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Unread postby HoneyBoat92 » 23 August 2018, 15:16

I was just wondering what age gaps people have experienced and what their preferences are

I personally go for older gentlemen, I'm 26 so normally I look for men between around 40 and 55

What are other peoples views and experiences on this?
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 23 August 2018, 15:30

HoneyBoat92 wrote:I was just wondering what age gaps people have experienced and what their preferences are

I personally go for older gentlemen, I'm 26 so normally I look for men between around 40 and 55

What are other peoples views and experiences on this?



I'm curious what your expectations are from that relationship? IMO, a lot of the younger guys really start to depend upon the older financially and from my stand point that is the last thing I want. I guess wrt that I'm an NSA attached person. Emotionally wise I could never do NSA.
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Unread postby HoneyBoat92 » 23 August 2018, 15:38

It's nothing financial with me, I just find older men really attractive both physically and mentally

Both my two boyfriends have been 55 and 52 and were both amazing experiences
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 23 August 2018, 22:07

Ok. So I'm the older guy side of that. My question is do some older guys actually like the financial attachment? And what their reasonings might be.

So I'm 55. Been mainly with 30-39 At that point I think differences in maturity are less. Then again I think two of the same age could be drastically different in maturity as well. I was seeing a guy who was 26. I thought he was 30 for some reason. When he told me I was like "what the hell am I doing". Honestly it was me that screwed it up but I think we were both unsure what we want out of a relationship.
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 23 August 2018, 22:09

I should say age isn't a thing for me as much as fitness is.
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 23 August 2018, 22:14

HoneyBoat92 wrote:It's nothing financial with me, I just find older men really attractive both physically and mentally

Both my two boyfriends have been 55 and 52 and were both amazing experiences


I think my last BF and I felt the same. We had a great time in and out of the bedroom.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 24 August 2018, 03:59

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Unread postby mxguy01 » 24 August 2018, 15:37

poolerboy0077 wrote:I want a thotty 20-year-old to dance on a pole for me with a come-hither gaze.


So how big is that age gap?
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Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 24 August 2018, 18:15

mxguy01 wrote:
poolerboy0077 wrote:I want a thotty 20-year-old to dance on a pole for me with a come-hither gaze.


So how big is that age gap?

I’m bad at math. What’s 97 minus 20?
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 24 August 2018, 19:53

poolerboy0077 wrote:
mxguy01 wrote:
poolerboy0077 wrote:I want a thotty 20-year-old to dance on a pole for me with a come-hither gaze.


So how big is that age gap?

I’m bad at math. What’s 97 minus 20?


Well I believe Derek mentioned prior that you were 30. So that would mean around a 10 year age difference. The OP posted such that he was talking upwards of 30 years difference which I'd say is a different discussion than your case on several accounts.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby PopTart » 24 August 2018, 20:59

poolerboy0077 wrote:
mxguy01 wrote:
poolerboy0077 wrote:I want a thotty 20-year-old to dance on a pole for me with a come-hither gaze.


So how big is that age gap?

I’m bad at math. What’s 97 minus 20?

A heart attack?
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Unread postby Cyber Punk » 24 August 2018, 21:02

I am 42, and prefer younger guys. I like it if they may depend on me (to a small extent) financially and otherwise. I am currently deeply in lust with a really hot 21 year old guy that I work with. I hope I get to sample his delights very soon.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby mxguy01 » 24 August 2018, 22:32

PopTart wrote:
poolerboy0077 wrote:
mxguy01 wrote:
poolerboy0077 wrote:I want a thotty 20-year-old to dance on a pole for me with a come-hither gaze.


So how big is that age gap?

I’m bad at math. What’s 97 minus 20?

A heart attack?


About right. The number I figure is most likely for me is 76. So I want to spend all my life savings by that point. I'll only need enough for cremation, an urn and the cost to plant me in the family burial plot. I think there is one more urn allowed beside the one spot reserved for me.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby jjbb2018em » 25 August 2018, 05:22

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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby jjbb2018em » 25 August 2018, 12:14

So, I'm 21 and the guy I like (that I'm kinda seeing) is 35. He brought up the age gap (14 years) the last day. He was worried about the difference in lifestyles, maturity, choices, places in life, etc.. Being honest, the age gap isn't an issue for me to an extent, of course, but I have liked him for quite a long time and so the age gap is worrying me now as he seems to be in two minds about it. I pointed out to him that it doesn't bother me, but he said that that's because I'm not the older one. I'm not looking for a sugar daddy - I'm not in college, I've two jobs, I'm not living at home. I'm not one to toot my own horn, but I'm not an immature person; far more mature than the average 21 year old. I don't want to force anything. However, I do want to let it play out, go with the flow and see where it goes. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated.

