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A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby PeterVa4677833 » 17 May 2022, 17:22

Hi Everyone, Peter here. I am new to the forum, so maybe I should introduce myself.

I am Peter - 41 years old; I have a partner of 20+ years. I am versatile – (in case that is of question for some). I live in Florida; I love to binge-watching shows on Netflix, play with my beautiful German shepherd, and spend time with my partner. I am genuinely a very happy person.

I write this post as an inquiry if I may. I am curious about something, I am curious as to a lifestyle of a man. A gay man perhaps, who is interested in straight acting dudes. I do not have intentions to cheat on my partner at all, I am just curious about a concept.

Me, personally, I like straight acting men. As friends, and as close friends. Here is the thing, my mindset is this: a guy/dude regardless of self-identifying labels of sexual preference, is a guy. He does what guys do. And by that I mean, wakes up in the morning, maybe farts, goes to the kitchen to make coffee, reflects on the day coming up, doesn’t care about top/bottom at that moment, just does what any normal man would do. He might not even think about sex that the entire day. He is, first and foremost a man.

So, in an effort to not beat around the bush, are there men out there, who are like this or similar, who do not care about sexual preference at heart, but are gay or bi, that just, first and foremost want to achieve their goals without putting labels on things?
I’m sure there are. I just want to maybe, hear from a few.

Guys, what are your goals when you wake up in the morning? Do you feel anything like I do?

I am sure I am thinking of this in a weird way, my interactions with other gay men have always been that of, “hey, are you T or B? age?”.
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby rogonandi » 17 May 2022, 17:52

Well today I plan on doing very little as it’s pretty much my only day off work this week. I plan on using the computer to create some graphics for a video game I’m making. It’s pretty much my only hobby as work, sleep, and my husband take up the rest of my time. I’m also pretty happy.

Welcome to the forum, Peter. Your first post is a pretty interesting one. :)
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby PeterVa4677833 » 17 May 2022, 18:01

rogonandi wrote:Well today I plan on doing very little as it’s pretty much my only day off work this week. I plan on using the computer to create some graphics for a video game I’m making. It’s pretty much my only hobby as work, sleep, and my husband take up the rest of my time. I’m also pretty happy.

Welcome to the forum, Peter. Your first post is a pretty interesting one. :)



Why, thank you - rogonandi!

That is so cool, what you shared, I love that you are doing some graphics for a video game, that is amazing in my opinion. I love that you have a husband and that you are pretty happy!
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby Marmaduke » 17 May 2022, 19:33

Well Peter, if it’s any consolation, the amateur romance novelists of the world wish there were more people like you. They would love the world to be populated exclusively by people that think like you. They’d love it. Their lives would be so simple, they’d have to do next to no work and just be rolling in the money. They’d have an audience who wanted absolutely nothing from the love interest character, an audience wholly satisfied by someone so devoid of character traits that they are first and foremost their own gender. First and foremost. Do you know how easy to write that would be? I could do that. I wish there were more yous in the world. I’d probs have a boat by now.

I am inclined to ask, if I may Peter, what you imagine it is that a straight man does that a gay man doesn’t that you would need me to act like I was more interested in if I wanted to have any hope of romancing you? Is it just the farting and ruminating over a coffee in the morning? Because I do that. I do that every morning. But I make no effort to act like a straight man. I leave my acting for my drag performance - which is, by the way, exclusively built around heteronormative sexual roles and constantly asking any man with a pulse if he tops or bottoms - Glad to see you share my experience in that being the sole interest of the homosexual community, btw, it’s good to know my act is well targeted to it’s demographic - I was grateful you clarified where you fell on the spectrum without my even having needed to ask, certainly took a weight off of my mind.

Just out of idle curiosity, where have your interactions with other gay men been to have seen this play out so consistently? Have you perhaps bought it up without realising? because I couldn’t help but notice you resentfully mentioned sexual roles three times in a post that had almost nothing to do with them and it kinda read a little bit like you might have some internalised drama that needs unpacking. Perhaps after a nice read of a really bland romance novel, a good fart and another long night on bottom?
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby PeterVa4677833 » 17 May 2022, 19:50

And if you were to write said novel or story, I would love to read it. I hope to answer all your inquires. The reason I use the term fart in my post, my question is, I am of the mindset that is a negative to most gay dudes, please excuse my pre-conceived notions or thoughts. Where I have found this behavior is in online message boards and chats, as well as the very small amount of time I spent at clubs 20 years ago.

Keep in mind, it does not bother me in any way. I just have a great appreciation for the guy who does not care about things others consider as taboo. Hence, farting... burping... To me, that's what a guy does. And I love it. I am not into a fetish of that sort, I just have a nice attraction to dudes...being dudes.

I don't know that I have drama to unpack, per se. Just in the few experiences I have had, a long time ago, being a brute or normal man, wasn't looked upon in favor. But, I think it should be. Again - I love guys that do guy things. Maybe that, in itself is a fetish.

I am not looking for a relationship at all, since I am in one. This has just been a curiosity on my mind for a while.

