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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby René » 15 February 2020, 22:02

Severelius wrote:I just got news that despite just being transferred to a new shop at work there's talk of arrangements being made to move me to another shop primarily to get me away from my group manager. The one who apparently reacted to me having a mild semi-panic attack last Sunday by complaining about me to the fucking regional manager. Totally bypassing the area manager who's job is between the group manager and regional manager, the one that knows me pretty well and would be the logical point of contact if the group manager had concerns about me.

So needless to say I'm not happy with her right now. And I'm desperately curious about what it was exactly that she said to the regional manner about me.

I didn't know whether to put this in the smile or frown thread tbh because if the apparently-discussed move happens I'd be back with my old group manager who i get on very well with and pointedly doesn't go behind my back to bitch about me like a fucking two-faced cow, and I'd be working with one of my friends who I've known for years and is the one who got me the job in the first place.

I decided to go with putting it here because my supremely fucked off annoyance at my current group manager is more prevalent in my mind right now than the potential optimism of being back with one that I don't currently fucking hate.

Why the fuck is my work life such a shitshow right now?

It sounds like it may be about to become slightly less of a shitshow, so I would focus on that, personally!

Maybe the regional manager wasn't any more pleased with the group manager than you are and spoke with the area manager whom she should have spoken to in the first place and after speaking with him did his best to put you (back) in a work environment that is less stressful for you.
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby Severelius » 15 February 2020, 22:13

René wrote:It sounds like it may be about to become slightly less of a shitshow, so I would focus on that, personally!

Maybe the regional manager wasn't any more pleased with the group manager than you are and spoke with the area manager whom she should have spoken to in the first place and after speaking with him did his best to put you (back) in a work environment that is less stressful for you.

I only heard about any of this from the group manager I want to work for again. He didn't seem happy with any of it (the me being dicked around stuff, he's perfectly happy for me to work for him again). The area manager was with us at work today (we were at the Ascot racecourse so she's always there on those days) but I didn't talk to her. The impression I get is that the area manager isn't happy that my current group manager went over her head to bitch to her boss.

Thing is the area manager is one of the only people at work who has really any idea about the issues I have with my anxiety; about how I can seem totally fine for ages but then it just kicks up out of nowhere and knocks me through a loop for days and the stress of it can totally shut my rational brain down. I've never spoken to her properly about it but she knows by overhearing shit mainly that I get anxiety spikes and can have panic attacks for next to no reason. And she seems to like me both as a person and as an employee, so apparently she's not happy that I've been fucked about by a group manager who doesn't seem to give a fuck.

Though I admit part of it is on me for still agreeing to her habit of assigning me loads of shifts in different shops than the one I'm actually on the staff list for. And during my anxiety freakout that caused all this bullshit I can acknowledge that I fucked up. I got angry at objectively nothing, I punched a fucking wall repeatedly and actively complained to a regular customer in the shop I was in at the time that I hated my job and my entire worthless life.

So that's on me, I guess. As is never actually telling my group manager that I have these stupid problems, though admittedly that one is because I've never been able to properly tell anyone that in person without crying like a total embarrassment.

It's just all a mess right now and it's really fucking with my headspace.

I just can't help blaming myself for any of this cause if I didn't randomly fucking freak out for no reason none of this would be an issue but now it's a fucking nightmare with area and regional management involved all because I can't keep my cool and didn't think to mention to my new group manager that "oh yeah by the way I'm kind of fucking insane so I'm liable to flip the fuck out and be unable to do my basic fucking job sometimes."
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby René » 16 February 2020, 16:08

It is painful to see you struggling like this Severelius, especially when there must be a medication that could help you. Which one(s) have you tried?
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby Severelius » 17 February 2020, 00:42

René wrote:It is painful to see you struggling like this Severelius, especially when there must be a medication that could help you. Which one(s) have you tried?

I have tried none. Presumably getting medication for whatever the hell my brain is playing at requires going to some kind of medical professional, be it a GP or a mental health specialist. And... yeah I'm really terrified of doing that. Not only because I have proven time and again to be unable to talk about it properly without crying and that's not a thing I ever want to do in front of anyone but because the moment I see an actual medical/psychological professional about it, it becomes "real", if you get me?

You probably don't get me. What I just said probably makes no sense.
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby Derek » 17 February 2020, 00:56

So the choices are talk about it and cry and get medication, and talk about it and cry and don't get medication.
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby Severelius » 17 February 2020, 00:57

I mean not talking about it at all also seems like an option there. Was generally working pretty well as a strategy until recently, too.
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby Derek » 17 February 2020, 01:30

Wouldn't you rather talk about it on your own terms with a mental health professional instead of your regional manager?
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby Severelius » 17 February 2020, 08:18

Derek wrote:Wouldn't you rather talk about it on your own terms with a mental health professional instead of your regional manager?