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P.S. : The advice from people with similar ages/age gaps would be highly valued.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 25 August 2018, 13:07

I always have and still feel attracted to the younger, around Twink and Twen ages, but I never have had a relationship or something. All I ever experienced, or saw and heard this in expressions from young dudes, was a profound wave of rejection toward much older guys. One I even can understand, because, why should someone want a partner the age of their dad or uncle?

So I'm not really okay with my partner age preference and more than looking at people or pictures I don't pursue any longer. I think I was like 32 when my preference started to feel not all right any more - to me, at least. I can't speak for anyone else sharing that preference. I never wanted to become one of these old guys that lurk around the club like a praying mantis and hope to snatch a docile Twink by chance. Maybe that's the reason for not feeling well with partner ideal preference, as I grow older. Too, thinking about the image in hypothesis, after 20 years of a relationship with a Twink partner, he would be like 39 and me like an old geezer. People would laugh at him for wasting his life for an old fart - I think I couldn't bear it. Actually I think that gerontophilia rather would be rare a case. You can't see the masses of Twinks fall in love to old guys, eh? :D

I never felt compatible with that dad & son roleplay kind of stuff. I couldn't picture myself as a "dad", it's just too weird. Rather would go with the Broski thesis, if something of this at all.

Fitness and age goes together pretty well. Someone over 30 and in-shape would rather catch an interest than someone 20 and sloppy chubby.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby azgayguy » 21 October 2018, 04:01

I liked older until I hit my 50's and now I ok with guys my age. I hooked up with a 40 something Dr in my 20's and ended up doing him and his Dr friends so that kind of sealed the deal with me. I really have no interest in anyone under 50 now and 60-70 is still good for me.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 21 October 2018, 14:39

I've always tended to date guys who are more or less the same age, or maybe like a couple/few years older (barely an age gap). It's my general preference. I'm in my mid-20s now and I tend to date other guys in their mid or late 20s.

I am physically attracted to slightly older men (especially men in their 30s, I think the 30s is most mens' "peak" tbh, but even 40s/50s if they really still "have it") but I couldn't see myself seriously dating one. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but I don't like the thought of getting with a guy in his 40s now who would be like 60 when I'm 40. I'd have sex with an older guy if I was physically into him, but I wouldn't date one, unless very strong feelings for him came over me at least.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby PopTart » 21 October 2018, 17:19

So, kinda late to this party, but I'm gonna chime in.

When I was younger, I had no real issue about dating an older guy, it seemed like such a non issue, but I have come to suspect, thats because, I had no idea about the future and what that might look like for both people in that situation.

Now that I'm more likely to be the older guy then the younger guy (I tend towards people my own age but certainly not beyond liking guys younger than me, less so older guys, simply because i'm middle aged and older guys are noticebly older, yeah, it's shallow, but there it is.)

I find it's more of an issue, not just because of the difference in popular culture, social positions and all that, which ofc, can be overcome. But I find myself thinking about tomorrow more. What if I really care about someone, say I'm mid thrities and he is mid twenties (as low as I'm likely to go and not be VERY uncomfortable) That means that, sooner or later, I'm going to reach a stage in my life, where I am visibily and in terms of fitness and capability, an old man, and my partner will be stuck with that old man.

That does not sit well with me. At all. I wouldn't want that, not least for myself, I'd be wondering if they were really happy. I'd worry that they might have to care for me at some point :blargh: That they might not live their life to fullest and potentially, do all that and then, watch me die and be left alone :cry:

I'd hate that so damn much.

So can age gap relationships work? Sure, I guess they can, I know of some that do. But I think they present unique challenges and they also require a certain degree of sacrifice and forward planning, that not everyone is upto and even then. It's gonna be a challenge.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Eternityroad » 23 October 2018, 00:58

I am 70, my partner is 23! We have been dating five months and are committed to an exclusive relationship. This is the first relationship for both of us. Most of the time we go out for meals it is "dutch", at his insistence. Occasionally one of us will treat the other. He is busy with career and outside interests so at this time we see each other 3-4 times a week with a sleep-over night included. He found my profile on a gay dating site and got in touch with me. I hadn't been active in two years. We mesh so well that I am amazed at how lucky I have been to have found him.
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