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Unread postby Iamjava » 29 May 2019, 23:14

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Re: friends

Unread postby erti » 30 May 2019, 12:49

Not quite sure what you mean when you are asking for help. I too struggle making friends but that's because I don't work, don't go to school, and I don't have any interest in hobbies anymore because of mental illness.

My suggestion (i'm a hypocrite because I want more in real life friends but I show little interest in putting myself out there) is to put yourself out there. Go out sometime. Meet some people at a gay bar. Get out the house. Get into a hobby and meet up with people who show the same interest as you. You said you suffer from mental illness? Here there's a peer center where you can go to whenever and they do groups and activities for adults with mental illness and substance abuse.
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Re: friends

Unread postby Eryx » 30 May 2019, 13:07

If you're fond of your work friends, I don't see a reason why you shouldn't reach out to them and get their numbers. I can't say I know the work culture in the US but here, usually people will set up a happy hour on Friday and everyone who enjoys at least a couple beers shows up. From there on, forming friendships and getting people's numbers is a breeze. We also use WhatsApp a lot lol. Back when I was working I was in like three different groups from work and everyone loved hanging out.
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Re: friends

Unread postby Iamjava » 30 May 2019, 13:13

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Re: friends

Unread postby erti » 30 May 2019, 13:17

Eryx wrote:If you're fond of your work friends, I don't see a reason why you shouldn't reach out to them and get their numbers. I can't say I know the work culture in the US but here, usually people will set up a happy hour on Friday and everyone who enjoys at least a couple beers shows up. From there on, forming friendships and getting people's numbers is a breeze. We also use WhatsApp a lot lol. Back when I was working I was in like three different groups from work and everyone loved hanging out.


There's nothing like that here in the US... when it comes to work culture here it's a lot like high school. You may find people who you like to talk and chat with during work hours but usually don't set up a happy hour on Fridays and rarely people mix their work lives with their home lives. People get into cliques at work. When I worked in retail I made friends but rarely did I ever go out with friends from work. The managers had their own clique and depending on what department you work in the store you typically are stuck with them for most of the day. However, that doesn't guarantee you'd make friends. A lot of the times you see people talk about each other at work and typically aren't real friends. At least that's my experience with retail.
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Re: friends

Unread postby erti » 30 May 2019, 13:23

Iamjava wrote:i have a lot of those same issues; although its hard because i also live in the country where the average age is 50. :( the closest cities are 30min+ away..

sigh.. i do struggle with putting myself out there. it seems everytime i try, it blows up in my face! maybe im too honest? striking that balance would be hard..

edit: getting their numbers i face an awkward rejection. plus i worry ill do something to destroy our good work relationship. :facepalm2:


Ah. Is there anything out in the country area that you can talk to people even though most of them are older? Maybe broaden your horizons and be more open to meeting people outside your age, sex, and location.
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Unread postby Eryx » 30 May 2019, 14:39

Aw, that really sucks. Maybe organizations and gay meet groups?
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Unread postby Iamjava » 30 May 2019, 14:51

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