I mean if I'm forced into an either or situation than the former is probably better. I just really fucking hate that it seems to have gotten this far at all.
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby René » 17 February 2020, 09:12

Severelius wrote:
René wrote:It is painful to see you struggling like this Severelius, especially when there must be a medication that could help you. Which one(s) have you tried?

I have tried none. Presumably getting medication for whatever the hell my brain is playing at requires going to some kind of medical professional, be it a GP or a mental health specialist. And... yeah I'm really terrified of doing that. Not only because I have proven time and again to be unable to talk about it properly without crying and that's not a thing I ever want to do in front of anyone but because the moment I see an actual medical/psychological professional about it, it becomes "real", if you get me?

You probably don't get me. What I just said probably makes no sense.

I think I understand. But you're going to have to get over this fear because the fact of the matter is that actually your problems already are very real and you really really really need help. And it's out there. Hell, I probably have 5 different individual medications lying in a drawer right now that would allow you to live a normal life without this tremendous suffering. Anxiety is usually not a massively difficult problem to treat.

If you really want to do it without speaking to your doctor or mental-health services, speak to me and I can have some meds delivered to your house off-the-record, either as a long-term solution for which I will assess and monitor you or just to kill your anxiety for a day so you'll feel up to talking to the doctor.
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 17 February 2020, 11:53

Severelius wrote:I mean not talking about it at all also seems like an option there. Was generally working pretty well as a strategy until recently, too.

As someone who never used to speak about anything, trust me when I say that opening up and talking stuff through is way better all round. I’m a big proponent of little cbt tricks that help me day to day, and talking is often the easiest way to a new perspective. If you feel up to it, and would rather see how you get on talking to someone not connected to your life at all, I’m free this Friday/saturday/Sunday at the mo. We can find somewhere quiet, take our time, have a little cry. Strictly off the record. I’d like to think I’m a fairly good listener when the need arises. Completely up to you.
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 17 February 2020, 11:57

Though, as an aside, I will insist you shave. I’m not going to lunch with Fu Manchu.
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 20 February 2020, 12:52

So, in changing roles at work, I requested a new laptop from IT. They offered me a Microsoft Surface. I asked if they could get me a Surface Book. They replied “yeah, it looks like we have a more expensive Surface option on the ordering list, are you sure it’s the one you need?” to which I replied “It would make certain bits of my job a lot more convenient” and so they ordered it.

This is what arrived today whilst I was off site. :facepalm:

This is not the mobile working solution I had in mind, I was more after something I could put in a bag as opposed to roll around on fucking coasters.
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby Brenden » 20 February 2020, 15:03

That's what happens when companies create brands and then slap them on random products inconsistently. :lol:
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby rxxli » 20 February 2020, 15:03

Marmaduke wrote:So, in changing roles at work, I requested a new laptop from IT. They offered me a Microsoft Surface. I asked if they could get me a Surface Book. They replied “yeah, it looks like we have a more expensive Surface option on the ordering list, are you sure it’s the one you need?” to which I replied “It would make certain bits of my job a lot more convenient” and so they ordered it.

This is what arrived today whilst I was off site. :facepalm:

This is not the mobile working solution I had in mind, I was more after something I could put in a bag as opposed to roll around on fucking coasters.

:lol:
OMG, this is hilarious.
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 20 February 2020, 15:07

Brenden wrote:That's what happens when companies create brands and then slap them on random products inconsistently. :lol:

I googled it! This thing costs over £8500! And they’ve assembled it, apparently disposed of all the packaging, upstairs, in a building with no lift! It’s not set up, it’s not linked to the network, it’s useless and expensive and now it has to go back.

People who don’t know about computers shouldn’t work in IT departments. It shouldn’t be allowed. A nerd would’ve known that I don’t want or need this.
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby Subra » 20 February 2020, 16:56

Monster Hunter World. Poor teammates who for whatever reason don't attack the monster, and then die using up all three lives.

I can't do it solo because I don't have an available mission for this monster, if I want to try for the rewards I have to respond to another player's SOS. It's frustrating when they don't appear to even try, and I've spent 30 mins weakening it by myself to then fail and get nothing.
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby Jzone » 21 February 2020, 01:57

Sometimes life sucks on too many levels.
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby OhHeyItsZach » 22 February 2020, 01:39

Stepping on a nail that went through my shoe and socks and right into my foot, ending up going to the hospital.
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Re: What put a frown on your face today?

Unread postby Capt._Trips » 22 February 2020, 01:54

OhHeyItsZach wrote:Stepping on a nail that went through my shoe and socks and right into my foot, ending up going to the hospital.

You gotta really watch that. It can easily become infected. I worked with a guy that was out of work for over a month from stepping on a nail.

Hope you feel okay now though. Just make sure to keep it clean and not in a shoe as much as possible.
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