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Unread postby Damian » 13 August 2019, 19:17


Just an introduction, new to this site.
My name is Damian (just not as creepy as in The Omen). I am a 35 year old guy from the Netherlands. Working as a police officer for the last 17 years, love to travel and a complete sucker for cars and motorbikes.

At age 22, I met my soulmate. He swept me off my feet! He was 19 years old, VERY good looking and a total sweetheart. Things went quickly and little over two years later we bought a house together, got a dog en settled down. When he was 26, we discovered that his cancer came back. He won the battle twice before as an infant and a child, but this time it hit him hard. We got married and went on our honeymoon, preparing to fight it once again together. Only to find out that this time, there was nothing they could do for him. He got worse quickly and I lost my husband, lover and best friend 5 months later. A widower at age 29, never expected that to happen to me.
My life literally got turned upside down and I completely lost myself. For the next 4 years... well, things went downhill and I made some big mistakes that I am not proud of. Not going to bother you with details.. nothing illegal > still got my job ;-)

Anyway, I can honestly say that it took me over 5 years to get my life back together, getting to the point where I am now. Which is currently in a situation that I really don't know how to handle. Therefore I decided to sign up and ask for some advice in another topic.

Well, enough (drama) about me! Perhaps I will meet some new friends here :-)
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Unread postby hopenlife2019 » 14 August 2019, 11:30

Hey Damian! I'm so sorry about what happened to you!
I guess listening to other people's story makes me feel that my life is not that bad.
Thank you so much for sharing it! Just give me a PM if you need to talk. :)
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Unread postby xeta » 14 August 2019, 16:06

Hello Damian, what a sad story.. life isn't fair. I hope you do well, with your husband deep inside your heart. Enjoy your stay.
Acceptance doesn't mean resignation; it means understanding that something is what it is and that there's got to be a way through it.
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Unread postby Pomstar » 14 August 2019, 16:22

While I lament it's hard for me to find my soulmate, my lamentation is so petty compared to what you have lost. I am sooooo sorry to hear that. But yes.... despite wanting to protest x 1000000 times against the cruel twist of fate, life has to find a way to move on and see the past as a bittersweet possession.

Most probably, you won't meet another guy that can be called a soulmate, but can be amazing and wonderful nevertheless. Of course, friends can be amazing too. Get to know people as a way of moving forward, even if it means to shove your ass out of the house even when you don't feel like it. I hope you have a amazing future ahead. =)
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Unread postby Damian » 15 August 2019, 12:34

Thank you guys for the kind words. I am pretty much okay now. Still missing him like crazy but accepting the fact that I have to move on. And that it is okay to move on.

I will be alright! :-)
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