Age gap relationships

Ask questions and discuss your relationships with partners or parents, family or friends.
PostThis post was deleted by René on 27 March 2020, 18:08.
Reason: Spam

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Magic J » 27 March 2020, 17:35

Hahahaha! :rofl:
Drugs and Guns for Everyone
User avatar
Magic J
 
Posts: 1160
+1s received: 841
Joined: 20 December 2012, 23:06
Location: Scotland
Country: United Kingdom (gb)

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Archaeopteryx » 14 April 2020, 00:00

For the last few months I have been in a relationship with a much younger man. I am 50 something, he is early 20s. So far it's very intense and my first gay relationship in over 20 years. I'm really into him. So far it's fantastic, no complaints at all.
Archaeopteryx
 
Posts: 5
+1s received: 2
Joined: 13 April 2020, 23:32
Country: United States (us)

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby sunsetview » 24 June 2020, 22:10

I don't think it matters of age gap as long as you two love each other. However, I have a thought: When your love one reaches 80, you will be around earlier 60s. Nevertheless you cannot over look of all those cherish moments that you two create. I just want to point out the point.
sunsetview
 
Posts: 2
Joined: 24 June 2020, 21:32
Country: United States (us)

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Ander1969 » 29 June 2020, 04:22

I'm about 15 years younger than my guy and I really don't see an issue. Physically we are very compatible. Actually his sex drive way stronger than mine. But I'm still amazed at the number of younger guys who hit on me. I've had three, nope, four hotties in their twenties who came on strong. Now, although I didn't fool around with any of them (I'm in a long term relationship), I became good friends with all of them and enjoy their company immensely.
Ander1969
 
Posts: 114
+1s received: 15
Joined: 21 May 2020, 22:16
Country: United States (us)

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby swayinginthewind » 2 July 2020, 18:03

Last year I made a very strong connection with a man who is 56. I've never been one to discriminate against anyone's age. I've been interested in guys from all ages (needless to say within legal reason). Maturity has a lot to do with it, because I've been people with a lack of it from all ages, as well.

I met this guy in KiK group chat, and he had a very minimal, but direct NSA approach within the chat. He found out I was from Florida, and created another GC with me and another member who was also from Florida. We began talking amongst us, and he was very uninterested in any beyond superficial-level conversation, but, I inquired anyways. He actually engaged pretty well in that first conversation, more than I had seen him do so within the other chat. I let him know that I wasn't interested in exchanging explicit content, and that I was just looking for real conversations, and though he was surprised, he accepted. We ended up bonding over pretty profound beliefs and ideas, and our conversations became regular. Thereafter, we opened up to each other about the things we've gone through, and shared intimate details of our past. He told me he was a widower of 3 years, had two daughters, wasn't out, and was a priest. I ended up helping him through a lot of his emotional turmoil due to his loss, and helped build him up as much as I could. He wanted to meet me, but I didn't feel like it was an appropriate time, as he still wasn't out. He even offered to take take me on a trip, cover my expenses, but I kindly denied. But, we kept in contact, until feelings developed to a point where he was depressed. So, I gave him more distance, but would check up and encourage him ever so often. Recently, he told me he had finally come out to his daughters, and that they were fully supportive of him. He's been dating around, and has his dalliances, but he says he's holding the torch for me. It has just been inconvenient timing, as I have been spread very thin this year with school and work, and now the pandemic. But, I do have so much love for that man. Such a beautiful person within and without. Such growth, and strength that I've seen him develop just within this year. By comparison of being able to experience that, his age? That's just a number, frankly.
swayinginthewind
 
Posts: 23
+1s received: 9
Joined: 30 June 2020, 22:54
Country: United States (us)

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Eos » 4 July 2020, 07:06

Yeah no it's not a number. People are very different depending on their age. And being within this kind of relationship will make the relationship very different than if the age was closer. Especially when he will be older and sensitive to sickness.
Eos
 
Posts: 151
+1s received: 62
Joined: 2 April 2019, 07:30
Country: France (fr)

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby swayinginthewind » 5 July 2020, 04:34

Eos wrote:Yeah no it's not a number. People are very different depending on their age. And being within this kind of relationship will make the relationship very different than if the age was closer. Especially when he will be older and sensitive to sickness.

