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Unread postby Cousin Itt » 19 February 2020, 01:30

So I meet a guy I'm interested in he is gay. We have things in common but for the life of me I don't how to flirt. I have never asked any one out before. Guy or girl. How do I flirt with someone? I don't know what to say or do.
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Re: Flirt

Unread postby Eryx » 19 February 2020, 03:35

Via message (Instagram, Messaging, Whatsapp, Facebook, whatever):
"Hey, how have you been? I think you're really cute. If you aren't interested, it's alright, but I was wondering if I could ask you for coffee/beer/Netflix/weed sometime. What do you think?"

In person:
"Hey, I was wondering if I could ask you for coffee/beer/a joint, as I've been noticing you lately. You down?"

Honestly, there's nothing else about it. There's no easy way. There is not shortcut. Figure out if he likes things to be fast or gradual, and then ask him out.

The other approach is to get to him through common interests. If you share social networks, find out what music he likes, or movies, or politics, and TV shows, and ask him, "Hey, have you read/listened to/watched/seen this? I thought you'd be interested." Then engage in conversation around the topic until you feel like you can say something like, "It's nice to talk to you, I feel like we've got a lot in common. I hope we get to do it more!" And then, at some point, just ask him out like I said at first.
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Re: Flirt

Unread postby Jzone » 19 February 2020, 06:20

Go subtle —
Laugh just a little too loud,
Stand just a little too close,
Stare just a little too long
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Or more direct —
My phone's on vibrate for you
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Re: Flirt

Unread postby Revontulet » 19 February 2020, 07:26

Jzone wrote:Or more direct —
My phone's on vibrate for you
Rufus Wainwright

I'll thank you for this one, if I ever get a certain hazel eyed guy's number.

Anyway: eyes, distance, posture, gestures, face, voice, and other things explained in-depth:
http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html
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Re: Flirt

Unread postby Cousin Itt » 23 February 2020, 05:30

I have the shittiest luck the guy I like. Alex doesn't seams to like me that way. Instead he is interested in my straight slightly bi-curious roommate. I found out Alex gave him his number. Butmy roommate is not interested him. I'm doing me best but Alex doesn't even seem to notice me.
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Re: Flirt

Unread postby Cousin Itt » 24 February 2020, 01:46

To be honest I wish I could hook up with my roommate. He his bi-curious but he will only do stuff if he's really high and drunk. And he rarely can get drunk even so. I would feel like I was would be taking advantage of him. He struggles with his sexuality and I would not won't to mess up our friendship. But at the same time he still friends with the guys he messed Around with.
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Re: Flirt

Unread postby Cousin Itt » 24 February 2020, 02:25

I don't understand people my roommate told me his best friend sucked his toe. One time and they talk to each other sexual like "I want to see your big clock and play with your balls." But if any guy comes on to him he becomes uncomfortable. Like the other night he caught looking at him and told me to stop. And covered.
I'm not even sure we are friends we spends all his time on the phone talking to other people. Or playing games like now. He would rather talk to other people then me.
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Re: Flirt

Unread postby Jryski » 24 February 2020, 15:33

I just go with, “Hey, I know I’m not the best lookin guy here but I’m the only one talking to you. Here, have a dollar.”
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Re: Flirt

Unread postby Cousin Itt » 8 March 2020, 04:55

My best friend/roommate told me he doesn't do sexual stuff with guys any more. But then goes out with a guy he knows wanted sex spends the night with the guy. Gets up set because the guy comes on to him while sharing a bed. I told him how I felt. I told him I wish I was the guy. If your curious about being with with guys then why not Be with me I'm someone you can trust. And be safe with
. That's when he said that part of him is over and that he values my friendship more any any sexual experience. That makes me feel good. But then tonight he showed me a nude pic his gf took of him . She sent them to a friend of of his. he said omg I asked whats wrong and he showed me the picture of him nude OMG! His dick is big like 9" or more. So I don't know what to think. Any more this guy is so hot and sexy
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Re: Flirt

Unread postby Cousin Itt » 8 March 2020, 05:35

And that 9" or more is soft not hard
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Re: Flirt

Unread postby René » 8 March 2020, 10:14

He showed you because he went "omg" and when you asked what had happened he didn't feel any reason not to share with you the reason for his surprise. He did not show you to get you interested in his penis or in having sex with him.
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Re: Flirt

Unread postby Cousin Itt » 8 March 2020, 17:04

Good thing is it has kill off some of some of my curiosity. I don't understand people though when that friend found out my roommate broke up with his gf. He asked the ex girlfriend if she had any nudes she would share. And she did. my roommate is up set with his ex for showing his pictures. But not up set at the friend for asking.. I told him I always wondered what he looked like it's no secret but I would never go behind his back and ask for nudes and he say he was extremely grateful knowing that I'm someone he can actually trust. So that makes me feel good. Means he actually values my friendship. He told me that I'm the only bi friend he has that has not tried to take advantage of him Sexually when he gets drunk or high. I can't he is still friends with someone like that.
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Re: Flirt

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 10 March 2020, 19:11

So might be he just looks to you as a buddy type of friend and not in any partner oriented way.
That type of friendship can be better as many of the short lived sexual adventurous may be.
Him telling off on the gay interest could be, he's fallen in love to that girl and learning how to be faithful or something. Some slight Bi people evolve to more of a straight person, when getting older or falling in love to a woman. Some said that. Can turn more toward the gay as well.

I wouldn't know how to flirt and so I'd never dare. I just go like petrified if I start to like someone and I wait. until they bring along their lady friend :lol:
People told me that women have tried to flirt to me. I never even got it, but then, women do sometimes have a weird talking mode. Maybe they thought I was a Martian, and it was their best slang debut, too. :D
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