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Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby sai » 25 August 2019, 04:31

I am a hidden gay, I’m 25 years old, never had a relationship.

We communicate with him throughout the year almost every day for 2 hours (alone), during which time we got to know each other, managed to make friends. After our acquaintance, I began to feel strong feelings for him, I always want to look after him and always worry about him.

Every time, when he talks about his girls - I get upset, try to hide it, but it seems to me in my facial expression - it becomes clear.

He is neutral to gays. Not homophobic. Knowing this, I cannot open myself to him; it is impossible. No one knows about this, they may suspect ... But this is a different conversation.

We conflict at times, mainly because of my expectations, which are not met. I feel that another such quarrel will lead to the termination of friendship, because it bothers.

I realize that we will never be together. But it hurts me every time he raises the topic of sex with girls, etc. It hurts me because of this. But I don’t want to lose friendship either.

How to stop loving him? How to stop following him on social networks? How to overcome your addiction?

I love him very much.
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Re: Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby Bajkonur78 » 25 August 2019, 12:13

It is not unusual. Unfortunately, your love will not disappear for two or three years, it will probably get weaker with time (because that happens with any love, fulfilled or not), but it will occasionally hurt you inside. Usually, it is easier to fall in love with a straight friend when you do not have a non-sexual part of man to man relationship in your life (talks and knowing each other) for some reason, and suddenly you find you could have it with some person and you like it. Be careful to not ruin your friendship with your straight friend with some outburst of jealousy or doing the scenes, because it will not have any positive effect on chance to drag him onto your side and it will make you look like mentally ill person (I have been there and I wish I would be more adult in that time). :)


The ideal recipe for faster healing would be to find real boyfriend material, a guy who is attractive, who has interest in you as a person too beside sex and who is having fun to talk with you after all these nice bedroom orgies. :) Then the feeling of love to another person will disappear faster - you will still remember it, probably with some inner gratitude for the experience, but it will not hurt you anymore, because you will have something better.
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Re: Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby NvM » 25 August 2019, 13:58

put romance, at minimum companionship, a higher priority in your life.
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Re: Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby Pomstar » 28 August 2019, 15:26

To be honest...
the fastest way is u need to cut contact with him totally.
I know it is really hard to do that. But that's the fastest path. =[
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Re: Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby Derek » 28 August 2019, 15:41

See him less, maybe not at all, and remember the pain so you don't make the same mistake again.
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Re: Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby Pomstar » 28 August 2019, 15:45

yes, I agree with Derek...
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Re: Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby mxguy01 » 28 August 2019, 17:13

Imagine being in bed with him. The reality of that is that he will be repulsed by you because he's into females not males sexually. That alone SHOULD fix your need for a romantic relationship with someone who is straight.

^ I don't get this "I'm in love with a straight friend" stupid shit that always come up here. That's just exactly it. They are straight. They are not into guys and never will be. The best you will ever be is a cum dumpster. Go for that if that is what you're looking for in life. If that's not what you want, then don't go down those paths.
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Re: Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 28 August 2019, 18:03

Derek wrote:See him less, maybe not at all, and remember the pain so you don't make the same mistake again.

I thought our philosophy was always shd;swh.
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
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Re: Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby Derek » 28 August 2019, 18:34

poolerboy0077 wrote:
Derek wrote:See him less, maybe not at all, and remember the pain so you don't make the same mistake again.

I thought our philosophy was always shd;swh.

That was the teen forum. Here we acknowledge the constant psychic torment that is adulthood.
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Re: Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 29 August 2019, 00:06

Sigh. Everything is so much better when you’re around teens. Why can’t our presidential candidates be teens?
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
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Re: Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby mxguy01 » 29 August 2019, 15:31

poolerboy0077 wrote:Sigh. Everything is so much better when you’re around teens. Why can’t our presidential candidates be teens?


What the current one is not childish enough for you? LoL Let's at least make it teen twinks.
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Re: Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 30 August 2019, 16:55

mxguy01 wrote:
poolerboy0077 wrote:Sigh. Everything is so much better when you’re around teens. Why can’t our presidential candidates be teens?


What the current one is not childish enough for you? LoL Let's at least make it teen twinks.

Agreed. :awesome:
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Re: Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby mxguy01 » 30 August 2019, 20:23

poolerboy0077 wrote:
mxguy01 wrote:
poolerboy0077 wrote:Sigh. Everything is so much better when you’re around teens. Why can’t our presidential candidates be teens?


What the current one is not childish enough for you? LoL Let's at least make it teen twinks.

Agreed. :awesome:


"Twink for President" sounds so much better than "Trump for President". Damn, if only gays were a higher percentage of the population, we might actually have a chance at it.
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Re: Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 31 August 2019, 00:59

I want to redesign the red Trump hat to read “Make Justin Twink Again.”
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Re: Fell in love with a straight friend

Unread postby Jryski » 4 September 2019, 23:24

Twinks! :D
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