Those are factors anyone going into a relationship with an age gap would/should take into account before starting it, as there are things to be considered at the start of any relationship. The same risks exist with someone of any age, close or not, as life takes unexpected turns. A partner who is healthy, closer in age (or younger) could be diagnosed with a chronic illness, suffer an accident that requires more attention and care than you thought. Whereas, it could very well happen a partner who is older is in good health for years to come. But, that is a bridge you cross as it comes, in any case, and love will move you to act accordingly. I stand by my statement.
swayinginthewind
 
Posts: 23
+1s received: 9
Joined: 30 June 2020, 22:54
Country: United States (us)

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Eos » 5 July 2020, 07:52

Yeah no that's definitely not the same risk. The older you get the stronger your diseases will be and much more likely. The older you are, the less likely you're going to fully recover as well. I'm not saying there shouldn't be a huge age gape in relationships, I'm just saying it's definitely not the same kind than "normal" ones. Can you imagine that by the time both are retired from work, one of them might be in a retirement home.
Eos
 
Posts: 151
+1s received: 62
Joined: 2 April 2019, 07:30
Country: France (fr)

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby JayR » 5 July 2020, 10:45

my current age gap with my bf is zero but the biggest one I had was 10 years (I was younger) and we both felt quite okay about it
JayR
 
Posts: 11
+1s received: 6
Joined: 29 April 2020, 01:19

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby swayinginthewind » 5 July 2020, 14:13

Eos wrote:Yeah no that's definitely not the same risk. The older you get the stronger your diseases will be and much more likely. The older you are, the less likely you're going to fully recover as well. I'm not saying there shouldn't be a huge age gape in relationships, I'm just saying it's definitely not the same kind than "normal" ones. Can you imagine that by the time both are retired from work, one of them might be in a retirement home.

So, you're saying everyone is immune to developing a debilitating disease at a younger age? You're denying that at any age, a person could be involved in a car accident could leave them paraplegic? My father is in better health in his mid-60's than my brother at 30, who has Multiple Sclerosis and was diagnosed at 18. The 56 year I mentioned in my previous comment is a nurse, and in better shape than I am at 26. You're making generalizations, about older people, their health, and even how "normal" their relationships with someone younger than them can be. Again, those are factors considered and discussed before entering the relationship, and can be addressed as they happen. A friend of mine had a boyfriend who as I referenced before, was in an accident last summer where he catapulted out of the car, landed some feet away and ended up paraplegic. He moved to Georgia to seek specialists there, and she couldn't follow. At that moment, they had to let the relationship go, but they still love each other. She goes to visit him when she can, and they've remained very close. That doesn't take away from the experiences and feelings they had before, because at least they were able to enjoy them. The dynamic is different, but the love is still there. Imagine if she lived her thinking I can't be in a relationship with anyone, because literally anything can happen. Why do you think wedding vows mention "in sickness and in health"? Because it can happen, and it does happen. I don't think it should be a reason to deny anyone love.
swayinginthewind
 
Posts: 23
+1s received: 9
Joined: 30 June 2020, 22:54
Country: United States (us)

PostThis post was deleted by René on 7 July 2020, 00:08.
Reason: Changed my mind

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Eos » 6 July 2020, 06:42

swayinginthewind wrote:
Eos wrote:Yeah no that's definitely not the same risk. The older you get the stronger your diseases will be and much more likely. The older you are, the less likely you're going to fully recover as well. I'm not saying there shouldn't be a huge age gape in relationships, I'm just saying it's definitely not the same kind than "normal" ones. Can you imagine that by the time both are retired from work, one of them might be in a retirement home.

So, you're saying everyone is immune to developing a debilitating disease at a younger age? You're denying that at any age, a person could be involved in a car accident could leave them paraplegic? My father is in better health in his mid-60's than my brother at 30, who has Multiple Sclerosis and was diagnosed at 18. The 56 year I mentioned in my previous comment is a nurse, and in better shape than I am at 26. You're making generalizations, about older people, their health, and even how "normal" their relationships with someone younger than them can be. Again, those are factors considered and discussed before entering the relationship, and can be addressed as they happen. A friend of mine had a boyfriend who as I referenced before, was in an accident last summer where he catapulted out of the car, landed some feet away and ended up paraplegic. He moved to Georgia to seek specialists there, and she couldn't follow. At that moment, they had to let the relationship go, but they still love each other. She goes to visit him when she can, and they've remained very close. That doesn't take away from the experiences and feelings they had before, because at least they were able to enjoy them. The dynamic is different, but the love is still there. Imagine if she lived her thinking I can't be in a relationship with anyone, because literally anything can happen. Why do you think wedding vows mention "in sickness and in health"? Because it can happen, and it does happen. I don't think it should be a reason to deny anyone love.



