for misinforming you and others of that being the case.

I don't really feel comfortable doing that, seeing as the only reason I was allowed to attend in the first place was on the invitation of the professor. It seems to me it would be a bit inconsiderate and disrespectful to her were I to go and complain to the people at the center who not only acceded to my attending, but also welcomed her to present her paper. They all did me a great favor, so I guess I just don't feel I'm in any position to be lodging complaints. It is I who am indebted, and thus I should simply be grateful to have been given the opportunity at all.

I'm not suggesting lodging a complaint. I'm suggesting giving the real reason to the professor and putting the proper spin on it.
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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby McTaggartfan » 22 May 2022, 15:57

Brenden wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:
Brenden wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:Dr. Thomas bought the lie Mary came up with for me, which was that my internet connection went bad. So everything is alright now, it would seem. I didn't like lying to Dr. Thomas, of course; but I suppose it couldn't have been helped, seeing as it would've been a bit inappropriate to share with her all about my anxiety disorder.

I don't think you'd have needed to share "all about" your anxiety disorder. It is very normal for people even without anxiety disorders to panic when suddenly dropped into such a situation they're unprepared for (and this particular cams-on video conference scenario is quite common these days), and I think it's a shame that this person will never know that they are partially at fault for either not enforcing the pre-stated policy of no cameras or for misinforming you and others of that being the case.

I don't really feel comfortable doing that, seeing as the only reason I was allowed to attend in the first place was on the invitation of the professor. It seems to me it would be a bit inconsiderate and disrespectful to her were I to go and complain to the people at the center who not only acceded to my attending, but also welcomed her to present her paper. They all did me a great favor, so I guess I just don't feel I'm in any position to be lodging complaints. It is I who am indebted, and thus I should simply be grateful to have been given the opportunity at all.

I'm not suggesting lodging a complaint. I'm suggesting giving the real reason to the professor and putting the proper spin on it.


Well, then how would it be the professor's problem? She neither misinformed me nor had anything to do with the instructions not to use camera (or the enforcement thereof).
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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby Brenden » 22 May 2022, 18:19

McTaggartfan wrote:
Brenden wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:
Brenden wrote:
McTaggartfan wrote:Dr. Thomas bought the lie Mary came up with for me, which was that my internet connection went bad. So everything is alright now, it would seem. I didn't like lying to Dr. Thomas, of course; but I suppose it couldn't have been helped, seeing as it would've been a bit inappropriate to share with her all about my anxiety disorder.

I don't think you'd have needed to share "all about" your anxiety disorder. It is very normal for people even without anxiety disorders to panic when suddenly dropped into such a situation they're unprepared for (and this particular cams-on video conference scenario is quite common these days), and I think it's a shame that this person will never know that they are partially at fault for either not enforcing the pre-stated policy of no cameras or for misinforming you and others of that being the case.

I don't really feel comfortable doing that, seeing as the only reason I was allowed to attend in the first place was on the invitation of the professor. It seems to me it would be a bit inconsiderate and disrespectful to her were I to go and complain to the people at the center who not only acceded to my attending, but also welcomed her to present her paper. They all did me a great favor, so I guess I just don't feel I'm in any position to be lodging complaints. It is I who am indebted, and thus I should simply be grateful to have been given the opportunity at all.

I'm not suggesting lodging a complaint. I'm suggesting giving the real reason to the professor and putting the proper spin on it.

Well, then how would it be the professor's problem? She neither misinformed me nor had anything to do with the instructions not to use camera (or the enforcement thereof).

The way you worded it before made it sound like it was her thing and so her responsibility.

But her responsibility is beside the point. The vast majority of people are compassionate and would entirely understand and, on learning of such a reason, take steps in the future to prevent it.
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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby Severelius » 24 May 2022, 13:46

Had my first actual proper therapy session, not just a consultation meeting at last, and actually think it went well. I didn't cry and she didn't judge me like I was afraid she was going to.
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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby McTaggartfan » 24 May 2022, 13:47

Severelius wrote:Had my first actual proper therapy session, not just a consultation meeting at last, and actually think it went well. I didn't cry and she didn't judge me like I was afraid she was going to.


