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Does he want to cheat?

Unread postby lifeonmars93 » 7 June 2019, 12:20

A few months ago I was checking my partner’s phone and found a message from a regular hook-up: Bottom line, he turned it down saying they can’t meet anymore because he’s now in a relationship (with me). When I saw the message I then asked my partner to please block this person because I don’t want my partner to feel tempted. He didn’t like the idea of blocking someone because he felt it was lack of trust on my side but eventually he “agreed” to block him. Last week I check his phone again and this contact was now unblocked on WhatsApp—no messages were sent to him by my partner though since he agreed to let me check all his old chats doing a backup as I clearly freaked out. What he’s saying is, he unblocked him because this guy didn’t do anything wrong to him and as long as they don’t meet again it’s not right for me to demand that he does block him. My question is, does this (the fact that he unblocked him) suggest that he is/was indeed considering cheating on me or should I trust him on this? Thank you!
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Re: Does he want to cheat?

Unread postby Jryski » 7 June 2019, 12:31

Theres no need to block him lol. That's like if I date someone and they try to make me delete and block all 3 guys Ive ever slept with. That would be a bit ridiculous because I am pretty close friends with 2 of them and the other one was my first. He did tell the person that he can't hook up with him anymore so theres nothing to worry about.
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Re: Does he want to cheat?

Unread postby Eryx » 7 June 2019, 15:31

I agree with Jrysky, and I would add that it's too much for you to routinely check his conversations just in order to trust him. In his place, I would feel accosted, and in your place, I think it only adds to jealousy.

He probably unblocked him because he doesn't agree with you and was just trying to please you so that the conversation could be over.
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Re: Does he want to cheat?

Unread postby Iamjava » 7 June 2019, 19:44

jealousy is ok, to a point. the question is, if you love him, why do you mistrust him? love means trust.
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Re: Does he want to cheat?

Unread postby Stroker54 » 7 June 2019, 21:26

I have to agree with the others. If you feel the need to check his messages often then your lack of trust will probably end your relationship.
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Re: Does he want to cheat?

Unread postby rogonandi » 8 June 2019, 09:15

Don’t check or snoop on your partner’s phone. It’s creepy, and it’ll only end up stressing you out even more.
People love to follow fools; they don't feel so alone then.

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