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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby mxguy01 » 7 March 2019, 17:05

acpro wrote:...suggest getting on Tinder, bumble, or even Grindr and try to meet some new people! ...


But he shouldn't give up on his bar approach as he talked to and asked a guy out. Just that he move onto someone else after getting turned down is the key there.

As it was said, "plenty of fish in the sea". Just move on to looking beyond this one guy. You made some great progress: You came out. You asked a guy out for a date. Time for the next step... That next step might be tomorrow or two weeks from now. No hurry either.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby BlueBoy19 » 8 March 2019, 02:12

Eryx wrote:I tend to agree with Alex, he isn't really as special as your head makes you think he is. But I'm not saying that to invalidate how important he was to you when it comes to facing your true feelings and identity. It won't hurt to try. But I'm concerned you'll take it too badly if he doesn't reciprocate. Just be aware that there are other fish and that it's highly likely you'll feel the same way about someone else in the future, or even more infatuated than you are right now.

Let us know how things go.


Thank you, Eryx. I'll definitely let you all know how things go.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby BlueBoy19 » 8 March 2019, 02:14

mxguy01 wrote:
acpro wrote:...suggest getting on Tinder, bumble, or even Grindr and try to meet some new people! ...


But he shouldn't give up on his bar approach as he talked to and asked a guy out. Just that he move onto someone else after getting turned down is the key there.

As it was said, "plenty of fish in the sea". Just move on to looking beyond this one guy. You made some great progress: You came out. You asked a guy out for a date. Time for the next step... That next step might be tomorrow or two weeks from now. No hurry either.


Thank you, mxguy01. I do feel good for making progress. And yes, it's good to remember that there's no hurry.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby BlueBoy19 » 8 March 2019, 18:28

I am so kicking myself. Oh why didn't I stay more chill? I'm wishing now that I hadn't made any "moves" to try to ask him out.

I am thinking that I should have just remained "friendly". Try to become "friends" with this guy. And then enjoy being "just friends". And IF it should develop to something more, than that's just a bonus.

I feel like I screwed it up and now I've scared him off. Or if I stay cool, maybe we could be friends? I don't know.

Thanks for letting me vent!
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby Brasileiro » 9 March 2019, 11:48

There is no screwing up. You can lean from every situation. There is no handbook, there are no exames.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby BlueBoy19 » 13 March 2019, 00:11

Brasileiro wrote:There is no screwing up. You can lean from every situation. There is no handbook, there are no exames.


Thank you, Brasileiro.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby BlueBoy19 » 14 March 2019, 22:20

Update: The worst is over. I am no longer obsessed and prone to random crying fits and terrible aches of the heart and body.

This happened once before. A "recess" of sorts. It happened the first time after not seeing my crush for about three weeks. It's been about two weeks now since my last sighting.

I guess I am glad for the break. But I also kind of miss that more dynamic feeling of really being alive -- with all its incredible highs and lows. No, I don't miss it. It was too hard to endure.

Anyway, I have pulled over to the side of the road. Not sure if I'm going to get back on that highway or not!

Thank you to everyone for helping me navigate this uncharted course.
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Re: Crush on bartender

Unread postby BlueBoy19 » 14 March 2019, 23:50

Oh, wait. Feelings are coming back....damn it! :cry:
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