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Be a man and save your fucking marriage you twat

Unread postby oldfriend » 24 December 2021, 21:38

This is a letter I wrote to myself a little while ago when my husband and I were growing apart and I was simultaneously trying to come to terms with what it actually means to be a man. It's titled: Be A Man And Save Your Fucking Marriage You Twat.

The letter reads:

Do you actually think anything is worth being a massive wanker to your spouse? Here's a simple fucking question: Do you want to get a divorce? Yes or no?

No. Fucking no.

That's what I thought. Now be a man and save this fucking thing before it's too late.

Yes it's a bit of a stereotype, but are you going to be a twat just to buck the trend of masculinity? And don't even try to give me that "challenge the status quo" bullshit. It's not a must. Use only when applicable.

Now.

What are you going to do about your marriage?

Step fucking 1: Criticism off. Don't even try to justify it. Just stop. He doesn't like it and I don't know many people who do. Systemic criticism is bad, specific feedback is good. Again though, only when applicable!

Step fucking 2: Don't fuck it up. If you find yourself thinking "fuck it I give up". Click your fingers and snap that thought out of existence. You don't get many shots at a relationship this good.

Step fucking 3: Cut the pity. No one likes a whiner and no one likes an excuse. Bad behaviour is not justified by the past. We're done with that.

Step fucking 4: Forgive yourself for all the bad shit. It's not helping either. Punishing yourself is a great way to punish those around you. Don't do it.

Step fucking 5: Blame will get you no where. You don't need to be a goddamn prodigy to realize that.

Step fucking 6: Go love that man. Now. Now! Fuck.

End of letter.

It hasn't been a long time, but things are improving. There is hope.
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Unread postby René » 25 December 2021, 14:21

:hug: :thumbsup: :heart:

Thanks for sharing!
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Re: Be a man and save your fucking marriage you twat

Unread postby Eryx » 26 December 2021, 00:26

Seems very personal, I wasn't able to capture the underlying issue. But it's always good to let it out, I've been trying it myself. Why don't you try a diary? It's more personal and you truly need to have this conversation with yourself above others.
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Unread postby René » 26 December 2021, 00:39

Eryx wrote:Seems very personal, I wasn't able to capture the underlying issue. But it's always good to let it out, I've been trying it myself. Why don't you try a diary? It's more personal and you truly need to have this conversation with yourself above others.

I thought the broad strokes were pretty clear, and sometimes people just feel like sharing — especially anonymously. I think this is very valuable, especially since there may be others who could do with being jolted in similar ways.
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Unread postby Eryx » 26 December 2021, 05:06

I don't see how or where I said otherwise.
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Unread postby PopTart » 26 December 2021, 10:59

Misunderstandings aside (you both say the same thing) I too found it difficult to get the details. Maybe if Oldfriend wanted to expand on the matter in detail he would have and this is what he felt comfortable with. The diary idea is a great suggestion and getting things out in some way, any way, can also be very valuable, I guess :shifty: :lol:

I hope things worked out Oldfriend.
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