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Unread postby Northern » 24 September 2022, 03:42

Hi. In my town there's a gay boy that I am attracted to. He is 18 and I am 36. He's very hot but, believe it or not, sex is not my main objective. If I had to choose between sex with him or just friendship, I'd gladly take the 2nd option. I just love his personality so much and would love to spend some time with him. I have no idea how to convince him to spend some time with me. Any ideas?
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Re: attracted to younger boy

Unread postby Marmaduke » 24 September 2022, 06:27

You think you’d be happy with just the second option, you probably wouldn’t. You’re clearly smitten, the second option is just you imagining the most likely way of getting a shot at sex.

I’m afraid I can’t offer much constructive advice around approaching him, because I don’t know the context in which you know him. Have you spoken before? I assume so, but you make it seem like he’s just some random other inhabitant of the place you live. Either way, brace yourself. As was probably the case when you were 18, younger guys in this day and age don’t tend to have much interest in keeping the company of men twice their age. Statistics aren’t on your side.
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Re: attracted to younger boy

Unread postby Northern » 24 September 2022, 15:48

Hi. What I meant to say is that, although this boy is hot, hotness is not something that is unique to him and I can find someone else to have sex with. Yes this sounds ambiguous and it's a feeling that is hard to explain but, in the case of this particular person, I'd rather go with friendship.
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Unread postby Marmaduke » 24 September 2022, 16:04

Thank you for offering no further clarity whatsoever. It was helpful.

What do you and this other man have in common? What do you talk about? How did you come to love his personality?
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Unread postby Northern » 24 September 2022, 16:35

I saw him and heard him talk at parties and yes we have spoken before but only for a couple of minutes and right now I don't think he even remembers my name LOL. I know from social media that we have some tastes in common (music, TV, comic books...).
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Re: attracted to younger boy

Unread postby Marmaduke » 24 September 2022, 17:29

And what is stopping you from engaging him in conversation about these shared interests? Perhaps even today?
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Re: attracted to younger boy

Unread postby Montaffe » 2 October 2022, 02:09

Stick with friendship and assume your age isn’t an issue for him until he gives you feedback to the contrary, which he might do fairly quickly so be prepared for that. He may make you feel younger but remember to act your age around him. If he has similar feelings for you it will be because he likes men your age. Resist turning this into a relationship thing for his sake. Remember he is inexperienced and unaware of problems the age difference between you two will create for him down the road.
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