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Get over the fact that me and my best friend are moving away

Unread postby dynamicdoggo » 14 March 2020, 23:53

Gone to uni and honestly, I feel its not the same anymore. Went back home the other week and didn't really seem keen to meet. Thing is we still speak everyday all the time. It just kinda hurts that after not being home for nearly 4 months, he dosen't want any physical interaction at all. How can I get over the fact that we're no longer friends? I guess it was all just fake tbh.
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Re: Get over the fact that me and my best friend are moving away

Unread postby Jryski » 15 March 2020, 00:30

*hugs* maybe he has something going on with him. Whatever the case is, you tried and gave it a shot. The next one will be better :3
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Re: Get over the fact that me and my best friend are moving away

Unread postby Capt._Trips » 15 March 2020, 00:35

It's pretty common at that age for friends to grow apart. It still sucks but i think most people colleged age will agree you lose some freinds as you move into adult life.
Silver lining is as you move on with life you will find new freinds and people you have common interest with.

Just try and keep your head up. :hug:
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Re: Get over the fact that me and my best friend are moving away

Unread postby Jryski » 15 March 2020, 00:41

I grew apart from my highschool best friend. I understand that she is extremely busy with her masters at harvard but at the same time, we both have changed. We aren’t like we were back then and she’ll always be my highschool best friend but she is not longer my best friend. I’ll always love her and appreciate all memories we’ve made back then but people do grow apart and it’s just a normal part of life. Cherish those memories! :D
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Re: Get over the fact that me and my best friend are moving away

Unread postby dynamicdoggo » 15 March 2020, 02:00

It just feels shit. We speak everyday on Messages and he re-assured me we was going to meet. Then, when I'm actually home.. nothing. Its not like he said he was outright busy. I'm not sure how to explain it but its like you appear available, but then add a bunch of commitments to make the interaction seem unappealing. Or an indirect way of saying 'please don't say yes to hanging out'. So, I just said don't worry its cool and just left it at that.

I thought I had been overthinking about losing my home friends all the time but it is pretty much confirmed now which is making my anxiety so much worse. :(
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Re: Get over the fact that me and my best friend are moving away

Unread postby Jryski » 15 March 2020, 02:06

Im sorry :( he sounds like a shit friend. Fuck him and his ancestors. Dishonor! >:O
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Re: Get over the fact that me and my best friend are moving away

Unread postby PopTart » 15 March 2020, 08:06

The others are right that, perhaps this is just one of those times when two people, grow apart, and while that is both unpleasant and sad, it can also be the chance for both people to make other friends.

That being said, what are the circumstances with each of you? Is there anything that might have happened over the past 4 months that might explain his resistance to meeting up? Has he had personal things going on, that might be demanding his attention? Has he also been going to University? It may be he has met a special someone. The first few months can be abit like that.

Ask yourself if anything has changed beyond your leaving for uni, that might explain his change his behaviour.

This wont necessarily fix the problem, but it could give you an idea if what and why it's happening and that can be a comfort in itself, if it turns out it's nothing you have done wrong but, simply something else entirely beyond your control.
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Re: Get over the fact that me and my best friend are moving away

Unread postby dynamicdoggo » 15 March 2020, 15:04

Nothing. Other than the fact Ive been at uni. But even then, we still spoke everyday. But its just I don't know what to do. I just feel like never seeing him again. It sucks.
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Re: Get over the fact that me and my best friend are moving away

Unread postby PopTart » 15 March 2020, 15:49

Could it be your both being a tad difficult? It seems he has agreed to meet, but has done so with a caveat or two?

You have taken that as a lack of desire to meet, when infact, perhaps he has reasons. Hard for us to say, without knowing what the "commitments" are.

Are you sure your not reading into this, the wrong thing. If he has reassured you, everything is fine, why do you not take that at face value? What gives you cause to doubt?
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Re: Get over the fact that me and my best friend are moving away

Unread postby dynamicdoggo » 20 March 2020, 22:25

PopTart wrote:Could it be your both being a tad difficult? It seems he has agreed to meet, but has done so with a caveat or two?

You have taken that as a lack of desire to meet, when infact, perhaps he has reasons. Hard for us to say, without knowing what the "commitments" are.

Are you sure your not reading into this, the wrong thing. If he has reassured you, everything is fine, why do you not take that at face value? What gives you cause to doubt?


Just been busy he said. Idk maybe I am tbh. But I know we are definitely moving away which sucks.
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Re: Get over the fact that me and my best friend are moving away

Unread postby Frigid » Today, 10:21

kids these days
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