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Date a Guy with HIV+

Unread postby Reannd123 » 6 August 2018, 04:22

I met this one guy from one of application, we live far away from each other, but we did a good communication, yesterday he confessed to me that he was Hiv+ since 2014, he took a pill which he said help him to suppressed Hiv. When i heard that i was shock and sad, but i really appreciate his honesty and show commitment to me. He said to me to not worry of getting infected because he used that pill and everything seems fine, he even convinced me to go to his HIV doctor to understand that. So i wanna ask you guys about this thing, because i am quite unaware about Hiv medication, is it safe to have sex with Hiv+ with a good medication? We do really like each other should i give myself and him chance to date? Thanks guys for your time.
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Re: Date a Guy with HIV+

Unread postby maesq » 6 August 2018, 05:25

That's good that he tell you everything at first place. He showed his commitment, courage and honesty when he asked you if you want to see his HIV Doctor.

I should say you should really give him a chance and take precaution.

I'm jealous of your situation right now :(
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Re: Date a Guy with HIV+

Unread postby toodles » 6 August 2018, 06:25

so sweet him being so honest bless him must be super difficult for him

you should definitely give him a chance and whatnot but I feel like you should read around the subject first - I doubt any medication and form of contraception will 100% protect you. maybe speaking to his doctor could be wise!!

best of luck x
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Re: Date a Guy with HIV+

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 6 August 2018, 09:26

Well, you should give him the chance to date or become your boyfriend, I don't see a problem in this. The sexual issue needs some precaution, of course. It sounds as if your guy is aware of that and he would walk beside you with the care that may require.

Experts say, the PrEP medication would be practically secure you against any HIV infection possibilities, so maybe check that with his doctor, too. He should be informed on this. Although I'm not certain, if 'practically' is the same as 100% protection. Maybe this link's got some information on PrEP:
https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/basics/prep.html

Have a good time there, you two. :)
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Re: Date a Guy with HIV+

Unread postby Brenden » 6 August 2018, 10:17

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Re: Date a Guy with HIV+

Unread postby math2018 » 7 August 2018, 10:58

It is safe if he is undetectable. For more security you could take the prep. Talking with his doc is also a great idea
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Re: Date a Guy with HIV+

Unread postby Into_anon » 8 August 2018, 18:20



Thank you Brendan for posting this article. It seems we in the US are sadly behind on HIV awareness and couples who choose to have condomless sex. Yes, boys and girls... the HIV transmission rate among serio-different partners who have condomless sex is... (wait for it...) ZERO. 1156 couples, both hetero and homo sexual partners participated in this study for 2 years (I about lost it when I saw how much more sex homo sexual couples were having compared to hetero...) and the HIV transmission rate came down to zero. Nada. I'm not suggesting everyone run out, burn their condoms and have mass bacchanal (although it does sound fun) but the hysteria we have in this country surrounding HIV needs to stop. We treat poz people in the US like lepers and it's antiquated behavior. Educate yourself and make a choice. The material is out there just waiting to be read.
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Re: Date a Guy with HIV+

Unread postby Brenden » 9 August 2018, 08:29

Into_anon wrote:

Thank you Brendan for posting this article. It seems we in the US are sadly behind on HIV awareness and couples who choose to have condomless sex. Yes, boys and girls... the HIV transmission rate among serio-different partners who have condomless sex is... (wait for it...) ZERO. 1156 couples, both hetero and homo sexual partners participated in this study for 2 years (I about lost it when I saw how much more sex homo sexual couples were having compared to hetero...) and the HIV transmission rate came down to zero. Nada. I'm not suggesting everyone run out, burn their condoms and have mass bacchanal (although it does sound fun) but the hysteria we have in this country surrounding HIV needs to stop. We treat poz people in the US like lepers and it's antiquated behavior. Educate yourself and make a choice. The material is out there just waiting to be read.

A key point though is that these are HIV+ people who are taking antiretroviral medications with undetectable viral loads.
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