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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Waterford33 » 24 October 2018, 16:26

I am seeeing 2 men right now. One is 67 the other is 58. They know about each other and dont mind. Im 33 and it works fine.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Tommiebee » 24 October 2018, 22:04

Up until I was past 40 I preferred younger men. That preference was less about sex than just about being around those I was comfortable with - I looked younger than my age and acted younger.
Once in a while I would get hit on by older men, but felt Ill at ease with that.
Now that is mostly reversed: I'm a lot more comfortable with older men. This doesn't account for the man in my group about 15 years younger than me who will put his arms around me to hug me and I just melt.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby uncut7in » 2 November 2018, 20:49

Within a relationship Ive had a 25 year age gap (me 58 him 33 when we met). It was an amazing few years and age was never an issue. Since spitting up I've had casual encounters with even bigger age gaps (52 years - 70/18) but I doubt we would have enough in common for a lasting relationship.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 3 November 2018, 16:27

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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Eternityroad » 3 November 2018, 22:38

I was very concerned about shared interests. There is a 47 year age-gap between my partner and me. At the beginning he kept telling me it doesn't matter to him about shared interests. We love to cook and bake together, go out for meals, and attend lectures about comparative religions. We also have occasional movie nights and play board games. The most important thing is our being together. Our taste in movies differ. He is a Marvel Action movie fan. I am not. So we take turns watching the each others taste in films. I watched Dr. Strange with him last week. And the time before he watched Too Wong Foo, Thank You For Everything, Julie Newmar with me. I have a straight female friend who has been married to her husband for 35 years (similar ages, though) They have no shared interests, yet it all works. That is encouraging. My partner had some gum drop candies left over from Halloween and wants us to make a gingerbread house for Christmas....sweet...I hope some day the house is more than gingerbread!!! lol
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Eryx » 5 November 2018, 16:18

My age preference is pretty wide... Last relationship was with a 39-year-old. The age didn't matter too much, he was immature like a 20-year-old. We had a lot in common, most of the time the age gap wasn't in my mind.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby uncut7in » 26 May 2019, 17:50

As I've got older, I find I'm attracted to younger and younger guys. I've just passed 70 and am interested in the 18-25 age range.

However what works for a casual contact may not be so good in a relationship where compatibility is important. So my biggest age gap for casual sex has been 52 years (70/18), whereas for a lasting relationship it's been 25 years (58/33). Age just didn't play a part.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Eternityroad » 27 May 2019, 00:39

Partner is 24 and I am 71. We just celebrated a year together. First relationship for both of us, though he had been involved in a long-distance thing. We have weathered many storms but we talk our way through them and right now it is smooth sailing.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby erti » 27 May 2019, 00:44

Eternityroad wrote:Partner is 24 and I am 71. We just celebrated a year together. First relationship for both of us, though he had been involved in a long-distance thing. We have weathered many storms but we talk our way through them and right now it is smooth sailing.


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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Eternityroad » 27 May 2019, 01:59

I don't think so. He knows there is no gold to mine in my fields. When we go out to dinner we always go "dutch" at his insistence. I treated him to dinner for his birthday and he did the same to me. He has never asked me for money and as we are not living together we never talk about finances, But I totally get your concern. It was my concern at the beginning also. We're a year in and I have never once seen an indication that there were any ulterior motives.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby erti » 27 May 2019, 02:03

I guess you've found a rare one. :)
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Eternityroad » 27 May 2019, 02:06

Yep, I am so lucky. In fact he buys me more things than I buy him! Practical little things like a loofa brush, a new razor that shaves better than the one I had, peanut butter cups (lol), cookies that I like. Sweet!
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby erti » 27 May 2019, 02:11

Hope it continues and it just be some sort of honeymoon phase.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Derek0017s » 27 May 2019, 09:33

Age gap relationship is very interesting when you're with the right person.... At 16 I was into one, he was 40. I'm more interested in guys 40 years and above, you learn a lot from then since they have a lot of experiences when it comes to different aspects in life.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Derek0017s » 27 May 2019, 09:38

Eternityroad wrote:I am 70, my partner is 23! We have been dating five months and are committed to an exclusive relationship. This is the first relationship for both of us. Most of the time we go out for meals it is "dutch", at his insistence. Occasionally one of us will treat the other. He is busy with career and outside interests so at this time we see each other 3-4 times a week with a sleep-over night included. He found my profile on a gay dating site and got in touch with me. I hadn't been active in two years. We mesh so well that I am amazed at how lucky I have been to have found him.

How I met mine I still can't tell, it was a random match.... I currently have one now who haven't been online in two years too. He came back online Three days ago, I'm hoping for the best.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Jryski » 27 May 2019, 22:01

The guy I lost my virginity to was 31 when I was 19. The age gap was an issue for him dating wise but nsa he was cool with. The dude acted like a child and was super difficult. He was a cool guy I guess but all that partying is a bit much and bringing up the age gap didn't even make sense at that point. First guy I dated and the only guy I've ever dated was 31 and I was 20. We were together for like 3 years. It was the other way around. I was almost like a sugardaddy for some reason. He wasn't using me though and it was a great relationship. I just wished he was more mature and less bratty. I don't have a thingg for older guys and am attracted to twinks that look close to my age but I apparently only attract older guys so those two just kinda happened. Lol I also don't sleep around so that basically cuts me off from like the majority of the gay population.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby shyseed » 16 June 2019, 18:04

it gets you thinking but i come to the conclusion as long as he or she is legal age i see no problem i dont want to get into if he or she is taking advantage of the other that is not my place
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby stuartmc » 21 June 2019, 19:44

I also like older more mature men, but they should be athletic, in shape, preferably bigger than me

My experience is that many of them do like an experience with a younger guy like me (21 now) but not long term, it's usually only for the sex and experience for them. Talking about guys between 5 and 10 years older, say 25-30 years old
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Bli6485 » 28 June 2019, 09:48

Im 24 and ive tried dating older a few times. I find older men attractive but all the ones i dated loved spoiling me and paying for everything and i hate that shit. I just want to be treated like an adult in a relationship.
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Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Bli6485 » 28 June 2019, 09:48

Im 24 and ive tried dating older a few times. I find older men attractive but all the ones i dated loved spoiling me and paying for everything and i hate that shit. I just want to be treated like an adult in a relationship.
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