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Unread postby Raynethemagi » 27 February 2021, 14:52

HELLO EVERYONE!!!!!!

Hi, my name is Jake and I'm 31 years old! I'm a white gay male, and I have BIG dreams (no pun intended)! I was diagnosed as a high-functioning Schizo-effective. For those who are not familiar with that term, to put it in Lamen's terms, I have traits of someone diagnosed with bipolar and Schizophrenia. I'm high-functioning, which means, I can do many of the things people without mental disorders can do, so like I can hold down a job, I can carry on a "normal" (But really, what is normal anyways?) conversation, I function "normally," etc... Growing up I was nothing but an A+ student (although, to humble myself, I did get one D on my report card before, and that was because I could not, for the life of me, wrap my brain around Geometry. Yes, I suck at shapes lol.). My family life is just weird...cause we get along and sometimes we don't. I don't really know how to describe it, but, let's just say it's complicated and weird. I have a passion for humans, I love being around all sorts of different people. I don't have like a certain "group" or "clique" I consider myself to be in, because, I'd like to say I'm "versatile" group-wise. My puppy Cooper is the best! He always says hi to me, and hugs me when I'm down. I was one of the "goody-two shoes" gays, meaning, I never did any heavy drugs, or light drugs too for that matter (except for my medicaton for my mental disorder), I drink but it's very rare when I do. To be honest I couldn't tell you the last time I had an alcoholic beverage. The only alcohol I'll drink is wine, because it's the only type of alcohol I like. I am VERY thankful that I live in America, where you are free to be who you are, cause I couldn't imagine living in a country that kills people because they're a certain way. I am not into the scene, but I understand that some people couldn't imagine where they'd be without being involved in the gay scene (So, just to give you an idea of what I mean by I'm non-scene, is, I don't go to gay bars, gay night clubs, Pride, etc...) I'm 100% happy with who I am (Which took a while, but I've learned to love myself in the process. I will say that the hardest thing I personally have ever had to do was to love myself.). I am not putting my religious preferences on here nor my political information on here. I don't mind sharing it, but the whole world doesn't need to know that information about me, so message me if you're curious.

My dream is to be a public/motivational speaker and therapist. The topic I want to focus on? Parental/Child dynamics and relationships, specifically Parental/Gay Child dynamics and relationships. I really wish I had a diverse group of people that I can be friends with. I literally accept most people. I have this one lady I'm friends with at work, and we're complete polar opposites, but we have so much fun. I would say I am a healthy mix of feminine and masculine qualities, and that I don't really lean one way or another. I like things that are corny or sappy, but I also like things that are action-based and I like to see things explode on occasion. I don't have a particular taste in any one type of music, I'll listen to most kinds of music except for rap and heavy metal. I can sing. I am a horrible actor, and proud of it! So, I'm kind of odd when it comes to sports. I don't actually like to watch sports, it's boring to me. But, I do like watching documentaries on what it took for an athlete to get to where he is today. I like watching the struggles and the hurdles the athlete had to overcome to get to where they're at currently. I'm a people person, I enjoy being in the company of other people. I'm a huge advocate for Works Cited pages. A general rule I follow is, if something doesn't have a Works Cited page, more than likely what you're reading is opinion-based or a work of fiction, hence why I don't watch most Newschannels, and to be honest, there's only one Newschannel that I watch and that I trust. I like people who like to have meaningful conversations, and not conversations that I can't learn from. My motto is: If it makes you happy, as long as it's not illegal, I say anything is fair game.

