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Does he like me? i am CONFUSED AF

Unread postby rainbowdarling5 » 26 May 2020, 17:38

Sorry if this will be very long. This will be my first post since joining.


PART I
I have this guy who was younger than me. He was sort of a
shy guy but acts like a silent arrogant type who is only loud when he is with close friends ( I am friends with a group of boys). I met him during a new year's eve party with some of the friends I knew (all boys). I had fun with my friends but he was not sort of engaging. He just looks and smile at every highlight. Fast forward to his birthday we drank and one of our friends asked me to hug him. I was pretty drunk and so i did but he closed off and avoided getting the hug. My mistake haha. He would occasionally greet me though when we meet, and would smile friendly and jokingly. One of those first moments was when someone asked me for a back massage, he asked for one, too. Then the other day, he told me that he felt better after and was able to play good at basketball, so he asked for another massage, but i declined. Then the day after, he suddenly just started ignoring me. He was not even looking at me even if I talk to our common friend group. I really did not know the whole reason behind as to why he would ignore me.

For reasons I wanted to maybe clear things up as to why he is different, I did try hanging out with our mutual friends. I go there every night only when i am not busy with work, and i find him there. Thing is, he will never sit beside me even though the bench space is wide for four people to sit. He would just grab a chair and sit there. But he would talk to me from out of the blue. I'll respond and there is the small talk. Then the cycle repeats and this went on. Finally, he talked to me again casually like before. I never opened about it because I thought it was all fine.
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Unread postby rainbowdarling5 » 26 May 2020, 17:39

Fast forward several days, I added him on Facebook but only to find out he declined the friend request. I was hurt that time. But what I did was show up to see him. I went to our friends who were at a table that time having a drink. I was sitting there at the drinking table for a several minutes and I was still, I couldn't think straight as to why he declined. I was at my worst that time, about to burst in tears but i held on and just stood up and told my friends I have to go home. On my way home, I passed by him by chance and greeted him as if he did not do anything to me. He responded casually.
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Unread postby rainbowdarling5 » 26 May 2020, 17:40

But from that moment, I went on hiatus for a month. Nobody knew the exact reason as to why I hid from them. Maybe he knew ofc. Hahaha.
After a month, I went to a small local store close to his place to buy something. I went in. As I was inside the store, I heard his voice through the other window from the store. He was buying food. I went out pretending not to hear or see him. So I went off, and I passed him by intentionally and I heard by his footsteps he turned my way. I saw through my peripheral vision he was looking at my direction. I proceeded going to our common friends' place where they were all gathered up. He showed up. He offered food to everyone, then he offered it to me last and I declined. After maybe several days, our friends asked me why i never showed up for a month. They may have not known the reason because all they mentioned to me was because they thought maybe one of our friends I am close with never showed up too, because of having a fight with one of our peers. I ignored that fact of rejection and continued hanging out with them. So, we went to being kind of friends in real life again, having very short talks. But he was kinda still the same. He kind of ignores me which is fine, but I think he was still not comfortable with me as he was still not sitting beside me on a bench and gets another chair to sit on. Cycle repeated haha.
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Unread postby rainbowdarling5 » 26 May 2020, 17:40

One time, he asked me to help him make a template for a school project. I really help anyone in school projects or anything, not to brag but I do. We had a group in messenger, and that's where he sent chat. I went on asking him and told him to send it to me, and by then he told me I am not friends with him on fb. I laughed so hard the fact that he declined my friend request before. So what i did was i PM'ed him. It was awkward chatting with him, but I showed him that way I am not a horrible person for him to avoid or dislike. He thanked me for helping him. But our cycle continued. We kinda ignore each other when in groups and still have very little talk.

