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Do I still like my friend romantically or not?

Unread postby dynamicdoggo » 22 January 2020, 23:50

So, if you've been following me around: I liked my best friend, told him, he hated me for month, we eventually become chill but I still have feelings for him for around 2-3 months. Now, I just feel like I don't? But I overthink a lot and my brain says yes, no, yes, no, yes, no, I don't know.

This stage: We eventually become chill but I still have feelings for him for around 2-3 months.
So during this stage, he eventually starts talking to me again and it feels good, we're friends again. But, I still have feelings for him. I used to daydream about him a lot and we'd constantly be talking and honestly, I just fancied the fuck out of him. There were a few times I really got sad wishing it could be different. I'd also get jealous if hung out with other people and in a way, I would try and have as much physical contact with him as possible.

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Now. Sometimes, now and again, I do still think about me and him, but I don't dwell on it and the thoughts that come after are like 'Ain't gonna happen' and I'm fine. I don't get jealous over who he hangs out with/new friends etc. However, I'm still sexually attracted to him a lot. I pretty much get instant boners whenever I see his face lmao. I think its just sexual attraction now but I don't know if I'm still in denial about romantic feelings or not. My brain is a mush with these things tbh. I think I also need to get rid of these sexual feelings too tbh.
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Re: Do I still like my friend romantically or not?

Unread postby emanticipation » 23 January 2020, 01:11

He's had a negative reaction already.
Question is though. What have you done to sway him?

Did you court him?

Or you just see him as a one time bang?

Probably not a good idea to pursue this. But it's okay to be honest. Tell him you're aroused with him and discuss how you can both handle the situation.
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Re: Do I still like my friend romantically or not?

Unread postby René » 23 January 2020, 07:17

Aww. I would probably just try to get as much enjoyment out of seeing / interacting with him as possible, without saying or doing anything inappropriate.
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Re: Do I still like my friend romantically or not?

Unread postby Eryx » 23 January 2020, 16:49

The fact that you think "Ain't gonna happen" right after you think about him means you're already healing. My guess is that it's going to get easier with time. Just be patient and realistic.
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Re: Do I still like my friend romantically or not?

Unread postby Frigid » 23 January 2020, 18:50

emanticipation wrote:He's had a negative reaction already.
Question is though. What have you done to sway him?

Did you court him?

Or you just see him as a one time bang?

Probably not a good idea to pursue this. But it's okay to be honest. Tell him you're aroused with him and discuss how you can both handle the situation.

What’s this weird predatory shit?

Sounds like you’re naturally moving on. I think the sexual attraction will probably persist in some forms, which in some respects is easier to deal with than emotional.
What's sex?
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Re: Do I still like my friend romantically or not?

Unread postby dynamicdoggo » 24 January 2020, 22:26

Yeah, like it feels nice. Like, I don't really want a relationship at all. Just maybe a fuck lmao
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Re: Do I still like my friend romantically or not?

Unread postby emanticipation » 27 January 2020, 18:05

Frigid wrote:
emanticipation wrote:He's had a negative reaction already.
Question is though. What have you done to sway him?

Did you court him?

Or you just see him as a one time bang?

Probably not a good idea to pursue this. But it's okay to be honest. Tell him you're aroused with him and discuss how you can both handle the situation.

What’s this weird predatory shit?

Sounds like you’re naturally moving on. I think the sexual attraction will probably persist in some forms, which in some respects is easier to deal with than emotional.

I was just asking if he thinks of a longer relationship or if it's just sexual BEFORE the negative reaction.

I did say it's not an a good idea to pursue if his friend doesn't like it.

But honesty is still a good thing. He's going to have feelings either way, the friend already knows. Being honest with each other can help them find a better understanding of their relationship as friends or otherwise.

Nothing predatory with that.
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Re: Do I still like my friend romantically or not?

Unread postby dynamicdoggo » 2 February 2020, 18:32

I was just asking if he thinks of a longer relationship or if it's just sexual BEFORE the negative reaction.

I did say it's not an a good idea to pursue if his friend doesn't like it.

But honesty is still a good thing. He's going to have feelings either way, the friend already knows. Being honest with each other can help them find a better understanding of their relationship as friends or otherwise.

Nothing predatory with that.


It was both. But now, it's just sexual attraction (and even that I find fading away).
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Re: Do I still like my friend romantically or not?

Unread postby Eryx » 3 February 2020, 00:10

Happy for you, man! :)
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Re: Do I still like my friend romantically or not?

Unread postby emanticipation » 6 February 2020, 16:53

dynamicdoggo wrote:
I was just asking if he thinks of a longer relationship or if it's just sexual BEFORE the negative reaction.

I did say it's not an a good idea to pursue if his friend doesn't like it.

But honesty is still a good thing. He's going to have feelings either way, the friend already knows. Being honest with each other can help them find a better understanding of their relationship as friends or otherwise.

Nothing predatory with that.


It was both. But now, it's just sexual attraction (and even that I find fading away).


Good for you. There's going to be someone out there for you.
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Re: Do I still like my friend romantically or not?

Unread postby dynamicdoggo » 17 February 2020, 02:05

emanticipation wrote:
dynamicdoggo wrote:
Good for you. There's going to be someone out there for you.


Yeah. It's just gay dating is haaaarrrd. I honestly don't know if I am being too picky or not. It is so confusing. I wish I was bi.
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Re: Do I still like my friend romantically or not?

Unread postby dynamicdoggo » 18 March 2020, 17:11

Hmm..not sure why but feel like the sexual attraction has come back? I've been wanking to him a lot lately which is weird and I need to stop (I don't know how). But, the emotional feelings haven't returned.
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