Now to talk about a topic I love to talk about the most: relationships. I've always been fascinated with the dynamic of different relationships, whether they be romantic or friendly, etc... So, in typical motivational speaker fashion, I'm going to talk about my take on how I approach romantic relationships. First of all, I have put a halt on my sex life. I have not had sex now for 6 years, and it's amazing the things you can accomplish when you're not having sex. I feel like I've accomplished more not having sex than when I did have sex. But, that's also because I'm 31 years old, and as you get older your priorities tend to change. And yes, as someone who is 31 years old, I am looking for an actual relationship. Not a one night thing. Not a FWB. I'm looking for someone to be with for the long haul. I do not require for my significant other to be a certain way, but, you must be willing to have an actual relationship with me. Meaning, when something goes wrong in the relationship, don't take the easy way out. If something is bothering you (or me) than we're going to sit down and talk about it. It could be something as small as not saying "I love you" to eachother everyday or something bigger such as trust issues. I don't consider ANY issue stupid, dramatic, or small....when a person is mad, a person is mad. I'm a big believer in 50/50, meaning both parties do an equal amount of work. I hate being in a relationship where one person is doing everything, and the other person just sits back and watches. A relationship is a 2 way street. I am willing to compromise and to be understanding only if you're willing to do the same with me. When you have a bad day, I will not write you off. What I mean by this is, let's say for example you lost one of your childhood friends because of a disagreement or a reason you deem as stupid. I'm not going to throw your topic to the wayside and say "Just think positive." Or "Everything's going to be ok." When you're mad, you're mad. And while what you might be mad might not seem like a big deal to me, I will NEVER treat your situation as if it's no big deal. The truth of the matter is, it's a big deal to you, and should be treated as such. One thing I will promise you too is that, I am NOT afraid to "talk about your feelings." Talking about your feelings is a very adult and a very healthy thing to do. I don't do well with people who block how they feel. If I don't know what the problem is to begin with, I can't help you. So, whether you like it or not, you're going to have to tell me what's wrong anyways. Physical and Mental attraction is key to me. Yes, I want the entire package. I will not base our relationship on sex, I will base our relationship on love. I'm very loyal, I have never cheated. I'm not high maintenance, as long as I'm with you, nothing else really matters. And of course, I'm a good listener. If literally all you want is to come home and have me listen to how your day went, whether your day is good/bad, I will not say a word and just listen to what you have to say. The main thing is, I'm looking for something that works with me, and me with it.

Anything else? Message me! Thanks!
-Jake
Here's an example of the Universe trying to tell you that you need healing in an area of your life:

Someone who struggles with showing emotion. This person, in their lifetime, will constantly struggle with this, and that is because, they choose to ignore or disregard the fact that they have trouble showing emotion. Most people will ignore this issue, and will continue to fracture themselves. And this goes with pretty much any problem that happens in your life that is recurring. Don't pass up an opportunity to make you "whole" again.
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Marmaduke » 27 February 2021, 15:05

Hi Jake. Are there cliff notes available for that^?
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Raynethemagi » 27 February 2021, 15:06

Oh...am I in trouble for typing up that big thing?
Here's an example of the Universe trying to tell you that you need healing in an area of your life:

Someone who struggles with showing emotion. This person, in their lifetime, will constantly struggle with this, and that is because, they choose to ignore or disregard the fact that they have trouble showing emotion. Most people will ignore this issue, and will continue to fracture themselves. And this goes with pretty much any problem that happens in your life that is recurring. Don't pass up an opportunity to make you "whole" again.
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Marmaduke » 27 February 2021, 15:15

You’re not in trouble, no. But it’s definitely a lot, and I skimmed it, and you’ve said you’re 31 three or four times, so I feel like it’s gonna be a ramble.

Perhaps, as a first impression, we can put the autobiography down and just go for a handful of highlights?
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Raynethemagi » 27 February 2021, 15:16

Ok, I can edit it really quick. Gimme one sec...
Here's an example of the Universe trying to tell you that you need healing in an area of your life:

Someone who struggles with showing emotion. This person, in their lifetime, will constantly struggle with this, and that is because, they choose to ignore or disregard the fact that they have trouble showing emotion. Most people will ignore this issue, and will continue to fracture themselves. And this goes with pretty much any problem that happens in your life that is recurring. Don't pass up an opportunity to make you "whole" again.
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Raynethemagi » 27 February 2021, 15:17

Oh, one thing....is there anywhere I can put this post? Like do I have a bio on here? (Sorry, but I did spend a good deal of time typing this)....
Here's an example of the Universe trying to tell you that you need healing in an area of your life:

Someone who struggles with showing emotion. This person, in their lifetime, will constantly struggle with this, and that is because, they choose to ignore or disregard the fact that they have trouble showing emotion. Most people will ignore this issue, and will continue to fracture themselves. And this goes with pretty much any problem that happens in your life that is recurring. Don't pass up an opportunity to make you "whole" again.
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Marmaduke » 27 February 2021, 15:28

