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A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby PeterVa4677833 » 17 May 2022, 17:22

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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby rogonandi » 17 May 2022, 17:52

Well today I plan on doing very little as it’s pretty much my only day off work this week. I plan on using the computer to create some graphics for a video game I’m making. It’s pretty much my only hobby as work, sleep, and my husband take up the rest of my time. I’m also pretty happy.

Welcome to the forum, Peter. Your first post is a pretty interesting one. :)
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby PeterVa4677833 » 17 May 2022, 18:01

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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby Marmaduke » 17 May 2022, 19:33

Well Peter, if it’s any consolation, the amateur romance novelists of the world wish there were more people like you. They would love the world to be populated exclusively by people that think like you. They’d love it. Their lives would be so simple, they’d have to do next to no work and just be rolling in the money. They’d have an audience who wanted absolutely nothing from the love interest character, an audience wholly satisfied by someone so devoid of character traits that they are first and foremost their own gender. First and foremost. Do you know how easy to write that would be? I could do that. I wish there were more yous in the world. I’d probs have a boat by now.

I am inclined to ask, if I may Peter, what you imagine it is that a straight man does that a gay man doesn’t that you would need me to act like I was more interested in if I wanted to have any hope of romancing you? Is it just the farting and ruminating over a coffee in the morning? Because I do that. I do that every morning. But I make no effort to act like a straight man. I leave my acting for my drag performance - which is, by the way, exclusively built around heteronormative sexual roles and constantly asking any man with a pulse if he tops or bottoms - Glad to see you share my experience in that being the sole interest of the homosexual community, btw, it’s good to know my act is well targeted to it’s demographic - I was grateful you clarified where you fell on the spectrum without my even having needed to ask, certainly took a weight off of my mind.

Just out of idle curiosity, where have your interactions with other gay men been to have seen this play out so consistently? Have you perhaps bought it up without realising? because I couldn’t help but notice you resentfully mentioned sexual roles three times in a post that had almost nothing to do with them and it kinda read a little bit like you might have some internalised drama that needs unpacking. Perhaps after a nice read of a really bland romance novel, a good fart and another long night on bottom?
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby Marmaduke » 17 May 2022, 19:58

So you believe farts are the sole preserve of the straight man? That only gay men find them unpleasant, whilst the straight community is on a perilous path to extinction as nobody can tempt the men out from under their duvets where they spend all day gleefully savouring their own farts from their Dutch oven?
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby PeterVa4677833 » 17 May 2022, 20:03

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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby Marmaduke » 17 May 2022, 20:05

PeterVa4677833 wrote:I guess, in simple terms, there are gay dudes out there, who just fart and belch and are gross to the max but still love to tear up that ass and take some dick? Sorry to be a prude. :-)

That.

See the power of condescension? Of just reflecting an assertion back to you and letting you realise for yourself it was a stupid fucking question all along?

Maybe, in future, just sit by yourself and ask these sorts of questions out loud to yourself. If they sound stupid, they probably are.
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby PeterVa4677833 » 17 May 2022, 20:15

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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby Marmaduke » 17 May 2022, 20:40

I could never stay mad at you, Peter, you farty little scamp.
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby colby100 » 18 May 2022, 05:17

I've known people who have acted straight so they never had to come out. But I don't feel like this would be a good thing because they can't be themselves if they're always acting straight.

One of my professors said that he knew he was gay. But he seemed so masculine that when he came out, everyone was surprised.

So maybe there are people who act straight to hide their true sexuality but there's also a chance that there are people who may be gay, but still act masculine and surprises people when they come out.
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby NobodySpecial » 31 May 2022, 18:09

This is one of the most peculiar/odd/queer threads I have ever read...

I confess that I like men who act like men, but my definition of what that is seems much less odd than as what is described here...

1) I don't think str8 men dwell on farts. I think most humans would prefer to do it in private with a lot of space (in case it is a smelly one). I know in HS some guys would do it on command just to get a reaction from a coach or get laughed at. Suffice it to say they were not the popular guys, they were more the clowns.

2) I cannot stand the stench of coffee. There is nothing about it that makes it gay/st8/bi/asexual, nor is it a male/female/trans/inter/non-binary habit. It is just a disgusting habit that way too many people have. Yes, I buy coffee for my partner of 18+ years, because I love him completely. Still I would shout HALLELUIAH if he gave it up.

3) I don't bother to reflect on the day, as the day begins when I wake up. There is no reflecting to do. I'm already living the day.

4) Not thinking about top/bottom or sex for the entire day... That sounds like low-T, more than being so called "st8". Straight men don't have to think about top/bottom because unless they have a pegging partner, their role is already pre-assigned. I think of sex quite a bit. I have no desire to have sex with anybody but my partner. Sadly, I have a very bad case of ED, but that doesn't keep me from missing being inside him. Yes, I am an unrepentant out-of-commission TOP. That doesn't mean I'm more hung, more masculine, more dominant, more str8 than my partner. It simply means that my heart, soul, emotions melt when I would be inside him. I guess I have always yearned for that masculine male womb home. I've always been attracted to handsome, masculine, hairy, muscular men and the more they fit that bill the more I wish I was inside them. Yes I wish I could literally impregnate such a man or even more so be that resulting child.

Now, how do I keep that under control from making my day unproductive? Simple, my guy loves me. That "blessed assurance" keeps me from obsessing every waking moment about sex. If I ever had any doubts about the depth of his love, I only need to think back almost 4 years ago when I was in the hospital for 5 weeks with West Nile. He took a leave of absence from work, and except for going home to sleep and take care of our animals, he was with me. When I finally came out of sedation, there he was all teared up because I came so close to dying. Now I'm sure for most a man crying isn't considered "str8" acting, but it meant the world to me. It made me realize how lucky I am and that I don't ever want to put him through that again. He is my earthly angel.

As to what is a man, I see it foremost as someone who puts his family above everything else. He doesn't try to be something he isn't. He also wants to be the first thing his partner sees in the morning when they wake up, and the last thing his partner sees before they fall asleep.
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby Trebor » 8 June 2022, 04:40

Short answer. My friends call me gay redneck..i don't put labels on but you would never look at me and think I was gay nor by talking to me.
I don't buy into all the hype of gay bi straight we all are sexual beings and what at that time makes us horny is what makes us happy. I've dated feminine men ,butch men even a drag queen for a while. I've top, bottom, and even sideways but i have always been a man. I wake up knock one out and get along with my day, I don't think about sex all day but if I see something of interest i might wonder.

P>S> thank heavens for spell check
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby Eryx » 30 June 2022, 01:37

I think it's ironic to consider labels something unwelcome while at the same time labeling things as "guy" stuff. Either way, people are people. You won't be short of masculine guys in the gay world. It's not even that fringe anymore. I've managed to be mostly masculine for the past 12 years without bitching about it
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