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Alone again

Unread postby Sunny82 » 13 March 2019, 00:20

Hey all, am new to the forum and I just needed some advice and guidance. I met this guy on plenty of fish 2 month ago and we got talking, exchanged numbers and arranged to meet up. Problem was the distance, he’s from Exeter and I’m from Birmingham. I expressed my concerns over the distance but he stated that it was not a bother to him at all as he was happy to drive up to see me. I was so excited as was he and enjoyed messaging each other. As he is Italian, he was insecure about his verbal communication but I assured him it was fine, to me it was charming and beautiful. As he is a nurse, he could not always text back on time or call and this became a worry as distance was already an obstacle but I was understanding of his situation. Our first date went by so well, we enjoyed our time together and although we had booked separate rooms in the hotel we stayed in Birmingham he asked if he could spend the night with me, I agreed. During the initial stages of our messaging, he told me that he did not want to come up for sex but just to get to know me. So of course this was great as I’m not the type to jump into bed straight away. So that first night together we kissed, cuddled and explored each other. Next day he left and we missed each other so very much. The communication became even less frequent which made me think he did not like me I was so insecure and afraid. I addressed my concerns with him and he apologised and promised to up his game; he did briefly to be fair. He then told me that he was taking on more hours at work as he wanted to buy his flat so he could not come up to to see me anytime soon. So he invited me to come down to see him and I did 3 weeks after the first date. Now 5 weeks into our dating, he announced on Facebook that he was in a relationship with me, I was taken back as he did not consult me first. He later asked whether I considered myself to be in a relationship, I said well no as i see it as dating for now. He convinced me that I was the one for him and said it was beyond dating. I felt like he was being honest and sincere so I went along with it happily; I truly fell for this guy. Our second date at his place went by magically, I loved it. He introduced me to all his friends as his boyfriend. At night, he tried to have sex with me but I told him that this was a bit too soon and although he’s classed us as being in a relationship together I’d still want to take it slow and wait, he didn’t seem to mind but I could tell he was disappointed. As I left to return home when the weekend had ended, I was so emotional but did not show him. I was going to miss him tremendously especially as we hadn’t fixed our next date yet. That night he told me he missed me and that he was in love. The next day he told me he’d drive up at the end of the week to see me; I was so overjoyed. However as the week progressed the communication once again became dry, by the end of the week he told me that his car had broken down and that he could no longer come up to see me. I told him it was fine and that he should see to his car first. A week later after barely hearing from him and zero calls!! He told me that he found it unusual that I did not want to have sex with him. I replied that I did not want to jump straight into it and would rather have waited a few more weeks till I felt we were ready to move forwards. I explained that I felt we were distancing and needed to talk things over the phone, he promised to call after work and I waited till midnight to no response! I was so heartbroken and sad. He said earlier that he did not want to end it with me as he saw us going far. However, last Thursday night he finally called and told me it was best to end us as he was concerned about the ‘distance’ and for the fact that he was too busy to devote time to a relationship now. Not heard from him since, I’ve unfollowed him on social media but miss him so much! I get that it was just 2 months but a lot happened during that time period and I truly believe he lead me on, was he annoyed that I chose not to have sex with him? Will he ever come back to me? I feel so horribly down.
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