I didn't say that, your examples of life are irrelevant to me.
The sickness you said can happen when young and old. But the older you are the weaker you are, that is biologically and statistically true. Every little sickness can be a huge deal when you're old.
When you're young, you are most likely to recover without huge consequences. That is statistically true.

Of course I'm making a generalization, I'm not and will not talk about each individual in the world...

And again I didn't said that because you're old you should stay alone. I just gave my damn opinion that I wouldn't want a life with someone much older or younger than me. And I'm talking about age gap only, many old people find someone when they are old. And it is rare that they have a huge difference in age.
Eos
 
Posts: 151
+1s received: 62
Joined: 2 April 2019, 07:30
Country: France (fr)

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby swayinginthewind » 6 July 2020, 14:35

Eos wrote:
swayinginthewind wrote:
Eos wrote:Yeah no that's definitely not the same risk. The older you get the stronger your diseases will be and much more likely. The older you are, the less likely you're going to fully recover as well. I'm not saying there shouldn't be a huge age gape in relationships, I'm just saying it's definitely not the same kind than "normal" ones. Can you imagine that by the time both are retired from work, one of them might be in a retirement home.

So, you're saying everyone is immune to developing a debilitating disease at a younger age? You're denying that at any age, a person could be involved in a car accident could leave them paraplegic? My father is in better health in his mid-60's than my brother at 30, who has Multiple Sclerosis and was diagnosed at 18. The 56 year I mentioned in my previous comment is a nurse, and in better shape than I am at 26. You're making generalizations, about older people, their health, and even how "normal" their relationships with someone younger than them can be. Again, those are factors considered and discussed before entering the relationship, and can be addressed as they happen. A friend of mine had a boyfriend who as I referenced before, was in an accident last summer where he catapulted out of the car, landed some feet away and ended up paraplegic. He moved to Georgia to seek specialists there, and she couldn't follow. At that moment, they had to let the relationship go, but they still love each other. She goes to visit him when she can, and they've remained very close. That doesn't take away from the experiences and feelings they had before, because at least they were able to enjoy them. The dynamic is different, but the love is still there. Imagine if she lived her thinking I can't be in a relationship with anyone, because literally anything can happen. Why do you think wedding vows mention "in sickness and in health"? Because it can happen, and it does happen. I don't think it should be a reason to deny anyone love.



I didn't say that, your examples of life are irrelevant to me.
The sickness you said can happen when young and old. But the older you are the weaker you are, that is biologically and statistically true. Every little sickness can be a huge deal when you're old.
When you're young, you are most likely to recover without huge consequences. That is statistically true.

Of course I'm making a generalization, I'm not and will not talk about each individual in the world...

And again I didn't said that because you're old you should stay alone. I just gave my damn opinion that I wouldn't want a life with someone much older or younger than me. And I'm talking about age gap only, many old people find someone when they are old. And it is rare that they have a huge difference in age.

Well then, I'm glad we further understand and respect each other's opinion on the matter.
swayinginthewind
 
Posts: 23
+1s received: 9
Joined: 30 June 2020, 22:54
Country: United States (us)

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby rogonandi » 6 July 2020, 15:37

I’m willing to take care of my older husband when he grows old. That kind of has to do with the whole “in sickness and in health” thing that’s part of marriage.
Why are you?

Image
User avatar
rogonandi
 
Posts: 1698
+1s received: 1140
Joined: 12 May 2016, 10:02
Location: Ontario
Country: Canada (ca)

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby Eos » 6 July 2020, 16:20

I do respect your opinion, I'm sorry if I gave another impression.
Eos
 
Posts: 151
+1s received: 62
Joined: 2 April 2019, 07:30
Country: France (fr)

Re: Age gap relationships

Unread postby swayinginthewind » 6 July 2020, 17:03

Eos wrote:I do respect your opinion, I'm sorry if I gave another impression.

No foul, no harm, good sir. :keke:
swayinginthewind
 
Posts: 23
+1s received: 9
Joined: 30 June 2020, 22:54
Country: United States (us)

Previous

Recently active
Users browsing this forum: CommonCrawl [Bot], Mojeek [Bot] and 50 guests