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Does he have a crush on me too?

Unread postby Millhouse » 29 July 2019, 01:37

Basically this guy from my university I’ve started to crush on, at the start when I knew him he was straight but I felt some gay vibes lol, anyway he kissed a fella in the club and that kinda confirmed it, so recently we’ve been getting close but I’ve no idea if he’s flirting because I’m so clueless.

I had my birthday party recently and he came and bought me cupcakes which was cute, then that night we just talked shit. We were always together shoulder to shoulder touching and I had my legs on top of his and when I tried to move them he gripped them back which was KINDA cute guys! But aye what y’all thinking is he flirting or what’s the deal? He also comes off with some weird shite like saying if he could travel back in time he’d go only go with me etc
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Unread postby Iamjava » 29 July 2019, 02:05

...duh.
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Unread postby Eryx » 29 July 2019, 02:07

Millhouse wrote:he gripped them back
I mean, do you really any confirmation after that?
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Unread postby Iamjava » 29 July 2019, 02:26

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Unread postby Eryx » 29 July 2019, 03:32

Maybe that's a lesson
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Re: Does he have a crush on me too?

Unread postby Jryski » 29 July 2019, 03:43

Millhouse wrote:Basically this guy from my university I’ve started to crush on, at the start when I knew him he was straight but I felt some gay vibes lol, anyway he kissed a fella in the club and that kinda confirmed it, so recently we’ve been getting close but I’ve no idea if he’s flirting because I’m so clueless.

I had my birthday party recently and he came and bought me cupcakes which was cute, then that night we just talked shit. We were always together shoulder to shoulder touching and I had my legs on top of his and when I tried to move them he gripped them back which was KINDA cute guys! But aye what y’all thinking is he flirting or what’s the deal? He also comes off with some weird shite like saying if he could travel back in time he’d go only go with me etc

Okay that's hella cute! He obviously likes you but I don't get the travel back in time comment. Is he not available?
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Re: Does he have a crush on me too?

Unread postby Millhouse » 29 July 2019, 12:55

He’s very confusing and hard to read sometimes. He isn’t fully out of the closet yet, his journey is only beginnng so I don’t want to fuck that up. I guess from your guys feedback he does kinda have some feelings for me. At times he does seem so uninterested which I don’t get.
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Unread postby Eryx » 29 July 2019, 14:29

Probably trying to keep himself from getting hurt...
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Unread postby Iamjava » 29 July 2019, 15:39

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Re: Does he have a crush on me too?

Unread postby Millhouse » 29 July 2019, 16:07

It’s not as easy as you think.
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Unread postby Iamjava » 29 July 2019, 16:45

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Re: Does he have a crush on me too?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 29 July 2019, 19:47

Eryx wrote:Probably trying to keep himself from getting hurt...


One of many possibilities but definitely high on the probability scale.

Add to that, maybe this is his way of slowly approaching dealing with his sexuality.

I do know one thing, if I was interested in the guy I'd certainly be working on a plan forward. Since he pulled your legs back up I would have used that as a sign it would be cool to snuggle up a bit closer. But sooner or latter comes when you need to outright say that you have feelings for him and wonder if they may be the same. If you need to throw out the safety line for yourself you can just add that you found some of that as confused signals that he may be interested in you.

If nothing else, spend lots of time with him.
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Unread postby lightnight » 29 July 2019, 20:15

I don't know... physical closeness and cutsey talk isn't necessarily a sign that someone wants you. Friends can be affectionate like that too. Or maybe they don't. Depends on the person really.

If both people are being ambiguous, one has to take a leap of faith and make their intentions clear.
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Re: Does he have a crush on me too?

Unread postby Iamjava » 29 July 2019, 20:51

lightnight wrote:If both people are being ambiguous, one has to take a leap of faith and make their intentions clear.


Yes.
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Re: Does he have a crush on me too?

Unread postby Millhouse » 30 July 2019, 02:43

I feel like he is coming to terms with his sexuality as it is only recently he’s started to become more confident which is nice to see. I get what you mean a friend could just be affectionate I have a friend just like that (hugs everyone constantly) so that could be it too.

I do obviously wish I could just say to him how I feel but it’s the chance of ruining a good friendship which I don’t want. If I’m rejected it would make things so incredibly awkward but then I think it’s eating me too much to not anything?
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Re: Does he have a crush on me too?

Unread postby Iamjava » 30 July 2019, 02:48

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Re: Does he have a crush on me too?

Unread postby Millhouse » 30 July 2019, 02:59

Hahahahaha no.3 please
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 30 July 2019, 04:38

The only thing worse than an DNF (Did Not Finish) is an DNS (Did Not Start).
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Re: Does he have a crush on me too?

Unread postby Iamjava » 30 July 2019, 10:57

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