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Am I insecure?

Unread postby Mrblaster23 » 18 June 2020, 17:50

Hey y'all.

Okay so this is my first gay relationship and I'm learning new things all the time. A little context : I am 25 years old and still not out of the closet while my bf is 32 and has been out for 11 years.

Even in a heterosexual relationship I was never jealous when my gf commented or liked other pictures of guys because I am confident in who I am but I feel different while dating a guy.

My boyfriend likes and comments on naked pictures of guys on twitter and Instagram. I was being mature and told him it made me feel uncomfortable but he said it's just a picture and isn't like he is messaging the people or anything. It's a like on a picture and that's it. He does have a point but am I being insecure about myself because my partner is liking pictures of hot naked guys or is this actually something not normal. Am I being too dramatic and should let it go? Idk I'm just confused and don't want any drama but also it doesn't make me feel good about myself.

My bf and I have been dating for a year as of June 14th.......... why do I feel like this even after a year lol
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Re: Am I insecure?

Unread postby René » 18 June 2020, 18:49

Neither of you is wrong. Yes, you are insecure. Yes, your boyfriend liking pictures of hot naked other guys is quite normal. But that doesn't mean he couldn't be more considerate of your feelings. Either by changing his behaviour or by reassuring you... for example by telling you that those guys may be hot but he could NEVER like any of them as much as he likes you. :shrug:

He may find some of these guys more physically attractive than he finds you though, but obviously you're unlikely to be the hottest guy in the world or the hottest guy he's ever seen; it shouldn't be surprising that more attractive guys exist and that he might spot them from time to time. Would you rather he pretend you're the hottest guy in the world and no one else is worth a like? Isn't it enough that he wants to be with you?

Personally, I like being able to point out hot guys and I like that my husband does the same thing and we can appreciate them together to the extent that our tastes overlap. I think that's one of the nice things about being gay. :3 And if anything, I feel more secure knowing we're both being honest, not pretending, not bottling anything up inside.

Hope this helps! :hug:
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Re: Am I insecure?

Unread postby Mrblaster23 » 18 June 2020, 19:39

Thank you ❤️
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