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Crush on bartender

Unread postby BlueBoy19 » 20 January 2019, 02:58

Hello,

I sat at a bar in a restaurant and the bartender is the cutest guy. Not only is he good-looking, but his personality is just so nice. I figured for sure that he's straight, but later found out he's not. I've been very casual and chatted just a tiny bit over two or three visits. Now I am thinking of leaving my phone number on a sticky-note and putting it on my cash tip. I am so new to all of this (completely closeted). Looking for advice from anyone who's been there. Thanks in advance!
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby Vertical » 20 January 2019, 19:03

Let’s imagine that you are a good-looking bartender with a nice personality. What do you prefer, a large number of clumsy customers who leave their phone numbers on sticky notes and watch you full of expectation whenever they have a seat at the bar, or a large number of customers who can communicate without sticky notes? I would ask advice from your sweet bartender, informing him that you are a novice without any experience, “What is the best way of communicating that I am interested in a person, especially if it is someone like a bartender at work? Are there better ways than using sticky notes?”
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby BlueBoy19 » 20 January 2019, 20:36

Thanks, Vertical. That's a good perspective and I appreciate your feedback.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby BlackBoi666 » 21 January 2019, 05:50

I thought the sticky note thing was a good idea. Reel in that boy-pussy and dick. :heart: :3
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby Eryx » 21 January 2019, 20:14

Vertical wrote:Let’s imagine that you are a good-looking bartender with a nice personality. What do you prefer, a large number of clumsy customers who leave their phone numbers on sticky notes and watch you full of expectation whenever they have a seat at the bar, or a large number of customers who can communicate without sticky notes? I would ask advice from your sweet bartender, informing him that you are a novice without any experience, “What is the best way of communicating that I am interested in a person, especially if it is someone like a bartender at work? Are there better ways than using sticky notes?”
This is valuable advice.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby Brasileiro » 21 January 2019, 20:36

Keep in mind it is his job to be nice to you and all other costumers. I would observe how he treats others before you fall for it.
Also, try to find out what he does when he is off and try to bump into him outside the bar setting. That is when you see the real him.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby RJD » 21 January 2019, 22:22

Brasileiro wrote:Keep in mind it is his job to be nice to you and all other costumers. I would observe how he treats others before you fall for it.
Also, try to find out what he does when he is off and try to bump into him outside the bar setting. That is when you see the real him.



^^^Definitely do that. I did a little bartending in the past, I flirted with everyone. Great tips come from stroked egos! See if he makes effort to chat with you when you obviously don't need a drink or refill, and then I'd go with Vertical's advice. I don't know how many times I "lost" post its when people asked why I didn't call.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby BlueBoy19 » 24 January 2019, 01:28

Thank you all for your thoughts and feedback. I am also now thinking of writing a "love letter" to my crush -- instead of just leaving a phone number. It wouldn't be very long, but just to the point. Something like, "Dear XXXXXXX, you are beautiful on the outside and my sense is that you are beautiful on the inside as well. I would love to get to know the person behind the bartender. If you would like to get a coffee or a drink when you're off duty, that would be great. But if not, no worries. Sincerely, XXXXX" Is this too forward?
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby Eryx » 24 January 2019, 03:01

I still think talking is your best bet. This does seem too forward. I'd hesitate if it were sent to me.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby BlueBoy19 » 24 January 2019, 03:30

Thank you, Eryx! Yeah, on second thought, such a note does seem a bit too much. I'll try just talking to him.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby BlueBoy19 » 24 January 2019, 23:18

How about buying him a shot? Would that be weird?
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby Eryx » 25 January 2019, 09:19

I mean, he's working...
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby mxguy01 » 26 January 2019, 23:47

I'd assume first that it's his job to be nice to customers, he's a good bartender that knows part of his income is derived from being nice.

Then at the very minimum there are steps before giving him your number scribbled on the tab below the tip.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby PopTart » 27 January 2019, 13:22

Eryx wrote:I mean, he's working...

People buy bar staff drinks here all the time. They often have no problem taking people up on the offer, not always, but often :P
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby Brasileiro » 27 January 2019, 15:17

PopTart wrote:People buy bar staff drinks here all the time. They often have no problem taking people up on the offer, not always, but often :P

And they often have their own special bottle with some liquor label but contains alcohol free stuff or water. Or they take one sip and throw the rest away if you are not looking. If not, they have poor workstandards.
It is wasting your money.
Also very weak pick up tactic for someone who works with drinks. Like buying candy for someone at the counter of a candystore...
It does not have the same meaning or impact as it will have for another client.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby Stardust » 27 January 2019, 15:18

Brasileiro wrote:
PopTart wrote:People buy bar staff drinks here all the time. They often have no problem taking people up on the offer, not always, but often :P

And they often have their own special bottle with some liquor label but contains alcohol free stuff or water. Or they take one sip and throw the rest away if you are not looking. If not, they have poor workstandards.
It is wasting your money.
Also very weak pick up tactic for someone who works with drinks. Like buying candy for someone at the counter of a candystore...
It does not have the same meaning or impact as it will have for another client.


If I worked at the candy store, I'd love for someone to buy me candy!
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby PopTart » 27 January 2019, 15:40

Brasileiro wrote:
PopTart wrote:People buy bar staff drinks here all the time. They often have no problem taking people up on the offer, not always, but often :P

And they often have their own special bottle with some liquor label but contains alcohol free stuff or water. Or they take one sip and throw the rest away if you are not looking. If not, they have poor workstandards.
It is wasting your money.
Also very weak pick up tactic for someone who works with drinks. Like buying candy for someone at the counter of a candystore...
It does not have the same meaning or impact as it will have for another client.

Well, ymmv, in the bars and clubs I've been to, they pour the drinks from the same bottle and drink it there and then and not everyone who buys a drink for someone, is doing so as a pick up line, I've been in a bar with a partner or friend, talking with the staff (because you know, friendly people do that) and offer them a drink aswell, some say no, while others are easy going people who are happy to enjoy themselves while they work. ;)
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 27 January 2019, 16:38

Why don’t you try interpretive dance? Or better yet club him in the back of the head and then drag him by the foot to your cave.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby PopTart » 27 January 2019, 16:42

poolerboy0077 wrote:Why don’t you try interpretive dance? Or better yet club him in the back of the head and then drag him by the foot to your cave.

Why put all your eggs in one basket, I say go for both! The club in the back of the head, could be the finishing touch on the dance.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 27 January 2019, 16:50

Also, this goes here...

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