Therapists rarely judge, at least not out loud. I'm glad you finally made it to therapy :)
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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby Brenden » 24 May 2022, 17:33

Called my grandma this morning and arranged our visit when we're in Michigan this weekend. We'll meet at their place Sunday morning and then see about taking them out to brunch nearby. :keke:
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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby colby100 » 24 May 2022, 21:20

Brenden wrote:Called my grandma this morning and arranged our visit when we're in Michigan this weekend. We'll meet at their place Sunday morning and then see about taking them out to brunch nearby. :keke:


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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby asianduck888 » 27 May 2022, 20:19

I coming out to 3rd person. we haven't meet for 7 years or more. and turn out he is fine with my sexuality.
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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby McTaggartfan » 17 June 2022, 05:20

In a letter she wrote to me, my literature professor said: "A mind such as yours, Nick, is so brilliant and expansive as to be almost unparalleled when compared to others your age." She flatters me, of course, but it's pleasing nonetheless.
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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby rogonandi » 18 June 2022, 07:55

Looking up ‘plain ice cream’ and actually finding a ‘sweet cream’ that’s just frozen churned cream with sugar in it. This was the happiest part of my day, as I wasn’t feeling miserable when learning this fact. :thumbsupwink:
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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby McTaggartfan » 21 June 2022, 16:01

Quite simply: Severelius posting the audio recording of the scene from the Philip Glass opera. I daresay it's made my week, in fact! I felt like crying before I saw it, because of my own problematic mind and the troubles it causes me in regard to academic performance/achievement, but then I saw that post! :heart:

I still feel like crying, of course; that's beyond any doubt. Yet, as some consolation I guess, I'm at least able to say it's mostly because of the sheer beauty of the composition, other portions of which I've now started listening to. It's not just that, however, since it also has a lot to do with the simple fact that it's not often I get to feel so delighted, so abundantly awed and (dare I say) approaching joyful! What a wonderful and surprising treat, which I wasn't in the slightest expecting to encounter. Yes, it's definitely the highlight of the past week or two! And mind you, that's even considering what my literature professor wrote to me!
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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby rogonandi » 26 June 2022, 04:32

I have been back on a diet as I have gotten fat again, and a month has past. I have lost 15 lbs, and I plan to lose more. :thumbsup:
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Re: What made your day / made you smile today?

Unread postby McTaggartfan » Yesterday, 14:21

I spoke over the phone with a good friend earlier this morning—a friend with whom I'd not spoken in some time, owing to their exceeding focus on finishing up art school. They've finally graduated from Rhode Island School of Design; I'm proud of them, but what I'm especially feeling is simply glad—glad, that is, for the opportunities I hope this will unlock for them and their future. They worked so hard over the past few years, and surely I'm beyond certain they deserve it.

Their mental health has apparently deteriorated over the past few months, however, and they're struggling quite a bit with dissociation, which I don't envy. If I could I'd take on that problem myself, so they'd not have to experience it; yet as with all the times my friends struggle or are in pain, there's no means for me to merely transfer the burden to myself, to take it on for them.

Anyway, what brought a smile to my face was largely just talking with them, hearing their voice, and especially hearing how they've missed me. It's nice, for once, to think I somehow actually bring something of joy and pleasure to the lives of my friends, even if I've utterly no clue how that can be. Even so, overall I'm presently reminded of a certain passage from Seneca the Younger, with which I feel I've to agree: "We get joy from those we love even in their absence, but it is light and fleeting. The sight of them, their presence, their conversation, has in it a kind of living pleasure [...]." In many ways this is so obviously true that one might almost think it an unremarkable truism, and in a way that'd be perfectly reasonable; yet at the moment I particularly feel that lingering, living pleasure, even if it has subsided to an extent by this point.
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