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Allowing partner to grindr/Craigslist

Unread postby Scotgay92 » 11 August 2021, 01:18

We’ve been together a long time.. but got together badly.

He was with someone, rebound, I wasn’t out.

Couple years down the line.. we’re getting married and both madly in love with each other.. no doubt about that.

But..

I know he still checks/looks at Grindr. And has listed on Craigslist which I absolutely believe it’s when he’s horny and wouldn’t ever meet anyone.. it’s just a horny thing.

Now.. I’ve seen loads of couples online etc who are happy in open relationships etc.. I think for me it would be strange and id prob be jealous at first and I reckon he’d be the same.. but I also check other lads out AND wank/imagine being with them as well when I’m horny.

We’re very similar.. and maybe just too scared to put it to each other.

I love my partner more than the world. And I honestly think he thinks the same. We have an amazing sex life but we’re both still obviously interested in others but only on a sex way.. if that makes sense.

So I’m thinking.. is this a thing that could work for us.. keen to hear from couples that have been in the same position and how you maybe approached your partner with it.

One love ❤️
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Re: Allowing partner to grindr/Craigslist

Unread postby Scotgay92 » 11 August 2021, 01:20

I’m also saying.. for me..

I couldn’t have him being with people without me..

It would be a case of us together, with someone else.
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Re: Allowing partner to grindr/Craigslist

Unread postby Marmaduke » 11 August 2021, 09:51

Craigslist hasn’t done personal ads in years, so you’re safe on that front.

Have you spoken to him about this and his feelings? Because he might be staunchly against it and just using Grindr as a gay centric social tool.

If he is interested, I think trust is more important than monogamy. Agree a set of rules, stick to them, communicate with each other as it develops to make sure the arrangement is still what you both want.
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