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Found out he has a son.

Unread postby anontwink98 » 20 June 2020, 14:03

Hi everyone! My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago for stupid reasons, and I was so mad at him for that. But we were madly in love and I felt so sad when he broke up with me. I just couldn't understand why he did it, and thought maybe he was depressed and needed some space so I let him go. 2 weeks ago, we decided to meet and talk, and give it another shot. That's when he told me in the past he was married to a woman and he has a 13 years old son from her. He said he never told about this to any gay person he met, because his family and friends don't know that he is gay. And he said that was the reason he broke up with me. (I kind of knew he was trying to come up with reasons to break up with me, because his reasons were stupid.) We live in a country that is not very gay friendly so I understand him. But it hurt me how he didn't trust me enough to admit he has a kid. Instead he decided to just break up with me to hide the truth. When he finally told me the truth I told him I didn't care, and his past is not my business. I told him I still love him the same, and there's nothing wrong with him having a son, because LOL there isn't. The only problem is that I feel a little weird, because all the time I knew him I never pictured him with a woman, or a child. I really love him, and can never leave him. I just need some advice on getting used to this situation. He says maybe I can meet his son one day, and he'll tell him that I'm just a friend. I don't know if I'm ready for that just yet.
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Re: Found out he has a son.

Unread postby Frigid » 21 June 2020, 06:00

Give it time and talk about it to him.
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Re: Found out he has a son.

Unread postby Zurdoknoc » 21 June 2020, 16:42

Having a kid is a blessing. If you love him accept him the way he is. His kid comes with him. You should see that he is a caring and loving dad and he trusted you. I have 2 kids. Most of the people prices the mothers for raising kids. Very little recognize dads. He will be the same as he was before and better now that he showed he trusted you. You just be cool with it. If he decides to introduce his son, just be yoh. Don’t pretend to be another dad because that’s not your role. I think you will be fine. Just support him and enjoy!
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