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Does he like me or he is just being friendly?

Unread postby atbaqua » 20 May 2020, 00:35

So guys, I have one groupmate at the university. For the last 3 months we have been chatting for a long time. He mostly texts me to ask for a help with his assignments and exams. I do help him of course, but later on I started having feelings for him. He once told me he was talking to some girl( but as I know nothing serious happened between them). While chatting we joke and talk about random things. Sometimes he sends me some funny posts and videos, which I also do. Once I sent him the screenshot of a message I got from one guy, telling me that I was handsome and some flirty text. He(my friend) first congratulated me with this, and started making fun of it because the guy that messaged me was in his 50s and I am just 19. Then he told me that he thinks that guy is way old for me, but also suggested not to break his heart and be with him( he said all this in a joking manner). Which I think was kind of checking if I was gay or no. And I was very open about it, I told him that because of his age I will not reply to his message and age is not just a number. But even before this message, me and my friend used to send each other " I love you" messages, but of course friendly love. However, after I told him this flirty message incident, he started being very friendly with me, and using more and more emojis and sometimes sending hearts ( but not very often, sometimes I sent him hearts but he doesn't send them back and usually he calls me bro). But he is not homophobic, and he thinks it's ok to be gay ( I know it because even before we were close, he said it). Also, I have one very close female friend, but most of the people think we are in relationship, I think he also thinks like that, that's why he tries to keep some distance. Sometimes he acts really warm, by calling me his hero, brother, and sending emojis like upside down smiley, sad face, grinning face with smiling eyes and of course hearts. He also sends some sexual and funny stickers and posts. He tells me his problems in his family, and tells me when he doesn't feel good or tells me some of his secrets. But this all doesn't make me sure about him loving me, because sometimes he is really distant but sometimes, initiates long conversations.
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Re: Does he like me or he is just being friendly?

Unread postby Eryx » 20 May 2020, 00:57

I don't know where this is taking place, how close you are and/or many other things that might be important to make an actual diagnosis of the situation, but from everything you've shared, he's just a good friend.

Considering he's okay with gay guys, the next logical step would probably be to open up with him about it. That way, you'll either end up with him or aware that nothing will happen, which in turn will allow you to move on.
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Re: Does he like me or he is just being friendly?

Unread postby Frigid » 20 May 2020, 18:21

Sounds like friendship.
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