I am sure I missed a few things in my reply. Thanks so much, for your response above.
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby Marmaduke » 17 May 2022, 19:58

So you believe farts are the sole preserve of the straight man? That only gay men find them unpleasant, whilst the straight community is on a perilous path to extinction as nobody can tempt the men out from under their duvets where they spend all day gleefully savouring their own farts from their Dutch oven?
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby PeterVa4677833 » 17 May 2022, 20:03

Marmaduke wrote:So you believe farts are the sole preserve of the straight man? That only gay men find them unpleasant, whilst the straight community is on a perilous path to extinction as nobody can tempt the men out from under their duvets where they spend all day gleefully savouring their own farts from their Dutch oven?



No, I consider farts as the extreme. I don't know man, I know many a straight man that find them unpleasant as well. I guess I was just trying to establish a base-line for my thoughts.

I guess, in simple terms, there are gay dudes out there, who just fart and belch and are gross to the max but still love to tear up that ass and take some dick? Sorry to be a prude. :-)
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby Marmaduke » 17 May 2022, 20:05

PeterVa4677833 wrote:I guess, in simple terms, there are gay dudes out there, who just fart and belch and are gross to the max but still love to tear up that ass and take some dick? Sorry to be a prude. :-)

That.

See the power of condescension? Of just reflecting an assertion back to you and letting you realise for yourself it was a stupid fucking question all along?

Maybe, in future, just sit by yourself and ask these sorts of questions out loud to yourself. If they sound stupid, they probably are.
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby PeterVa4677833 » 17 May 2022, 20:15

My apologies, Marmaduke - I did not mean to offend or ask stupid questions. I think my mind was in a different place today. With that said, I ask for your forgiveness. I am a nice person. I am caring and compassionate. I just, obviously ask stupid questions without thinking, from time to time.
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby Marmaduke » 17 May 2022, 20:40

I could never stay mad at you, Peter, you farty little scamp.
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby PeterVa4677833 » 17 May 2022, 21:07

Marmaduke wrote:I could never stay mad at you, Peter, you farty little scamp.


Wow, thanks man!
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby colby100 » 18 May 2022, 05:17

I've known people who have acted straight so they never had to come out. But I don't feel like this would be a good thing because they can't be themselves if they're always acting straight.

One of my professors said that he knew he was gay. But he seemed so masculine that when he came out, everyone was surprised.

So maybe there are people who act straight to hide their true sexuality but there's also a chance that there are people who may be gay, but still act masculine and surprises people when they come out.
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby NobodySpecial » 31 May 2022, 18:09

This is one of the most peculiar/odd/queer threads I have ever read...

I confess that I like men who act like men, but my definition of what that is seems much less odd than as what is described here...

1) I don't think str8 men dwell on farts. I think most humans would prefer to do it in private with a lot of space (in case it is a smelly one). I know in HS some guys would do it on command just to get a reaction from a coach or get laughed at. Suffice it to say they were not the popular guys, they were more the clowns.

2) I cannot stand the stench of coffee. There is nothing about it that makes it gay/st8/bi/asexual, nor is it a male/female/trans/inter/non-binary habit. It is just a disgusting habit that way too many people have. Yes, I buy coffee for my partner of 18+ years, because I love him completely. Still I would shout HALLELUIAH if he gave it up.

3) I don't bother to reflect on the day, as the day begins when I wake up. There is no reflecting to do. I'm already living the day.

4) Not thinking about top/bottom or sex for the entire day... That sounds like low-T, more than being so called "st8". Straight men don't have to think about top/bottom because unless they have a pegging partner, their role is already pre-assigned. I think of sex quite a bit. I have no desire to have sex with anybody but my partner. Sadly, I have a very bad case of ED, but that doesn't keep me from missing being inside him. Yes, I am an unrepentant out-of-commission TOP. That doesn't mean I'm more hung, more masculine, more dominant, more str8 than my partner. It simply means that my heart, soul, emotions melt when I would be inside him. I guess I have always yearned for that masculine male womb home. I've always been attracted to handsome, masculine, hairy, muscular men and the more they fit that bill the more I wish I was inside them. Yes I wish I could literally impregnate such a man or even more so be that resulting child.

Now, how do I keep that under control from making my day unproductive? Simple, my guy loves me. That "blessed assurance" keeps me from obsessing every waking moment about sex. If I ever had any doubts about the depth of his love, I only need to think back almost 4 years ago when I was in the hospital for 5 weeks with West Nile. He took a leave of absence from work, and except for going home to sleep and take care of our animals, he was with me. When I finally came out of sedation, there he was all teared up because I came so close to dying. Now I'm sure for most a man crying isn't considered "str8" acting, but it meant the world to me. It made me realize how lucky I am and that I don't ever want to put him through that again. He is my earthly angel.

As to what is a man, I see it foremost as someone who puts his family above everything else. He doesn't try to be something he isn't. He also wants to be the first thing his partner sees in the morning when they wake up, and the last thing his partner sees before they fall asleep.
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Re: A question from a straight acting dude…

Unread postby Trebor » 8 June 2022, 04:40

Short answer. My friends call me gay redneck..i don't put labels on but you would never look at me and think I was gay nor by talking to me.
I don't buy into all the hype of gay bi straight we all are sexual beings and what at that time makes us horny is what makes us happy. I've dated feminine men ,butch men even a drag queen for a while. I've top, bottom, and even sideways but i have always been a man. I wake up knock one out and get along with my day, I don't think about sex all day but if I see something of interest i might wonder.

P>S> thank heavens for spell check
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