If you’re gonna keep it, keep it here, but you’ll note that you’re able to post in the thread, and these posts could conceivably be used to offer such a summary for anyone reading the thread...
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Raynethemagi » 27 February 2021, 15:56

Here's the Cliff-Notes version:

-Name is Jake
-I'm 31 years old
-I love people
-I have BIG dreams (no pun intended)
-My favorite topic? Relationships
-I want people to take me seriously, so unless you really are curious on what I believe politically and religiously, don't ask me on a public forum what those are. That's what the private messaging is for.
-I have finally learned to love myself
-I do not believe what anyone says unless they attach a Works Cited page. I am a stickler for having a Works Cited page. Most of the time, when something doesn't have a Works Cited page to it, I write it off usually as an opinion piece or a piece of fiction. If you're going to back up something as fact, doing a Works Cited page is not a hard thing to do and actually adds to your credibility. Wikipedia, while I personally don't find that website as a constant reliable source of information, one thing I WILL give Wikipedia is that at least they have an area of where they got their information from. Some of it is reliable, but you have to look up the Sources they cite.
-With the above being said, I do not listen to most Media outlets for the simple fact that they don't have a Works Cited page. I'm not going to listen to someone say something factual if it's not actually factual.
-I WILL research something without a Works Cited page if someone really wants me to believe whatever information they present to me, but, not having a Works Cited page is an automatic red flag for me!
-I like being surrounded by a bunch of different people
-Anything else? Message me, or ask here, and I'll respond as soon as I can.
Here's an example of the Universe trying to tell you that you need healing in an area of your life:

Someone who struggles with showing emotion. This person, in their lifetime, will constantly struggle with this, and that is because, they choose to ignore or disregard the fact that they have trouble showing emotion. Most people will ignore this issue, and will continue to fracture themselves. And this goes with pretty much any problem that happens in your life that is recurring. Don't pass up an opportunity to make you "whole" again.
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Marmaduke » 27 February 2021, 15:59

So, when asked for the highlights of you as a human, you’ve got your name, your age and a very strong position on works cited pages and that’s it?

Well wonderful.
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Unread postby Marmaduke » 27 February 2021, 16:00

Have you got any interests that aren’t citation of research?
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Unread postby Nicholas » 27 February 2021, 16:16

I took a shot every time you wrote “works cited” and now I’m steaming drunk.

Welcome! :)
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Raynethemagi » 27 February 2021, 16:30

Lol....well I dunno, I just didn't want to be too wordy. But yes, I love talking about relationships. I can literally talk about relationships all day. I like talking about the dynamics of a relationship. I like talking about what makes a person tick.

Another thing I like to talk about is having meaning in your life. You're not living if you have no meaning. There has to be something you like to do. And I'm VERY open as to what that means for different people. So for example, someone might like to paint beautiful scenes of the Sahara Desert. While, other people might like to lay on the couch, eat chips, and watch Netflix. Everyone is different, therefore everyone's meaning will be different. It's a lovely world we live in.

With the above being said, I'm also interested in how people choose their life paths. So, for example, some people choose to live a simple life. Some people just like to be simple. 1+1=2, I like eggs, all very valid. Others like to solve very mathematically hard equations. Some people choose the path of a Scientist and is curious about how the world around us works.

I have a theory that everyone is learning at a different rate, and that one persons experience may not be equal to that of another person. Lemme give you an example. A person wakes up one day and decides that they are going to be more cleanly. So, they start to wipe up their area after they eat. They clean up after they get something out. They make sure the shower is clean after they take their shower.

Now, let's compare that to someone who doesn't really think about these things. Let's say someone else likes to wake up and just throw the underwear they slept in on the floor, doesn't do the dishes, doesn't wipe things down if he spills something on it.

Is one path better than the other? No, and I'll tell you why. There's 2 different levels of learning going on here. One person is learning how to make their environment more cleanly, and more tolerable. The other person hasn't gotten to that point in their life to want to make that particular change. It doesn't mean the other person is necessarily a gross person. It just means that, at this time, and point, in their life, they don't want to make that change. And, it's because they don't want to. That's a personal choice.

