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ADVICE PLEASE

Unread postby samuel05 » 28 November 2019, 01:56

Hi, i am Sam a 16 year old boy from the UK

I need some advice

i fancy my best friend (CALLUM) who is 17, i think he might be gay but i am not sure if he is or not, I dont know what to say to him?, as he will probably be angry if he thinks i think hes gay if hes not, I meet him quite often as friends, and i really do like him but i just dont know what to say or how to say it, i am scared if i say anything he will not like me

he is my dream boyfriend

Please ca
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Re: ADVICE PLEASE

Unread postby Eryx » 28 November 2019, 03:53

If you don't want him to feel offended about being asked if he's gay, just tell him that you like him and that it's okay if he doesn't like you back. There's a chance he won't be interested, but at least you'll have tried. You can say that you won't bother him or act differently or whatever just to calm things down.

Good luck!
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Re: ADVICE PLEASE

Unread postby xeil » 28 November 2019, 20:55

Eryx wrote:If you don't want him to feel offended about being asked if he's gay, just tell him that you like him and that it's okay if he doesn't like you back. There's a chance he won't be interested, but at least you'll have tried. You can say that you won't bother him or act differently or whatever just to calm things down.

Good luck!


True, maybe he feels the same way and just afraid to tell you, maybe not. The only way to figure it out is to ask him. If you don't want to be so direct and you are afraid, you can also try to bring up some lgbtq+ subjects and see how he reacts. Or something a little bit direct like telling him about someone (ex. an actor) "he is so handsome".

P.S. Why should someone be offended to be called gay? That would be some homophobic reaction :squint:
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