Some other info:
- whenever i send a message or anything to the group chat, he will definitely be one of the quickest to see my message. He would ignore it if my other friends send it. This still happens as of this post.
- one time, I was embarrassed/mocked by one of the people from our common group chat by sending a picture of me I just uploaded. I felt insulted that time but i kept my cool. He saw the message exchange and afterwards he left the group. I was confused so I messaged him (we're still not friends), and he responded it was because of too many notifications.
-- Thing is, that group chat has always been so "loud"
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Unread postby rainbowdarling5 » 26 May 2020, 17:42

One night, I was on my way home. Much to my surprise we met along the way. I greeted him, "hey", and he slowed down. He's not looking at me. I was already dark, but his eyes were a little gleamy and he was smiling. I was looking at him, confused as to what it meant then I just stopped looking at him and passed by like nothing happened.
- he is always being mocked for not having a girl to court. He never had a girlfriend as he was shy. But lol he is so handsome that many girls want him!
- - he told us having a girlfriend is a waste of money
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Unread postby rainbowdarling5 » 26 May 2020, 18:05

One time he chatted me again and asked if I could help him make an essay about him. I sent it back and i never showed up for days. I passed on him one time during a birthday party and asked me to come. I said i will follow but i did not. He talked comfortably to me again for several days. He even greets me whenever he sees me. but afterwards, we came back to the old pattern. Im surprised he is ignoring me again. We dont talk much but he is still the same guy to first tell me to dig in when food is handed to us to eat. He never changed this since the first days we met
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Unread postby rainbowdarling5 » 26 May 2020, 18:13

The cycle continued. I was giving a back massage to one friend. He was there too and its around Christmas time. He was a little drunk and from nowhere, he asked me to give him a massage he asked me to do his arms neck back and buttocks while doing so, i noticed his feet curling up. I touched his hands and massaged his head too. He was shaky and curling up. I bet he was trying to hide it but he liked what im doing. I went to the other friend but he insisted getting another massage after. We were done and he acted like a kid as he climbed up the water tank. My other friend told me he was only doing that because he was seeking attention and that he will come down if nobody's looking. I looked up to him and caught him staring at me. Hahaha
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Unread postby rainbowdarling5 » 26 May 2020, 18:14

Fast forward to our Christmas party, i was asked to entertain our group and did sexy dance. I was the only gay person there, so I did. First I only danced to the other people., as i was performing, I noticed he stood up behind my back and started dancing too. He was kinda rubbing his body to me so I faced him and held his hands, touched his body and caressed it all the way down but i never touched his thing haha i kinda regret it
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Unread postby rainbowdarling5 » 26 May 2020, 18:15

He was drunk so i sat beside him, asking if he was okay. I rubbed his back (he does not have his shirt on) and I started massaging like before - arms hands back) then the other day, we met with the group and to my mistake I ignored him all the way through. I kinda knew he wanted me to approach him, but he was standing beside me and I never talked to him. Awk-ward!
Then suddenly we had a group talk, I gave him information about a topic, but he was talking to me like he was holding back frustration. There, our cycle again hahaha
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Unread postby rainbowdarling5 » 26 May 2020, 18:16

This one made me feel confused about him. I have a friend who he is very close with, and whose house is also close to ours. I was buying at our local store, I saw him coming out of the house, pretending not to see him. He was about to cross the street when a car passed by. I was finished buying, so i had to go. I focused on the passing car even though i knew he was looking at me. I went through a gate which leads to a long pathway to our house. There were two gates, one was steel, the other, wooden. I passed through the steel gate first, and I heard somebody's breaking footsteps and stopped walking. I knew it was him. Then I passed through the wooden gate. While trying to close it, I saw him approaching and I greeted him. He looked embarrased. He couldn't look at me but he was smiling and he slowly flashed his eyebrows to greet me back. I slowly turned my back to him and walked away, as I was so nervous but I couldn't show it. Plus, I could only walk slow as I have an injury on my foot.
- those gates were off-limits to outsiders too, so I was so surprised he used those. Besides, I knew he has always been taking a different route home, so this one, idk
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Unread postby rainbowdarling5 » 26 May 2020, 18:16

Another one: We were drinking with our friends. A topic about me giving oral sex was opened. I gave three of my friends bj hahaha! at that time he asked me for a massage. Ugh hahaha

Also: he never knew where my house is before. But when he did, he then started passing by. Haha! One time I saw him look through our window from afar, then he looked away when he saw me.

Thoughts about this guy? Thank you in advance for all the kind responses
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