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He is married

Unread postby seanhex » 6 July 2022, 16:33

Hi, Hope I can get some input.

I went out with this guy a few months ago and he told me he was married with a small child. Later he wanted to visit as a friend which was fine with me, he lived across the street. I was okay with that but it lead to cuddling and hand holding. After a few visits he wanted more, which would be me performing oral on him only. I have not acted on his request yet and he at one time felt rejected.

I told him that my problem is him being married and brought up him cheating on his wife a few times but apparently he does not consider it cheating. I can say that from dating other men, he is really honest with me and we talk, laugh and have lot in common. He had two experience in his past before he got married and that is why he wants something with me.

I know in my heart that it is wrong, I even meet them on the street with his wife and kid, and felt horrible even though nothing has happened at the same time to him it does not matter. What and why am I feeling this way, attracted to him and the idea but at the same time thinking what the hell am I getting into.

I do appreciate your input, I am sure there are guys here who have experienced what I am going through.
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Re: He is married

Unread postby rogonandi » 6 July 2022, 17:17

You’re attracted to him and due to spending time with him you may have feelings for him too. However, he’s married to a woman so it’s wrong to do anything sexual because then he would be cheating no matter how he rationalizes it.

Why don’t you find someone who isn’t with a woman? Does it indulge some kind of straight-conversation fantasy you have?
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Re: He is married

Unread postby seanhex » 6 July 2022, 18:12

@rogonandi No it does not involve a straight-conversation fantasy. You are right, I am helping him cheat if I do it. On another note, he said his friend from the past, he went to visit, he too is married. He told me if it was not for his wife being there he might have renewed his fling with his guy friend but he did not. Maybe I am dealing with a pervert who has no shame or boundaries and only comes across as nice.
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Re: He is married

Unread postby FourJo » 7 July 2022, 04:48

Well, all I can say is it will only hurt more the longer you hang on.
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Re: He is married

Unread postby seanhex » 8 July 2022, 19:07

Thank you guys. I do appreciate your comments. I will stay clear.
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