Now of course, most people in society value things to be clean. But, that's what society teaches, and while I can see the reason behind it, you have to factor in everything that is going on with that person. Maybe the person that doesn't clean, doesn't do it because he doesn't want to do it, he just might not do it because maybe he's going through a rough patch in his life. Maybe his grandmother died and he still mourns his grandmothers death, and because he's filled with grief, when he gets home from work, maybe he just wants to sit down and grieve. Grieving is a process and we should respect that person's wishes to grieve. And if it means to let certain things go, we should respect that. This is the stage that that person is in. We may not understand it, but we should respect it.

And who knows, maybe eventually that person will get over grieving and start focusing on bettering his own life. Maybe one day he'll get tired of feeling down, and he'll clean just so he can focus on something and eventually move on with his life. Or maybe he'll start cleaning as a way of dealing with the death of his grandmother eventually. You never know. It's important to realize that everyone is on a different path, and while we may not fully understand why people do some of the things they do, there's always a reason behind it.

I believe that life is one big metaphor. I do not believe in coincidence. Everything that happens to a person is supposed to happen. It's our job to figure out why things happen when they do happen.

Ok...hopefully that helps a little bit.
Here's an example of the Universe trying to tell you that you need healing in an area of your life:

Someone who struggles with showing emotion. This person, in their lifetime, will constantly struggle with this, and that is because, they choose to ignore or disregard the fact that they have trouble showing emotion. Most people will ignore this issue, and will continue to fracture themselves. And this goes with pretty much any problem that happens in your life that is recurring. Don't pass up an opportunity to make you "whole" again.
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Raynethemagi » 27 February 2021, 16:31

Shit...the above didn't really help. Just know that I like to talk about people. There....people are my number one passion.
Here's an example of the Universe trying to tell you that you need healing in an area of your life:

Someone who struggles with showing emotion. This person, in their lifetime, will constantly struggle with this, and that is because, they choose to ignore or disregard the fact that they have trouble showing emotion. Most people will ignore this issue, and will continue to fracture themselves. And this goes with pretty much any problem that happens in your life that is recurring. Don't pass up an opportunity to make you "whole" again.
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Nicholas » 27 February 2021, 16:33

What’s your favourite food?
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Raynethemagi » 27 February 2021, 16:36

Mashed Potatoes.
Here's an example of the Universe trying to tell you that you need healing in an area of your life:

Someone who struggles with showing emotion. This person, in their lifetime, will constantly struggle with this, and that is because, they choose to ignore or disregard the fact that they have trouble showing emotion. Most people will ignore this issue, and will continue to fracture themselves. And this goes with pretty much any problem that happens in your life that is recurring. Don't pass up an opportunity to make you "whole" again.
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Raynethemagi » 27 February 2021, 16:36

By the way Nick, your picture is extremely appropriate lol!
Here's an example of the Universe trying to tell you that you need healing in an area of your life:

Someone who struggles with showing emotion. This person, in their lifetime, will constantly struggle with this, and that is because, they choose to ignore or disregard the fact that they have trouble showing emotion. Most people will ignore this issue, and will continue to fracture themselves. And this goes with pretty much any problem that happens in your life that is recurring. Don't pass up an opportunity to make you "whole" again.
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Nicholas » 27 February 2021, 16:59

Raynethemagi wrote:Mashed Potatoes.

I'm surprised at the brevity of your answer!
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Marmaduke » 27 February 2021, 17:06

Raynethemagi wrote:Mashed Potatoes.

Well that’s the theme tune to Bodger and Badger stuck in my head for the rest of the afternoon...

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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby Raynethemagi » 27 February 2021, 17:11

LOL! How old is that show?! And how do I not know what this is!?
Here's an example of the Universe trying to tell you that you need healing in an area of your life:

Someone who struggles with showing emotion. This person, in their lifetime, will constantly struggle with this, and that is because, they choose to ignore or disregard the fact that they have trouble showing emotion. Most people will ignore this issue, and will continue to fracture themselves. And this goes with pretty much any problem that happens in your life that is recurring. Don't pass up an opportunity to make you "whole" again.
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Re: Aspiring Public Speaker/Motivational Speaker/Therapist (Long Post)

Unread postby René » 28 February 2021, 00:18

Hey Jake, welcome to the forum :keke: glad to have you with us!

I'm actually making my way through your original post. It's just taking some time. :P I'll have to come back to it tomorrow. :D
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